Boys with long hair?

[len1234]

I just want to know why people are so against toddler boys or just boys in general having long hair?? I always thought it was cute but I've heard so many rude comments about it lately. It seems to really bother people?

[KittyFantastico]

My 6yo has long hair, its down to his shoulder blades at the minute. Every so often my hairdresser trims the ends to keep it healthy and puts a few subtle layers in it to help it grow in neatly, although he hasn't been since March so it's overdue. He's always had it long and looks odd the few times he's had it cut short, not like himself. For school we have a couple of different styles to keep it out of his way and try stop him getting headlice - gel it back and have it as a half up-half down with a knot instead of a ponytail, gelled back and in a full pony tail or knot, or no gel and pulled back into a low ponytail then all the shorter bits from the front kind of hang loose. It gets tied up for climbing group too and the rest of the time its left loose. Its not hard to keep it neat and tidy.

Only one of my four DC has short hair. Both of my girls have hair down to their lower backs.

[OrchidJewel]

I loved my son's beautiful long hair (only blonde in the house and was surfer like) till he caught the awful nits and that was the end of that

[snappycamper]

I think it mostly looks awful, but wouldn't dream of commenting unless specifically asked.

[Wincher]

My 10 year old has been growing his hair for the last 18 months or so but has just decided to get it cut short. I’m not sorry in many ways - he doesn’t really look after it properly himself and I have to condition and comb it in the bath. Plus he sucks it and it falls in his face and is usually pretty gross. It remains to be seen what sort of cut he is going to go for - he wants a “cool and fashionable” cut but I’m trying to persuade him to keep it a bit middle-class floppy! He’s very into sportswear and brands so suspect his idea of fashionable may be quite short! I’m steering him away from any style that will require gel to look good...

[Poetryinaction]

I'm not against it. I like short hair but my son wants long. His is chin length, blond and curly. He looks good.

[randolph78]

I'm not into it personally but if my son wanted it I'd let him despite not liking it myself. I think my objection stems from the fact that oftentimes girls actually tie their hair back manageable plaits, buns, pony tails. But the boys with long hair often don't and if they do it seems to largely just be a pony tail. So it's less controlled and more in the way so my objection to this is the same class as my objection to girls wearing skirts so short that every 3 minutes they are pulling it down and checking their vag is actually covered - it's ridiculous when fashion gets in the way of life and sad when people are unwittingly players in their own subjugation. If a boy had long hair in two neat and secure plaits I'd not mind - though I've yet to see that!

[SpillTheTeaa]

I'm not against it. I see boys with shoulder length hair with curls and I always think 'he's a cool kid' I don't why though! But I also notice it's always blonde children? IMO boys with very straight hair that's long does look a bit odd but I think it's just because it just sits there flat and straight. I wouldn't comment on it though because that's not my business and if they love their hair then that's all that matters.

[TimeWastingButFun]

I think long hair on boys can look lovely, just like it can on girls. Boys still look like boys with long hair. I always secretly hoped my two might grow their hair long as they have lovely thick dark brown hair, but they haven't so far (apart from longish as toddlers). They think it's 'girly' (they didn't get that from us).

[KittyFantastico]

If a boy had long hair in two neat and secure plaits I'd not mind - though I've yet to see that!

DS doesn't have his whole hair plaited but every now and again he lets me plait the two frontmost sections, viking style.

But I also notice it's always blonde children

My DC all have hair which is varying shades of brown.

[Destroyedpeople]

Oh I had this v good looking male friend who would wear his hair in two plaits and an Alice band. ...didn't look feminine at all weirdly..just handsome.

[Tillygetsit]

@RoLaren your son's hair is breathtakingly beautiful.

[longtompot]

My ds had long hair until he went to secondary school where he had to have above the collar hair. I loved his long hair, as did he, but he does prefer it shorter now (though does have a long fringe).

[coronabeer23]

I really dislike long hair on boys but I don’t care what other people do and wouldn’t comment I just like it short and neat.

[Grendalsmum]

Both mine had short hair when they were really small but once they were large enough to have a preference they wanted it long. There was a certain amount of "you-look-like-a-girl" sniping which stopped once they got bigger DS2 has waist length locks now, he sometimes plaits them to match his beard.
I don't see why people have a problem with it, it's only hair!

[SleepingStandingUp]

@RoLaren

I will cry the day my son decides to cut his beautiful hair!

What a gorgeous colour too

[SleepingStandingUp]

currently it’s he must be hot under all that hair. Funnily enough girls don’t get hot under hair just boys! Yes this. D's has hair past his shoulders and a fringe and my sister says this every summer. Erm i don't remember her giving my niece a buzz cut

[notso]

Honestly I'm not a fan of long hair on little kids full stop, it's none of my beeswax though!

[SleepingStandingUp]

I'm so undecided about getting it cut before school goes back. It's always been longish, but it's always kinda wild too. I just couldn't imagine him with a buzz cut!!

[doskant]

@Marcipex

I once referred to a 10 year old with very long hair and a pink flowered jacket (and purple trousers) as ‘she’.
HIS mother absolutely bit my head off. I couldn’t get a word in while she ranted at me. The child just looked blank.
I don’t know how I was supposed to know.

I guess if it’s obvious, it’s easier for us mugs.

How odd!

My 3yo has long ringlets halfway down his back. He wears very boyish clothes yet is still called a “beautiful girl” by strangers 9/10 times. I can honestly say it’s never bothered me. I usually just say “thanks”.

[haba]

My husband sometimes wore his in two plaits when he had it long. When he had shaved, they stuck to his face like velcro!

[Jackparlabane]

DS has straight hair in a bob just below his chin, and tucks it behind his ears. When it gets to needing to tie it back, we cut it.

He's 12 and looks like he should be in 90s Madchester band.

He rarely gets mistaken for a girl, though it does happen, except when we went to America and every single person we met assumed he was a girl, in 3 different regions. Most odd.

[AhBallix]

DS1 is 12 and has lovely shiny black hair, very similar to and slightly longer than Kylo Ren's from Star Wars. Most people comment on it and it's mostly very positive. The only negative remarks have been from his granny, who apparently used to make DP have his hair buzzed even though he hated it.

DS2 is almost 8 and his hair has gotten very long over lockdown. It had just gotten to the 'needs a trim' stage in mid March. He doesn't carry it off as well as his brother - not sure why, maybe because he has a smaller face that gets lost in all the foliage - but he's keen to keep it long and I'm happy to let him. It's at that awkward stage of getting in his eyes though.

[laudete]

I have no objections to long hair on any children - if it's reasonably clean and they agree to tie it back whenever necessary.

As for long hair getting hot... it absolutely can get hot. Both boys and girls can get their hair "thinned" out with those weird scissors that look like a cross between a comb and scissors. Ask your hairdresser to take some of the weight out and it'll be much cooler.

[1forAll74]

My son has long hair,and he is 48, he ties it back most of the time, but he is a bit unconventionable, and its like a throw back to his younger days,when he was into heavy metal music.

[earthyfire]

I couldn't care less what other's do. Personally I don't like long hair on boys, even more so when it looks unwashed but each to their own.