So embarrassed by friends. AIBU to ask them to leave tomorrow morning?

[Rebecca980]

Our friends - a gay couple - who we have been close with for the last 15 years came over to stay. They have had one set of parents, a sister, her baby and their two dogs staying with them for two weeks whilst they wait to move into their new place. They needed a break so we said they could come and stay with us for a few days. They are in our ‘bubble’. We’ve both recently moved from London to the south coast close by - which was a decision we made together really.

DH and I have been friends with them for years. Before DD came along and we were married. We’ve had wild times - but we’ve all grown up....or so I thought.

They arrived with bottle of vodka in tow. It lasted them about an hour until they pulled out another and it went.

We have made friends with our neighbours since we Moved here and have made an active effort to try and integrate ourselves in our new area and street.

I am SO EMBARRASSED by their behaviour this evening. It’s like they regressed to us being 20 again.

By the time DD went to bed, they were screaming in the garden, swearing (C word at the end of almost every sentence), trying to talk to neighbours over the fences. They also love ‘shock values - which was funny when we were kids but really isn’t now and they reverted straight back to it.

I’m embarrassed our neighbours have heard them and worried how it reflects on us. I’m sure they could also hear us trying to sort them out.

I’m also annoyed at DH a little as I was trying to get them inside but was getting no support in that.

Some of the things they were shouting have left me unable to sleep and worried about how it reflects.

They have hearts of gold, and DD adores themes Bhave always been terrible drunks. I don’t actually like being drunk so maybe this has been exasperated because I wasn’t drinking....

I get they were excited as they had a much needed little break from a stressful time, but I really am thinking of asking them to go back tomorrow rather than staying any more days. AIBU? And how should I approach this with the neighbours? Just a quick sorry next time I see them?

They’ve also broken a few bits in the house by falling into them.

Both DH and I are pretty mortified. But also know they’ve been stressed and want to give them an opportunity to unwind.

[Rebecca980]

@DuckbilledSplatterPuff Thank you. This is put wonderfully xx

[StrawBeretMoose]

Ah perfect @Rebecca980 if you work in PR you will easily smooth things over with the neighbours!

[Rebecca980]

@StrawBeretMoose Good point! Get my damage limitation/crisis comms hat on!!! Ha.

[Bodgedboxdye]

As these are people you’ve known a while, I’d have a word in the morning.

Don’t beat around the bush, explain that you’re on good terms with your neighbours and you’d like to keep it that way.

You can either apologise to next door, or ask them to. (:

Also, maybe ask that they don’t drink the remainder of their stay.

[Hearhoovesthinkzebras]

Well, second lockdown coming to a town near you.

What the hell.is happening in this country? Government tanked the economy to save our arses and now half the population are running around like.theyre at some massive frat party.

[romdowa]

Honestly if it wasnt the middle of the night then I would have found them hilarious if I was your neighbour 😂😂 it would have been a bit of excitement to break the monotony of shielding and lockdown.

[Euclid]

@DamnYankee I am obeying the rules. You asked me what I am sparing myself. My husband is dead and I live alone so by obeying the rules I am unfortunately sparing myself the company of others. Two weeks ago I was able to form a bubble with my sister and her husband which is permitted to an adult living alone.
This was not permitted to OP and her husband and the friends.
Today I spoke to a very senior medical friend who told me that because of the behaviour of people in this country he is afraid that the virus will peak again. That is why I said that if the OP or her family caught the virus they had only themselves to blame. She thinks that there is one rule for them and one rule for everyone else. Unfortunately this virus is not discriminatory.

[strugglingwithdeciding]

I do think the bubble thing could be relevent also as some neighbours may not be impressed with them having people stay over when not allowed and behaviour on top
Personally if me and a one off i wouldn't mind but many would
If your that concerned apologise to your neighbours of they were disturbed

[strugglingwithdeciding]

@rebecca it was quite clear about the bubbles and has been all over the newdpapers
You made a mistake but dont blame it on the info , in this case it was clear more so than some of the other rules

[RyanBergarasTeeth]

Honestly i think people are just being hysterical here over a one off event of drunken idiocy. In bed by 10pm no worries! Just demand an apology to you and the neighbours in the morning and forget about it.

