To think SIL should care more about her DC achieving their potential?

[LoveaBrew]

I visited my brother and SIL today and their two DC. We'd not seen each other since January, due to lockdown and us living a bit of a drive away.

I'd hoped to get to see them sooner, but somehow this was the earliest they could make time to meet us. I took my 3 DC and they had a lovely time playing in the garden together.

While I was there I noticed that my nephew (3) had made a massive leap during lockdown - he's always been a bit shy, but now he's turned into this confident mature child. His vocabulary and reasoning skills are better than my DS7, who is in the top set in his year, despite the 4 year age gap .
But it was watching my just turned 1 year old niece that left me speechless. It was like watching a 3 year old stuck in a babies body. Without telling too much, she's just learned to ride a balance bike and did a 6 piece Jigsaw with ease...

I asked SIL if they'd done much with the children during lockdown and she said something like too much TV but they tried to go for a walk once a day. I asked again about any homeschooling she'd done and she brushed off the question. I then pointed out how impressive her DC were and she just shrugged...

I have really enjoyed homeschooling during lockdown and promised to send her some of the materials we have used. I've just sent her a few links on WhatsApp and she replied: "that's very kind, honestly we're just happy if everyone is still alive at the end of the day."

I feel a bit upset, surely SIL should do her best to support her kids talents She has quite a senior job so should know how important education is?

AIBU to think she should care more about her DC achieving their potential?

@OverTheRainbow88 - a reverse is when someone posts their dilemma from the other person’s point of view, because they think they’ll get different (more favourable) responses that way.

This is bizarre

Ah ok! Thank you. So You think OP wants her sil to appreciate how advanced her own kids are?

Is this thread for real?

I dont understand people that are so obsessed with pushing their kids to their academic limits. It is stressful for you, stressful for them, eventually they get a stressful job and have their own kids and the cycle continues. Just relax and enjoy them. It's such a weird mindset.

If your niece and nephew are doing so well it seems that your "SIL" (and hey, maybe their other parent!!!) is doing something that really works. So why don't you just let 'her' get on with it? Your post was really snippy about her so I think that maybe you don't like her and are just looking for a way to have a dig?

I actually feel angry reading this. Clearly she is doing a good job of parenting. Just because she isn’t laying out a play-by-play of her day doesn’t mean she isn’t working with her kids.

Honestly. They are 3 and 1. YABVU and judgmental.