Men on Mumsnet

[R2519]

Hi
I'm posting on AIBU, mainly for traffic, but will use the voting function to see what people think.

I am a man and have used MN for a few years now. I was a SAHD for our first child after doing shared parental leave with my wife. She wanted to go back to work and is the main earner so decided i would stay at home for another year. I am now back at work and our DD is in nursery. Anyway, i digress. I found MN to be hugely helpful when i was a SAHD. A huge wealth of information from other parents, mainly mums, on what to expect and how to deal with different situations. I genuinely found it invaluable.

This is where my question comes in......I am assuming that MN, as the name probably suggests, was created for Mums.....women, but i think its pretty common knowledge a lot of men use it too. Some like me, who are SAHD's or find it invaluable for parenting information but i am also sure there are some men who use it for questionable means (like the sex chat area for example).

So, my question is.......do women think men have a place on MN or would they rather men not use it?
Yes / IABU = Men have a place
No / IANBU = Would prefer men not use MN
(sorry, not sure the best way round for those)

Its a very general question i know but on the face of it i wondered if some women felt it was another example of men invading safe spaces, IYSWIM......I appreciate it may sound extreme but i was curious as to how people felt about it.

Finally, i know anyone can use any platform to give their opinion (providing its not illegal), I'm just curious to know opinions....from women and men too.

Thanks

By parents for parents

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I don’t mind men using mumsnet. Some are a little tedious and condescending but I just try and ignore it.

I don’t mind women using mumsnet. Some are a little tedious and condescending but I just try and ignore it.

I'm a woman but don't have and don't want children. You probably have more of a right to be here than me. Mumsnet is so much more than just parenting topics though.

Well I’m a woman but I’m not a parent, so technically I have less reason to be here than you, OP.

@araiwa

I don’t mind women using mumsnet. Some are a little tedious and condescending but I just try and ignore it.

Oh my gosh, you’re so funny. You should do standup!

The OP asked for our feelings on men. Not women.

MN transcends parenting and is a forum for pretty much everything - such is evolution.

There's no reason at all that men shouldn't be on here - loads are, loads of posters I probably assume are women are men.

The fact that MN is a high profile female-dominated space is a brilliant thing and that in itself shouldn't deter men from being welcomed in general. It's good that they are.

Hopefully it should and does deter anyone who thinks that being male means they can saunter on and throw their weight around, which does happen of course - and the outcome is usually glorious to see

I would like to think that seeing a mansplaining twat get his arse handed to him on here would be just as amusing an event for a male poster who was here because he felt an affinity to the spirit of MN. That's the easiest way I can describe it.

Thanks for nice comment. Ill look in to it

Thanks for also being a perfect example of my post

I wish more men used mumsnet.

They might learn stuff.

@araiwa

Thanks for nice comment. Ill look in to it

Thanks for also being a perfect example of my post

You’re welcome 😇

I don't mind men on MN so long as they don't start every post with
As a man.....
I wouldn't like the % to grow. Men have tenancies, NAMALT, to take over

Tendancies

You're a parent; I think it's fine for you to use this forum.

Yeah, as long as they don't feel the need to announce they're a man on every post.

More than happy for men to be here as long as they don't barge into threads and mansplain women's issues to us - which sadly happens all too often here.

I have no issue at all with it

@IhateBoswell

Yeah, as long as they don't feel the need to announce they're a man on every post.

Careful, @araiwa will be along shortly to take your post and turn it round in a hilarious fashion.

Anyone can use it.

I just think it’s good to be self aware and not try to dominate or get cross / defensive when people disagree with you which I’ve seen SOME men do.

Yes women OPs can also be dismissive of any disagreement but I see it more from men.

This is a ridiculous and pointless thread.

We're all people ffs, and I would actually love to know how people can tell who is a man and who is a woman. Assumptions can be made but as we all know ASSUME makes an ass out of U and Me

I might be called daisychain but how does anyone know I'm not a man.

It's a parallel universe on here that's for sure.

As long as you're not one of the ones who come in to give the 'final verdict' as some will insist on, and use good judgment on certain threads, to not intrude. Like the ones where a male presence could obviously be triggering or unwelcome.

Depends on what they use it for. If they are trolls here to push their awful men's rights misogyny then eff off you've literally got every other platform on the internet for that (much like IRL). But if they are parents and decent and here for advice then of course.

You can't tell it's a man posting unless they state the fact or have a username that spells it out.
There seems to be a large amount of men in the Sex Topic very keen to give their 'as a man' opinion. Not sure about that, unless it's specifically sought?
Sometimes there are things that you only really want female opinions on as you want their experiences but on the whole if men want to be be on here-fine.

@sexnotgender
Genuine question, was your original post meant to be humourous, sarcastic or actual opinion. I'm not sure?

Who cares!

There's a lot of women on here who don't have children and some openly admit to never wanting any therefore not Mums

I think it is up to the owners to say what they want and I believe their byline is ‘by parents for parents’.

Of course, on an anonymous space, anyone can be anyone but I would certainly stop posting if Justine et al said they would prefer men not to post.