[CrumpetyTea]

They sound a bit immature but you sound overly concerned about appearing sensible and in control. Just because you've moved out of London doesn't mean you've got to become all middle-aged/suburban in attitude - I get the feeling that you are trying very hard to fit in.
Other than the neighbours being offended- were you actually offended /annoyed?

Just apologise to the neighbours-" sorry my friends were really loud and obnoxious last night - they were drunk- won't happen again..." - they probably will just say fine.

[Euclid]

Recent posters are forgetting that OP, her husband and the drunken friends broke the rules. It is a criminal offence to have somebody in your home who is not in the special bubble available to an adult living alone.
If this thread was reported to the Police they may well have the power to get MN to disclose OP's details.

[480Widdio]

@Euclid,don’t be so dramatic,I think the Police have got better things to do.

[wildone84]

@Euclid

Recent posters are forgetting that OP, her husband and the drunken friends broke the rules. It is a criminal offence to have somebody in your home who is not in the special bubble available to an adult living alone.
If this thread was reported to the Police they may well have the power to get MN to disclose OP's details.

The police can't even be bothered to come out when a person gets burgled. Don't think they'll be following up on a mums net thread to open an investigation into Rebecca's bubble. Let's get real.

[Hearhoovesthinkzebras]

[quote 480Widdio]@Euclid,don’t be so dramatic,I think the Police have got better things to do.[/quote]
Yes, like enforce a second lockdown in another city, presumably because people didn't follow the rules of the first lockdown.

[Euclid]

@480Widdio Better things to do than save lives in a pandemic or charge with a crime people who are ignoring the rules designed to save those lives????

[Durgasarrow]

yes you can ask them to leave. They were unbelievably selfish in the way they treated your reputation. with your neighbors. You can love them, but for now--no.

[Nancydrawn]

OP, I think you can address this lightheartedly. "You loons were disasters last night! You cannot terrify my nice neighbours. Next time you do that I'm going to get out my spray bottle and spritz you like a puppy!"

Gets the point across, doesn't fuss.

[EvenMoreFuriousVexation]

Assuming you all moved to Brighton, I really doubt the neighbours are going to be a problem... unless you moved to Hove, in which case you Only Have Yourselves to Blame.

If you didn't move to Brighton then yes your friends were antisocial cunts to be getting drunk and loud on a Wednesday night. The majority of people around will be working tomorrow.

[WhereILiveIsWhereIStay]

Gotta love these types 'well I thought bubble meant all my friends who i'd normally like to see because that's what I wanted to pretend it was. So stop going on about it, it wasn't my fault and it's not important'

[malificent7]

Am i the only one who dosn't really give a toss what my nieghbours think of me? Although i am a good nieghbour and try not to make loud noises.

[HannaYeah]

Just tell the neighbors you’re sorry when you see them. Most didn’t hear it. Of the ones who did some won’t know it was your guests, some are just glad it stopped and plenty don’t care anyway.

You’re friends just sound like they were cutting loose in the midst of a world crisis. Easy enough to loose it right now, drink too much and get a little crazy. I’m sure they’ll apologize when they wake up.

[HannaYeah]

I really hate the we can’t edit and correct spelling errors.

[dobbyssoc]

To be honest you should've gone over to the flats at 7:30 and apologised in person.
If I had been screamed at and called the c word then I'd be reporting you for breaching lockdown which you are doing.

[Coyoacan]

I'm in Mexico and here we have recommendations, not laws and rules. Although I do think the rules idea goes well with the English mentality in general, I much prefer being fully informed and allowed to make my own risk assessment.

Maybe if the OP were in the habit of making her own risk assessments, she would not have exposed herself and her family as well as everyone else they come in contact with to infection. It certainly sounds like very risky behaviour to me.