To not allow my husband to use my car to teach his son to drive?

[Bengal12]

My stepson is taking driving lessons and my husband assumed I would be OK with him using my car to supplement the teaching.
His car is automatic and mine is manual which is what my DSS is learning to drive.
I love my stepson dearly but I think he should learn in the learner vehicle with the instructor. I am not overly precious about my car (a small runaround) but I intend to keep it for the next 8-10 years as I don’t drive much and don’t want to have an awkward situation If anything goes wrong with the clutch etc. I can tell that DH is v disappointed but I even get annoyed when my husband who is not used to driving manual any more stalls it or delays changing gear and ends up revving it up too much. I’ve paid for some of my DSS’s driving lessons but I just don’t want him - or anyone else - using my car as a learner vehicle.
Thoughts?

[Boohoohoohooho]

Not read all the thread

How about a happy middle ground. Let him use your car but only after he has had a good few lessons. That way there is no reason for him to be stalling your car.

[wentawaycameback]

Agree with Boohoo. Wait until he has had quite a few lessons. We asked our daughters driving instructor to say when he thought she was ready to practice in our car. Also look at short- term insurance - you can insure a learner driver on your car for a week, four weeks etc.(Marmalade Veygo). Not letting him use your car - is unreasonable.

[Bengal12]

@Boohoohoohooho that’s a very good idea and I did propose this to DH but he is disappointed as he would want to teach our DS to drive a bit first..

[MrsClatterbuck]

I was 23 in the early eighties when I passed my test. My dad took me out once in the family car and DM never as that would not have been a good experience!!! My dsis took me out a couple of times and all the rest was with the instructor. I passed 1st time and my DM response was one of surprise not sure why as she hadn't sat in a car with me driving.
My DM told me lately that she feels safer with me driving her than my dsis who admittedly doesn't drive her very often as she lives abroad.
So apart from my driving lessons once a week I had very little practice. It is doable and my lessons cost £6 approx each.

[safariboot]

OP, have you put it to your DH that if he wants to be giving your children the chance to practice driving he can do it in his car? What has your DH said to that?

"But it's an auto and yours is a manual"? It doesn't fucking matter. If the driving instructor has a manual he'll learn clutch and gears well enough in the lessons. Or if he ends up taking the test in an auto so what? Manuals are on their way out anyway.

"But it's too big"? Bullshit. If you DH can drive it so can your son.

"But it's too expensive"? And there, if your DH says that, we will have the rub - that he's quite happy to risk someone else's property but won't risk his own.