To feel so fed up people feel sorry for me I only have boys?

[Isit2021yetplease]

Just that really - I’ve got two DS. They are amazing - and completely chalk and cheese from each other. Whether I wanted girls or not is irrelevant- the fact is I have 2 amazing boys and you get what you get!
I’ve had so many passing comments from people with things like “I’d be so dissapointed not to Have a daughter” “so you’re going for number 3 to finally get a girl?” “How did you feel when the second was a boy?”
I don’t know what they hope to gain from it - that I’ll say - yes I’m gutted I don’t have a girl? Thanks for bringing it up?
If I was hoping for a girl all they do is reenforce the disappointment, and it I wasn’t hoping for a girl I don’t see why I have to constantly justify why I’m perfectly happy with my two happy healthy children.

Just needed a rant after a conversation with a friend today (when musing on a 3rd said - oh but would it be worth the risk, what if you got another boy?)
Does anyone else get this?

[Kolo]

Yes! Really used to upset me, as if there was anything deficient about my gorgeous boys. As if I could hope to improve on them by them being girls. Obviously I love every hair on their head and I feel absolutely blessed, not lacking at all.

To get over the SMOG (didn't know there was a term for them) I used to just imagine us in Tudor times. I'd be the heir giving goddess and they'd have had their head chopped off.

[Furrydogmum]

I have two beloved sons. My mil told my 4 month old son "you should have been one of those" when my sister had a girl.
I have a colleague who has 3 sons and a "prize" makes me want to punch her when she says it!!!
I'm happy with my lot!

[Stelmariah]

Boys are more handful when young but they usually make effable teenagers. On the other hand girls are usually easier when small but turn into horrid, shrieking teenage girls.
You’ll have the last laugh, OP.

[LemonadeAndDaisyChains]

@Furrydogmum
I have two beloved sons. My mil told my 4 month old son "you should have been one of those" when my sister had a girl


Wow. Your poor son!

[Purpleorange1]

I have 3 girls and in my culture boys are favoured however in my religion girls are favoured more. When I had my 3rd a relative came to see the baby and kept saying it's such a shame it's a girl, would have been nice if it was a boy. My husband's response was well we're still 2 less than you and your sisters, I've never seen an old lady move so fast 😂😂😂
My husband has never felt disappointed with having 3 girls. He takes the girls to rugby,football and cricket matches. They go sledging in winter. Whenever he's fixing the car he takes the older 2 with him and let's the girls fix the car. We've taken them on holidays abroad, they've done a lot of things that not many boys in the family have done.
Our mindset is gender shouldn't govern what is possible and what is impossible. We always say we wouldn't do anything different if we had a son.
We as a couple are grateful for 3 healthy kids but other people have issues with us having girls.

[monotata]

@Isit2021yetplease

YES!

I have two boys and it’s FUCKING annoying. When my younger boy was barely a week old I was asked if I was disappointed

[firstimemamma]

Yanbu op - sounds bloody annoying! I've got just the one ds for now and everyone is always so shocked that I was actually pleased when I found out he was a boy. I just find it so rude and weird! I'm proud to be a mummy to a little boy and it's a dream come true to me.

[firstimemamma]

Yanbu op - sounds bloody annoying! I've got just the one ds for now and everyone is always so shocked that I was actually pleased when I found out he was a boy. I just find it so rude and weird! I'm proud to be a mummy to a little boy and it's a dream come true to me.

[firstimemamma]

Oops posted twice by mistake, sorry!

[nonevernotever]

Ya so nbu. The one and only time I have ever even thought anything like this was when someone I know had a daughter after 6 boys, and that was because all 7 were born by caesarian, after the third her scars started getting infected, she had to be taken in earlier and earlier every pregnancy in case her womb ruptured and her husband was so insanely (in my view anyway) keen on having a daughter that they kept on trying. I don't think I was the only one to be relieved when the last was a girl. Even then, none of us would ever have said anything!

