To feel sorry for woman who believe their lip fillers make them more attractive??

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It’s not really AIBU as it’s my opinion but anyway...

I was at work yesterday and a young woman came in and clear as day had lip fillers. I was looking thinking , I can not understand why people pay to have this done. It looks awful.

You can tell straight away that they’ve had fillers

I assume slightly enhancing them can be a positive in some cases, but some just go too far until they look like comedy lips and over do it.

I was just looking thinking, I bet that woman looked more appealing and attractive to the average person with her own, natural lips!

I felt sorry for her that she was thinking that would make her more attractive....

I dread my DD growing up seeing these imagines and finding them beautiful.

Are these women really doing it for themselves (as they often say) or is it more about how they perceive as what is attractive to men. Because most men hate the look.

I haven't read all of the posts, I got to page 14.

However I saw lots of people saying you can't get rid of them. Or assuming you get sagging lips.

I had huge lips, I had them dissolved. No saggy lips.

I'm booked in to replace them, my lips are tiny and I have no top lip for my lipstick!

And I have them done for me. Husband didn't want me to have them done originally. Now he respects it is my choice and has seen how much of a confidence booster it is.

Re pics - left one has filler, noticeable on bottom lip, right one looks natural. Yes, women can do as they wish to their body, and us older ones remember questionable fashions in makeup when we were younger, but that was just hair and makeup, not needles and intrusive procedures. I do think many young ( and not so young) women look dreadful these days, like exaggerated blow up dolls or porn stars. Their choice, but I don't understand why that look.

I'm truly happy without them, not just saying it for this thread, I have a small mouth and my lips suit it.

Certain of DDs friends (not DD) don't believe that they can be attractive without them, these girls are stunning without filters, without anything I'm not joking I know (and love) them all and have seen them stumbling out of her room first thing.

I hate to see them ruining their natural beauty (a couple have) but know better than to bring it up. Hopefully they'll realise, it's not for me to say anything to them.

I can still feel sad about it though can't I? In the anonymity of MN.

As long as there’s someone I can look down on in whatever manner or form, my joyless little ego will rejoice.

Source: human beings.

Great post music

Depressing, but true

Seriously, we might as well close down Mumsnet if we can't discuss anything that isn't as bad as bereavement, racism and poverty...

Indeed , it was the ‘feel sorry ‘ I took umbrage at . If she said it looks fucking strange and odd ....

Was that directed at me Music? Because you couldn't be more wrong.

Personally I wouldn't 'feel sorry' for anyone who has chosen to change any part of their body in whatever way they choose, if they're happy with the way they look then good on them.

You're entitled to your own opinion, but nobody needs your approval.

I don't understand anyone who said mind your own business. You live in a society, not by yourself, people have to see your trout pout (I assume that's the look being discussed) and be exposed to deliberate ugliness.
To have lips pumped to the extent that they are turned inside out is the same phenomena as in China they used to bind=maim women's feet.
Ok, people are allowed to make themselves ugly, others are allowed to feel sorry for those who somehow joined into thinking it's pretty or worth doing, going through pain and being exposed to medical risks.

My DDs also think it looks strange, including a five year old, is she being mysoginist? Her first reaction on seeing a suction lips case was to be scared.

Of course lots of black people have full lips, but it goes beautifully in proportion with the rest of the face and skin texture etc, also their mouths don't move weirdly as fake lips do!
Everyone who posted a picture should have actually posted a video and preferably with the whole face, it's lips not being in sync with the rest of the face which give it away sometimes even if there's no trout pout.

I do wonder now about a friend who suddenly went from a flat chest to size J or similar. None of us have said anything to her face, what could you say? However I assumed she realised we all know, but now wonder if because we didn't say anything she thinks nobody noticed or that she naturally grew massive boobs.
It is a shame though, can you imagine someone like Tilda Swinton getting big boobs or pumped up lips to make herself feel better/more valuable??
People feel sorry for obvious cases of cosmetic procedures because it just screams low self esteem. Which is more or less understandable among teenagers but sad to see among grown ups.
Feeling sorry for them doesn't mean being repelled by them...

"People feel sorry for obvious cases of cosmetic procedures because it just screams low self esteem."

That's their opinion, not fact. If someone wants teeth whitening, or in my case teeth implants, does that mean that i have low self esteem? Or is it a case of it's available and I'd think I'd look better?

Looking healthy ie good weight, white clean teeth, shiny hair isn’t at all the same as having whatever look is in fashion.
So overly perfect white teeth look as odd as overly inflated lips.

@Ponoka7

Totally agree.

I would like my lips done, not through low self esteem, simply because I think they would look better and suit my face more

I have naturally big lips. Not very fashionable when I was young. I also work in a profession where we are experts in lips. I can always spot lip fillers however natural the wearer may think they are. Very few professionals will have fillers done because they go very bobbly after repeat application. They look a bit like tapioca or frogsporn and the natural lip colour goes.
The biggest give away is constantly licking of lips because the natural wet border becomes exposed to the air as the lip is curled outwards and dries out. I suppose this may be the attractive bit since lip licking is a subconscious sign of attraction/sexual interest to men. So rather than the actual size it is the behaviour it causes that makes the wearer more attractive.
If you are looking for natural lip fillers always have a bigger lower lip than upper lip and make sure you don’t lose the philtrum which forms the bow shape. Think Angelina Jole rather than Pete Burns.