AIBU to think this is anything but proof he has cheated.

[Cornnuts]

Sorry not AIBU but posting for traffic. I was looking for some old files on my husbands laptop that I needed. I have found screenshots of text messages he received in September 2018 from two different sources one saying ‘you’re test came back negative’ and the other ‘you’re clear’ from googling the numbers one is linked to government NHS chlamydia testing, the other is free test.me which is an STD testing site. We have been married 2 years and together 10. I’ve been lying here all night going through every possible scenario that somehow this has an explanation. There isn’t anything I can think of apart from he has cheated. I don’t know what to do or think. I will talk to him today but I don’t know if I’m ready to hear what this means. I love him and thought he loved me. We are trying for a baby. I just can’t even think that he would do this. Sorry not even really a question. Suppose just looking for a hand hold and somewhere to vent.

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Well, well - I've learnt something new today. Very best of luck with everything OP 💐

Good luck with everything op

wow that's horrible. I found out my DH cheated a 2 weeks before lockdown. Still together bc I'm unemployed and he makes $$. Single biggest regret of my life is being in this relationship and letting his life take priority. I'm still youngish so I'm just trying to get a job and GTFO.

I think this will be a blessing in disguise for you.

Sorry to resurrect an old thread but this was me posting over a year ago. I wanted to come back and thank everyone for the support and advice they gave me. I came back and read over this thread every time I wobbled that I had made the wrong decision I’m leaving him and it really helped me through those times.
It’s not been easy but I did not realise how unhappy I was until I was out of my marriage, I mow recognise my husband was a massive gas-lighter and I just couldn’t see it at the time.
Someone wrote on here at the time ‘I think I’m time this will be a blessing in disguise’ and it really has been.
So 15 months later. I’m divorced, he admitted adultery in the end. I’ve moved to a new part of the country where I always wanted to live, have a new job I love and feel happy and like myself again. I’ve just started seeing someone new and he is lovely. I’m not sure why I felt the urge to post this evening but seriously the support I got on here was invaluable. Thank you 😊

I wasn't part of the original thread OP but I've read through it and I'm so glad you left him. He sounded like a horrible bastard and it's great to hear that you've moved on from him. I love it when a thread like this has a happy ending because reading through it I felt awful for you going through that. All the best for your future 😁

Fantastic update OP thank you

Great update. Well done!!

Thanks for the update @Cornnuts. It's so lovely when people come back with an update- especially with one so positive. I'm glad your vision is clearer (about your cheating, gaslighting Ex) and that your life is better. I wish you more of that in your future. 🌹

If he didn’t use the condoms ask him to provide the unopened packaging!

Just seen the update, glad your happy OP and good luck with everything.

Wow what a great update, well done you !

Fantastic news! Here's to an amazing future!