So embarrassed by friends. AIBU to ask them to leave tomorrow morning?

[Rebecca980]

Our friends - a gay couple - who we have been close with for the last 15 years came over to stay. They have had one set of parents, a sister, her baby and their two dogs staying with them for two weeks whilst they wait to move into their new place. They needed a break so we said they could come and stay with us for a few days. They are in our ‘bubble’. We’ve both recently moved from London to the south coast close by - which was a decision we made together really.

DH and I have been friends with them for years. Before DD came along and we were married. We’ve had wild times - but we’ve all grown up....or so I thought.

They arrived with bottle of vodka in tow. It lasted them about an hour until they pulled out another and it went.

We have made friends with our neighbours since we Moved here and have made an active effort to try and integrate ourselves in our new area and street.

I am SO EMBARRASSED by their behaviour this evening. It’s like they regressed to us being 20 again.

By the time DD went to bed, they were screaming in the garden, swearing (C word at the end of almost every sentence), trying to talk to neighbours over the fences. They also love ‘shock values - which was funny when we were kids but really isn’t now and they reverted straight back to it.

I’m embarrassed our neighbours have heard them and worried how it reflects on us. I’m sure they could also hear us trying to sort them out.

I’m also annoyed at DH a little as I was trying to get them inside but was getting no support in that.

Some of the things they were shouting have left me unable to sleep and worried about how it reflects.

They have hearts of gold, and DD adores themes Bhave always been terrible drunks. I don’t actually like being drunk so maybe this has been exasperated because I wasn’t drinking....

I get they were excited as they had a much needed little break from a stressful time, but I really am thinking of asking them to go back tomorrow rather than staying any more days. AIBU? And how should I approach this with the neighbours? Just a quick sorry next time I see them?

They’ve also broken a few bits in the house by falling into them.

Both DH and I are pretty mortified. But also know they’ve been stressed and want to give them an opportunity to unwind.

Op they sound like right nobs. Maybe you've just grown apart. Can't believe they just left. How rude!

@ThickFast He sent a few text. They couldn’t remember the specifics. Once told they haven’t messaged back but are likely burying their heads in the sand.

@ThickFast Once he mentioned the specifics he hasn’t heard back from them....likely embarrassed and burying their heads in the sand.

Bubble is only allowed if one household contains a single person. Two households can stay overnight at a distance from next week.

What did they say?

The fact that they spent time clearing up the kitchen means it was not an emergency

I think in that situation, I would have frog marched them back into the house much earlier than10pm. It was totally inconsiderate for neighbours.

I'd be pissed off enough as a neighbour, the rule breaking would have been the icing on the cake. It doesn't reflect well on you, OP, so I'd be proactively apologising to the neighbours you're concerned about in person.

The comments about the rule break aren't irrelevant, if you hadn't broken the rules (that other people are adhering to despite many, many difficulties) then they wouldn't have been there to disturb your neighbours. Your concern seems to be about how your neighbours perceive you rather than actually being a nice neighbour.

A job in PR but can't interpret government guidance or treat neighbours with respect. Sounds like the perfect job.

We are never going to get out of this pandemic if people just do what the hell they want all the bloody time. It's frustrating. You've broken the law OP, it's the swearing that's irrelevant. People like you, and yes I'm judging, are spreading the virus.

Depends if they've got it

Keeping on topic of the issue....

One of the boys just knocked on the door over with his family (Who we are also friends with). He has made a flower arrangement for us and wanted to drop it off.

He can’t remember a thing and is pretty mortified.

The other one is asleep at home.

(They stayed in the front garden - all socially distanced before you all ask!! Haha)

Well, at least they realise they have done something wrong! I would not meet up at your house for a while!

I told his mum on him hahaha. Obviously light hearted.

[quote Gogogadgetarms]@Thisismytimetoshine you beat me to it!

Bravo OP, you’ve just added drink-driving to the thread that already covers homophobia, racism, cunt shouting, lockdown breaking, police reporting, child neglecting, snobbery, neighbour enraging.... please please tell me they blocked someone’s driveway with their car last night.[/quote]
You forgot single handedly being responsible for a second wave 😂

@Rebecca980

Keeping on topic of the issue....

One of the boys just knocked on the door over with his family (Who we are also friends with). He has made a flower arrangement for us and wanted to drop it off.

He can’t remember a thing and is pretty mortified.

The other one is asleep at home.

(They stayed in the front garden - all socially distanced before you all ask!! Haha)

He sneaked off early to deal with an emergency, and took the time to make you a floral arrangement? How old are these people you refer to as "boys"?

@Rubbleonthedouble1

Haven’t read the whole thread but you have misunderstood the bubble rules!

Oh thank goodness you said else she'd never have known 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 love this thread. I can't even remember what the initial problem was 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

@Thisismytimetoshine We all know there wasn’t an emergency and they were still drunk and terrified...
They are 35 and 40. But definitely still ‘boys’....

Bloody hell... I think I have the same friends as you OP. We are a female gay couple but moved to snoozeville and had kids.

We have a male gay couple who are good friends but represent our past rather than current life. They would think nothing about bringing two bottles of vodka for personal use... They are best served in small doses for us now - neutral ground and exit strategy agreed if it gets too much.

Don't sweat it - many people have friends who shame them. You seem nice and an open natured apology to your neighbours should do the trick. It was 10pm not 4am...

As for the bubble thing, I don't know many people who aren't doing a slightly different version (including members of the government). It's confusing, but from some people's responses you'd have thought you'd organised an illegal rave🥳

Oh they've so got The Fear and they know they were tits.

I totally think you should text 'just gone into the spare room, who the fuck shat on the floor?'

@LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Haha! I should do this!
I’ve since found out one of them got up shortly after we went to bed and was found by the other sleeping under the stairs....
I didn’t have them upstairs and put them on sofa bed in living room do not to disturb DD.
Those who have said I would eventually laugh - not quite there yet but am cracking the occasional smile...

@DamnYankee love that response about covid and MH issues. I broke lockdown rules to stay with someone for one night because I was actually on the brink of doing something I would’ve regretted and was in a shitty place. We were furloughed or WFH at the time. I think people can make sensible choices based on this virus :)

@LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett . Think you should do it OP!

Before I read all your updates I thought you were 60 odd the way you came across! Op it’s just a bit of harmless fun, you sound a bit like a stick in the mud! It’s a one off.

No sympathy whatsoever, except for your neighbours OP. They should not have been staying with your household, and you should not have invited them. End of.

They were in bed by 10pm it couldn't have been that bad. Just apologies to neighbours next time you see them