So embarrassed by friends. AIBU to ask them to leave tomorrow morning?

[Rebecca980]

Our friends - a gay couple - who we have been close with for the last 15 years came over to stay. They have had one set of parents, a sister, her baby and their two dogs staying with them for two weeks whilst they wait to move into their new place. They needed a break so we said they could come and stay with us for a few days. They are in our ‘bubble’. We’ve both recently moved from London to the south coast close by - which was a decision we made together really.

DH and I have been friends with them for years. Before DD came along and we were married. We’ve had wild times - but we’ve all grown up....or so I thought.

They arrived with bottle of vodka in tow. It lasted them about an hour until they pulled out another and it went.

We have made friends with our neighbours since we Moved here and have made an active effort to try and integrate ourselves in our new area and street.

I am SO EMBARRASSED by their behaviour this evening. It’s like they regressed to us being 20 again.

By the time DD went to bed, they were screaming in the garden, swearing (C word at the end of almost every sentence), trying to talk to neighbours over the fences. They also love ‘shock values - which was funny when we were kids but really isn’t now and they reverted straight back to it.

I’m embarrassed our neighbours have heard them and worried how it reflects on us. I’m sure they could also hear us trying to sort them out.

I’m also annoyed at DH a little as I was trying to get them inside but was getting no support in that.

Some of the things they were shouting have left me unable to sleep and worried about how it reflects.

They have hearts of gold, and DD adores themes Bhave always been terrible drunks. I don’t actually like being drunk so maybe this has been exasperated because I wasn’t drinking....

I get they were excited as they had a much needed little break from a stressful time, but I really am thinking of asking them to go back tomorrow rather than staying any more days. AIBU? And how should I approach this with the neighbours? Just a quick sorry next time I see them?

They’ve also broken a few bits in the house by falling into them.

Both DH and I are pretty mortified. But also know they’ve been stressed and want to give them an opportunity to unwind.

[FancyAnOlive]

If I was your neighbour I'd be unimpressed by the shouting and swearing but I'd be seriously pissed off with your having friends over to stay when you are not supposed to. The rules aren't that mysterious, OP!

[sixthtimelucky]

Sorry to be po faced, but it IS dubious to put in the first sentence of your OP that the couple are gay. I'm a bit sensitive about it as one of my kids is gay and I'd be fucked off if someone mentioned it like you did as if it..what? It explains their behaviour? Think about why you felt you had to say that.

Anyway, don't sweat it too much. It wasn't you drunk and C-wording in the garden, it was your visitors, so anyone that holds that against you for more than a day is a twat.

[Isthisreallylife]

Not that it has anything to do with this subject:
I know - because the daughter of the woman who sold her house to me - told me “how delighted ALL the neighbours were that a younger person was moving in and could AT LEAST run their errands for them - ooh! and she drives!” was the statement!

What would you think?

[Petlover9]

@Thisismytimetoshine. Totally agree with this Post OP - fake a family emergency if you have to but get rid, they are rude arseholes

[Rebecca980]

@sixthtimelucky it was to explain the Context and dynamic of the situation mainly, be being only female around etc. Nothing harmful meant of it. As mentioned in previous post, I have two gay brothers - I certainly didn’t mean it in a negative way. I should have perhaps said ‘a slightly outrageous and fabulous gay couple’

Blimey, the MN crew certainly do like to pick apart and critisise!

Anyway, this was all a few days ago now and all is fine now.

[FelicisNox]

They're your friends, they don't have the same lifestyle as you and as such they won't "move on" simply because they don't need to.

It's not ideal the way they behaved but they were drunk and over excited to see you so all that is needed is a strong word about how your lifestyle has changed now you live in suburbia and they can't go around antagonising your neighbours as you're the ones who have to live with them.

It's not ideal but neither is you thinking more of your neighbours than you do your friends.

They're adults: treat them like it and talk to them.

[Skysblue]

Your friends sound like total wankers who need to grow up.

Apologise to your neighbours and post the friends back to their home.

[Babyroobs]

They don't sound sweet just embarrassing and immature. I'd just ask them to go tomorrow.

[ToBBQorNotToBBQ]

They sound joyous. Your neighbours will get over it, don't make it a regular thing.

[EQTONYEQ]

@Rebecca980

Our friends - a gay couple - who we have been close with for the last 15 years came over to stay. They have had one set of parents, a sister, her baby and their two dogs staying with them for two weeks whilst they wait to move into their new place. They needed a break so we said they could come and stay with us for a few days. They are in our ‘bubble’. We’ve both recently moved from London to the south coast close by - which was a decision we made together really.

DH and I have been friends with them for years. Before DD came along and we were married. We’ve had wild times - but we’ve all grown up....or so I thought.

They arrived with bottle of vodka in tow. It lasted them about an hour until they pulled out another and it went.

We have made friends with our neighbours since we Moved here and have made an active effort to try and integrate ourselves in our new area and street.

I am SO EMBARRASSED by their behaviour this evening. It’s like they regressed to us being 20 again.

By the time DD went to bed, they were screaming in the garden, swearing (C word at the end of almost every sentence), trying to talk to neighbours over the fences. They also love ‘shock values - which was funny when we were kids but really isn’t now and they reverted straight back to it.

I’m embarrassed our neighbours have heard them and worried how it reflects on us. I’m sure they could also hear us trying to sort them out.

I’m also annoyed at DH a little as I was trying to get them inside but was getting no support in that.

Some of the things they were shouting have left me unable to sleep and worried about how it reflects.

They have hearts of gold, and DD adores themes Bhave always been terrible drunks. I don’t actually like being drunk so maybe this has been exasperated because I wasn’t drinking....

I get they were excited as they had a much needed little break from a stressful time, but I really am thinking of asking them to go back tomorrow rather than staying any more days. AIBU? And how should I approach this with the neighbours? Just a quick sorry next time I see them?

They’ve also broken a few bits in the house by falling into them.

Both DH and I are pretty mortified. But also know they’ve been stressed and want to give them an opportunity to unwind.

Your not being unreasonable, in the long run, you are the one who has to see your neighbors every day, so better safe than sorry.

[Localocal]

"Guys. We love you but you can't get drunk here tonight. We are trying to make a decent impression on the neighbours because DD will be at school with their kids soon. So either be chill tonight, or go somewhere else to get drunk." They don't sound like they would be that precious.

Then apologise to the neighbours and blame their shouting on too many months in lockdown.