AIBU to think this is anything but proof he has cheated.

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Sorry not AIBU but posting for traffic. I was looking for some old files on my husbands laptop that I needed. I have found screenshots of text messages he received in September 2018 from two different sources one saying ‘you’re test came back negative’ and the other ‘you’re clear’ from googling the numbers one is linked to government NHS chlamydia testing, the other is free test.me which is an STD testing site. We have been married 2 years and together 10. I’ve been lying here all night going through every possible scenario that somehow this has an explanation. There isn’t anything I can think of apart from he has cheated. I don’t know what to do or think. I will talk to him today but I don’t know if I’m ready to hear what this means. I love him and thought he loved me. We are trying for a baby. I just can’t even think that he would do this. Sorry not even really a question. Suppose just looking for a hand hold and somewhere to vent.

If you can bear to, please give it a day or so to consider what you want from the conversation and what you think separation would involve so that YOU can be in charge of the conversation. I told ex the very second I found out and it put me on the back foot. Its hard though. Can you arrange a, sudden day/ night out, seeing a friend or something so you don't have to act normal around him.

So sorry OP/ do use us to vent to and gather your thoughts x

Hope you have support irl op.

I've just read your update OP. I'm so sorry. Although having more 'evidence' is possibly better as now he can't really talk his way out.

Oh OP what a complete cockwomble. Please take some time to gather your thoughts to confront him.

good luck today.

Don’t confront him yet. Perhaps feign illness (to keep out of his way) using the time to get your thoughts in order (and ducks in a row).
He will try to talk his way out of it so perhaps following him to his assignation would help you know the truth.

This is totally shit but you have been lucky to avoid having a child with this asshole as leaving would be much harder then.

If this was me I would be out of there ASAP.

So just so we’re clear - he’s gone to work and ‘forgotten my his wallet where he happened to be keeping a boots receipt....

Think everyone is agreement someone is definately been telling porkies...

Do all your thinking before you say a word, and the main thinking you should be doing is about money. Get organised and get access to anything you might need and he might be able to block you from before you say anything. Just in case.

So just so we’re clear - he’s gone to work and ‘forgotten my his wallet where he happened to be keeping a boots receipt....

What a strange presumption. My DP doesnt take his wallet to work. He takes money or just his card and leaves his wallet behind. My DF never takes his to work either, just whatever cash he needs for that day.

I’m so sorry op, doesn’t look good

Sorry to read your update do you have any rl support?

Start getting your finances in order and ready to kick him out. Why the hell do people cheat, its sickening. I hope it all works out for you OP.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. But honestly, it doesn't look good.

Who keeps a receipt for condoms?!

Don't bother confronting him, he is just going to lie. Just leave him or kick him out. You deserve better than more lies which is all you will get.

I was going to say, the screenshots might not be his, they could of automatically been saved on his camera roll, if someone else had sent via what's app.

Then I read your update

Sorry OP looks like he is a cheat