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Original poster

Mums is refusing to talk to me

196 replies

BabyGirl66 · 30/06/2020 11:36

not so DM is refusing to talk to me... because I did one splif of weed last night. Mum is extremely anti weed. She has said on many occasions that she would be extremely upset if it was legalised and would not visit Canada (once her dream country to visit) due to there legalisation laws.
She keeps saying that the government has it criminalised for a reason.

She is furious that I (20) have done it and is being highly unpleasant to be around.

AIBIU to think that mum is overreacting

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Laaalaaaa · 30/06/2020 11:38

If you did it in her house then she’s more than entitled to be furious with you.

CluelessBaker · 30/06/2020 11:38

I don’t agree with her position on weed and you can do what you like, but if you did it in her house while knowing her views it was hugely disrespectful and I understand why she’s so upset. If it wasn’t at her house and you didn’t come home to her house while high, then I would say she is overreacting.

Aquamarine1029 · 30/06/2020 11:39

Are you living in her home? If so, YABU and very disrespectful.

Original poster
BabyGirl66 · 30/06/2020 11:39

No I did it in the woods, about a 5 minute walk away.

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kenandbarbie · 30/06/2020 11:40

How does she know?

Original poster
BabyGirl66 · 30/06/2020 11:41

She smelt it, that and I was a bit giggly when I came home

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FlibbertyGiblets · 30/06/2020 11:41

Do you live with her and therefore keep drugs on her premises?

AppleKatie · 30/06/2020 11:42

Tbh if you live in her house and you’re sneaking off to the woods to smoke weed id be pretty disappointed if I was your mum too.

You’re 20 time to grow up.

Original poster
BabyGirl66 · 30/06/2020 11:44

No, I don’t own drugs. The reason I did it was because I was meeting up with my friends (a couple) who do it.

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Sunnydayshereatlast · 30/06/2020 11:44

Please Google long term effects. You won't be so amused in the future...

PurpleDaisies · 30/06/2020 11:45

Is this a reverse or are you still high?

titchy · 30/06/2020 11:46

Good for your mum. You're acting like a 14 year old. And whining on MN about it. Dear God. Hmm

Aquamarine1029 · 30/06/2020 11:46

Stop behaving like a 15 year old. You're an adult, act like one.

Andwoooshtheyweregone · 30/06/2020 11:46

Reverse?

CodenameVillanelle · 30/06/2020 11:46

You did a spliff of weed?
Did you?

AuntyPasta · 30/06/2020 11:47

Honestly I’d be more concerned about the coronavirus risk of a shared spliff than anything else.

FlibbertyGiblets · 30/06/2020 11:47

Ah ok. I think the best thing would be to find a flat, move out then you can totes suit yourself with your Me Time. Smile

heartsonacake · 30/06/2020 11:47

YABU. I won’t associate with drug users regardless of their relationship to me.

You know your mum doesn’t like drug takers and you were aware of this when making your poor decision, so now you have to face the consequences of that.

pointythings · 30/06/2020 11:48

Your mum is annoyed because you did something stupid. The end.

Original poster
BabyGirl66 · 30/06/2020 11:48

Why would it be a reverse? I just want to see if my mother is overreacting by not talking to me for about 5 minutes before suddenly screaming “I HOPE YOU GO TO PRISON” Confused

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kenandbarbie · 30/06/2020 11:48

I think if you know her feelings then you shouldn't come back into her house smelling of weed and being giggly.

I don't know why she disapproves? Is it because it's illegal? Or she worries about psychological problems? Or you mixing with drug dealers? Or you not engaging in more constructive activities like work or study? That might have some relevance.

But primarily. To me it'd be like living with someone who was teetotal, didn't like alcohol and coming home drunk and smelling of booze - it'd be rude and disrespectful.

RedRed9 · 30/06/2020 11:51

Silent treatment and screaming isn’t a great way to deal with you being a dick. But you were a dick.

If you’re 20 and want to smoke weed then you need to a)move out and b)accept that it’s going to damage your relationship with your mum.

Ohtherewearethen · 30/06/2020 11:51

This has to be wind up. If not, you're very immature. Sneaking off to the woods to 'do a spliff' with a couple you know then returning to your mum's house all giggly. Time to move out of your mum's house and get a place of you'd own where you can do as many spliffs as you like.

Original poster
BabyGirl66 · 30/06/2020 11:57

I think the reason that mum is against it so much are the two following reasons:

  1. It’s illegal. If something is illegal in her eyes it will always be wrong (even if there is evidence to suggest otherwise. I reminded her that 30 years ago it would be illegal for me to have sex with another girl (you had to be 21 till 96 I believe) is that wrong? Tbh she didn’t answer.
  1. The psychological effects, but to be fair I do understand them, I just think there any wrost then alcohol or normal Tobacco. There is also evidence that cannabis can help people with certain medical conditions, including ASD which I have.
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Tash6000 · 30/06/2020 11:57

You need to grow up. Act your age a bit more and be sensible. There is simply no need to even smoke this or any other drug to be honest. If I were your mother I'd be pissed off at you too. I say this as someone who isn't all that far off your age either, but also as a mum.
Perhaps you need to respect the fact that going back to your mum's (presumably you still live at home) stinking of weed and still high is quite a slap in the face when your mum has made it perfectly clear her opinions on weed. I'd say you acted disrespectfully and ought to apologise. In future, if you do it again, wait until you no longer smell and the high has gone completely.