Mums is refusing to talk to me

[BabyGirl66]

not so DM is refusing to talk to me... because I did one splif of weed last night. Mum is extremely anti weed. She has said on many occasions that she would be extremely upset if it was legalised and would not visit Canada (once her dream country to visit) due to there legalisation laws.
She keeps saying that the government has it criminalised for a reason.

She is furious that I (20) have done it and is being highly unpleasant to be around.

AIBIU to think that mum is overreacting

Jeez. No I wouldn’t be thrilled but not really much different to having a few drinks.

Some people seem to overreact and get hysterical about drugs. Yes @musicposy. Looking at you for saying you’d throw your dd out for smoking a joint. Bet your kids are just better at hiding stuff from you.

Apologise to her and don’t do it again until you move out. If you know she is so OTT and irrational about it then wait until you’re at uni or stay at a friends house.

Just think of all the bumholes it's been through before it reaches your spliff

It sounds to me as though your friends are a bad influence. I don't blame your mum. You don't need to smoke cannabis.

Also are you reliant on your parents supporting you financially whilst you are at university?

@augustusglupe

I’m with your mum. When my DD did this I was fuming too. She’s 10 years on now and older and wiser. You’ll grow up one day and realise why your mum is so angry/upset.

This. My dd is a couple of years older than you and smokes tobacco. This really really upsets me

Probably better you move out and stand on your own two feet op. You sound quite immature. I’m with your mum

My family are very liberal in their attitude to drugs. My granddad smokes weed, my uncles smoke weed and my mum and stepdad smoked weed until recently.
They all have terrible mental health issues and struggle to maintain jobs and relationships. It is illegal for a reason.

Ok I am likely to sound like a spoilt brat, but I really don’t attend to, so here goes:

I understand that I live in my parents house, but what I do as a legal adult away from any them is surely my choice. I understand it’s is currently illegal (although many experts say we are on the home stretch) but homosexuality was once illegal and no one (who is a good person) had a problem with people doing that.

I'm with your Mum.

Are you seriously trying to use homosexuality not being illegal as a reason to do drugs?

Also you brought it into your parents' house. People who have smoked it absolutely stink of it, u wouldn't have let you through the door.

I wouldn't

I understand it’s is currently illegal (although many experts say we are on the home stretch) but homosexuality was once illegal and no one (who is a good person) had a problem with people doing that.

This is a non sequitur. Murdering people is also illegal. We could in future decide it's not. Just because two things have been / might be decriminalised doesn't mean they're of equal standing.

but what I do as a legal adult away from any them is surely my choice

You came home slightly stoned and giggly and probably stinking of sour weed. Thats not doing it away from them.

Grow up.

Are you getting a new private let? Why wait till October, go now then and live by your own rules although I imagine you won't be expecting your parents to sub you?

You are free to do stuff outside the home. But is your mum not free to be annoyed by it and not talk to you for a while? You aren’t entitled to still live in her home, she is allowing you to live there. You’ve been an adult for two years. If you don’t like her opinions you can move out. It doesn’t matter if I agree or not with her stance.

And I second the the PP about lesbian sex never being illegal. Shows your ignorance.

what I do as a legal adult away from any them is surely my choice.

Yep. And as a legal adult what your mum chooses to do knowing you have broken her rules is entirely her choice. She could kick you out, refuse to sign your student loan forms, as well as scream and give you the silent treatment.

At which point you again have a choice. As a legal adult. And that choice could include moving out and living your life as you choose. If you aren't able to do that then you're in no position to spout shit about 'I'm a legal adult it's not fair.'

@BabyGirl66

You just carry on .i have a young friend who has paranoia because of weed . And at the moment because of covid it has been heightened and he can barely get through a day . It is ruining his long term relationship and his job is now in peril . But you are not going to listen anyway as you have all the answers .

When my son told me he had tried it I did not go mad , tbh I cried . Not because it was illegal but I had researched the possible long term affects . Luckily he did not carry on . But as parents we are entitled to our opinions as well.

And it's 'intend' not 'attend'. If you're starting uni this autumn maybe spend a bit of time brushing up your grammar

My point is (as someone who is LGBTQ+) just because something is illegal doesn’t mean it is wrong.

If you don't believe the fact that it's illegal has any bearing because laws have been changed over time then why does you being a ' legal adult' have any bearing? Or do you only follow laws that benefit you?

DH smokes it. He hates the modern stuff, far too strong and has a different effect. He likes the old fashioned weak stufff of our youth - back in the 70s, when plants hadn't been genetically messed about with to make them so strong that it become dangerous especially in young people.

Luckily, there are many of his generation who feel the same way and there is plenty of old-fashioned weak (and cheap) stuff about.

If he were to smoke the sort of stuff which youth have to (knowing no better) he'd be out on his ear.

Interesting username , Op.

just because something is illegal doesn’t mean it is wrong.

Can you give me some examples of illegal activities that are not wrong?

Yanbu.

YABU Weed is disgusting