To miss my good looks.

[lovelifehope]

I know it’s shallow in the big scheme of things, but I cant help the way I feel. Good looks fade so quick, aibu to mourne their loss? Sometimes I feel invisible.Anyone else feel the same?

[quote Someone1987]@ShebaShimmyShake no offence taken, you're entirely right![/quote]
Well, I knew I was right because I know the kind of man who says that and it's never a sexy silver fox with lots of female attention, but that doesn't mean I should have put it like that. Thank you.

It's not that there are no sexy older men, of course there are. It's just this assumption by a certain type of man that he automatically becomes sexier as he ages, no matter what the fat and broke reality, and women automatically morph into Worzel Gummidge. Ask any woman who's looking at older men on OLD and I know they'll tell you it's really not full of debonair Clooneys and Connerys.

Which doesn't mean they aren't great people worth a relationship! But this idea that if you took all men over a certain age and put them next to all women of the same age and the men are all oozing sex appeal and drawing the 20something babes, and the women are giving off a life-repelling force field...Who seriously believes that? Only a deluded misogynist with so little to recommend him that he literally can't think of anything sexy about himself except the fact that he's managed to get older! What an absolute pillock! You know he's looking at all those famous age gap relationships but sorry mate...for one, looking at Helen Mirren doesn't mean I'll age like she does, and two, Melania Trump isn't with her husband because he's sexy or has a good tan.

Oh well, I've always been a fat speccy mess so I won't need to worry about this!

I used to get a lot of attention when I was younger & I hated it. Now I’m a lot older & invisible & I miss it, strange really.

I am 36. I have bags under my eyes and I have deep laughter lines. I keep fit because I like the way it makes me feel, my DH doesn't like the extra muscle... but I don't care. Its for me, no one else. I think I may have been fairly attractive when I was in my teens and 20s, but found any resulting male attention scary. Sometimes rightly so. I am slightly fascinated by my aging. I have a science background and like to think of it as watching a very long (hopefully! ) experiment in progress. I will admit that I am scared of losing my senses, though. I love reading, smelling my roses and breaking bread, listening to music and singing along (badly) with my darling boy. My grandfather had a laryngectomy and lived the last 15 years of his life unable to talk or smell, it was very traumatic for him. I just love life and want to experience as much of it as possible, even when I am truly haggard.

No 🤷‍♀️ I’m 47 and bloody stunning I don’t care if anyone else thinks so or not I’m happy being me :)

Confidence and happiness are attractive!

@passthemustard

I used to include a photo with every CV I sent off when applying for jobs. (You know 25 years ago 🙄) never failed to get me an interview. Not sure I’d have that much luck these days 😂

Are you white?

I'm glad that I never was good looking, though admit I was some times jealous of those who were when I was younger. It means I've spent my life being 'invisible' so don't really notice any change as I get older. I can understand how those who were good-looking mourn their passing and have to adjust to a lack of attention, though I'd of thought that was a good thing?