[KittyHawke80]

It's a funny old world. I was an only, and very close to my mum; went to an all-girls school; had very few bloke friends. When I became pregnant I went for the ultrasound and she said 'Do you want to know?' and I was all 'Oh, I know I'm having a boy. Because I want a girl and I never get what I want.' And it was a boy and I was fine and when he was born I was thrilled. He was, and is, the best. So much so that I was crossing my fingers for another boy when I became pregnant again, and it was and I was overjoyed. So when No. 3 - another unexpected one - rolled around I wanted a third boy like you wouldn't believe. And when they said she was a girl I was disappointed, but not crushed (I'm not a psycho) but since she's been here she's been a PITA but I wouldn't change her for a billion quid. I count my blessings. Three fab kids.

[Botherfreedays]

I'll be honest. I have two DS. Always wanted a DD. Still feel as though I'm missing out...

[SomewhereEast]

I have two DSs and have genuinely never had this from anyone. I would hate it if I did though! I'm Irish, though living in England, and the mother-son relationship is traditionally The Biggie in Irish culture. So the occasional English assumption that sons can't be close to their mothers makes no sense to me.

[Notfeelinggreattoday]

Yes had this have 2 boys , we considered having a third but not fir a girl , just because we wanted another child, and if we had gone ahead i would of rather had another boy if im honest , although obviously i would of also been hapoy with a girl
But anyway we decided we couldnt afford a third anyway
But im happy woth my 2 boys and im a football : rugby loving person anyway and luckily ds are too

[Toptotoeunicolour]

I only have boys and consider myself blessed beyond measure given the 9 miscarriages I had before I had them.

[Stripeytopgirl]

I have 2 girls but have also experienced this. Mostly from older people. It’s so fucking infuriating. They don’t realise the fierce instinct you have to protect your children. Boys, girls, black, white... don’t say anything except ‘they’re perfect!’

[MrsClatterbuck]

@DidgeDoolittle

I would remind your mil that having a girl is nothing to do with you. You have 2 X chromosomes but it's your DH with the x & y ones so it's him that determines the sex.

[HavelockVetinari]

Rude and odd. I have 1 DS and if I'm ever lucky enough to have another (bustard infertility) I'd actively choose another boy on the basis that I can't imagine a more perfect bairn than DS

[overlooker]

Having lost a baby when he was very young, I’m just grateful to have children. I don’t care what variety they are. After I lost my baby, I met a lady at a support group who had lost her first and only child because her womb ruptured. She nearly died. She now can’t have any more babies unless she goes the surrogate route. People should just be grateful their kids are alive.

[user12345796]

I have 4 boys and I just used to laugh at these comments. Its actually so rude of people and such an entitled thing to say. I used to spend time with a friend with a daughter who used to constantly say oh second I bet you would love a girl..
And I never said it but I would look at my precious boys and then at her irritating little madam flouncing around and I would think, well no, I certainly wouldn't want yours.

[DarkmilkAddict]

Terrible as this is, can we not perpetuate the stereotype that girls become dreadful teenagers? I think it’s as damaging as it is false.

[Covert20]

What’s weird, is I have literally never had any of these things said to me. I’ve got a daughter now, but for 8 years, I had two boys, and no one ever said these things to me.

[achangeisasgoodas]

I have two girls and a friend of mine actually texted me with a picture of her gender scan and it's a girl across it saying 'hit the jackpot' because she had a son already and wanted one of each. Honestly lost a fair amount of respect for her that day!

[achangeisasgoodas]

I have two girls and a friend of mine actually texted me with a picture of her gender scan and it's a girl across it saying 'hit the jackpot' because she had a son already and wanted one of each. Honestly lost a fair amount of respect for her that day!

[achangeisasgoodas]

I have two girls and a friend of mine actually texted me with a picture of her gender scan and it's a girl across it saying 'hit the jackpot' because she had a son already and wanted one of each. Honestly lost a fair amount of respect for her that day!