To feel sorry for woman who believe their lip fillers make them more attractive??

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It’s not really AIBU as it’s my opinion but anyway...

I was at work yesterday and a young woman came in and clear as day had lip fillers. I was looking thinking , I can not understand why people pay to have this done. It looks awful.

You can tell straight away that they’ve had fillers

I assume slightly enhancing them can be a positive in some cases, but some just go too far until they look like comedy lips and over do it.

I was just looking thinking, I bet that woman looked more appealing and attractive to the average person with her own, natural lips!

I felt sorry for her that she was thinking that would make her more attractive....

I dread my DD growing up seeing these imagines and finding them beautiful.

Michelle Keegan is very beautiful IMO it's obvious she had work her face is frozen. Another 10 years of botox and fillers will ruin her altogether. She had a face that would hold natural beauty for decades like Sandra Bullock. To late now there's no denying a decade of botox and fillers.

@vikingwife I was being facetious, I think she's very problematic (this & the sexy toddler act) & agree with Pete however I felt I had derailed a bit.

They look ridiculous and it clearly is ridiculous to pump your facial tissue full of poisonous chemicals.

People can have that opinion if they please, incidentally.

They're usually on a girl under the age of 25 who likes a certain look - think Love Island with inflated everything and a very fake look. Not sure what the desired effect of filled lips are but it doesn't look good when you can barely bring your lips to meet in the middle.

Yes I worry about all this ‘preventative’ work people have in their 20s. The face needs to move and surely it will find other ways or you’ll just end up looking odd?

It’s ageing. If you can spot someone has had work done then you assume them to be older to have to need to have the work done if you see what I mean?

I have had Botox. I don’t think I looked younger. It was nice not to have a frown line but I definitely scrunched my eyes up more to compensate and noticed new lines forming that weren’t there before . But then maybe I have an expressive face!

Well I threw you all a red herring.
My lips have never been filled, so the 'duck pout' 'odd line' and 'strange texture' are all my very own, but hey thanks for the compliments

I'm actually of Jewish descent, I'm an only child but all of my cousins on that particular side of the family have the same shape lips. Its obviously a strong genetic trait.

I guess people see what they want to see, oh and thank you sincerely to those who were kind.

@HotSince82 Wow you've beautiful natural full lips.

**I would certainly expect a lip reader to notice!

I don't really know about lip fillers, not something I've ever had an interest in. Unless it was very badly done, I doubt I'd notice if anyone I knew did it. These games where you show people pictures of mouths and ask if they're done aren't really fair because now people are primed to look for it. If you just passed me or had a conversation with me and I wasn't thinking about it, I doubt I'd notice it.

It's all beside the point of this being a really spiteful and mean-spirited OP**

@ShebaShimmyShake

Bit mellow dramatic 🙄

When done right, they can look really nice. What you're thinking of is when they've been overfilled.

There's a girl at my work who is naturally pretty and clever, but people assume she's stupid because she has these massive, overfilled lips. She doesn't need them at all and looked far better before she started getting them done.

@Starcup

**I would certainly expect a lip reader to notice!

I don't really know about lip fillers, not something I've ever had an interest in. Unless it was very badly done, I doubt I'd notice if anyone I knew did it. These games where you show people pictures of mouths and ask if they're done aren't really fair because now people are primed to look for it. If you just passed me or had a conversation with me and I wasn't thinking about it, I doubt I'd notice it.

It's all beside the point of this being a really spiteful and mean-spirited OP**

@ShebaShimmyShake

Bit mellow dramatic 🙄

I'd rather be melodramatic than spiteful and mean spirited.

somebody posted two photos earlier, I couldn't tell the difference... or was that the person who'd had nothing done? Hope so.

the sad thing is the identikit look. Find photos of Girls Aloud when they started up, and a few years later. After a trip through the 'beauty' mincer, they all looked the same - lobotomised vacant expressions, piano-key teeth, trout pouts, curls all removed (ok I do this too, it is more comfortable and less work, skins all painted the same colour.

Ditto for Little Mix, I really cannot tell who is who in their photos. And it seems the media have the same problem.

shame really.

@HotSince82

Well I threw you all a red herring. My lips have never been filled, so the 'duck pout' 'odd line' and 'strange texture' are all my very own, but hey thanks for the compliments

I'm actually of Jewish descent, I'm an only child but all of my cousins on that particular side of the family have the same shape lips. Its obviously a strong genetic trait.

I guess people see what they want to see, oh and thank you sincerely to those who were kind.

Haha, nice one! But, you know, they can ALWAYS TELL!

Someone on another thread said the other day that a trans person had never, ever passed with her, ever, not one. How in the frig would she know?

I'm still surprised that nobody noticed my Botox. The lines really were pretty noticeable before and they vanished entirely. I completely expected people to ask, and intended to be honest if they did. But then it's obvious from this thread that a lot of people think that even the smallest procedure leaves you looking like a spoon with hair, or that it's impossible to have a naturally well-shaped mouth....

@Sheba

Well for someone that doesn’t consider themselves ‘mean spirited’, you’re doing a good job by constantly putting up goady replies and the like. Yes, you sound delightful too- not!

@mungrymutt oh that’s a perfect way to put it, a sexy toddler act!!

I didn't coin it but it's so apt 😂😂

It might be easier if the pics posted don’t have that pouting for the camera, selfie look.

Why do people do that? It looks so fake.

It's a trend and it will pass. It's a side effect of the insta generation. Mainly not permanent luckily. I would struggle to take someone seriously in my work environment though.
When I was at School we all had permed hair with a bit of a quiff and a greasy stand hanging down wither side of the face. Funnily enough I don't have that hairstyle now.
What I do find sad is attractive women who in middle age have their faces so pulled and stretched that they not only lose their own features, they then have to spend their lives in polo necks to keep up the facade. Jamie Redknapps other on gogglebox last night is a prime example. I bet she would have looked lovely if she hadn't had the work.

Jamie Redknapps mother, not other

You'll get lots of posts from people swearing no one has noticed theirs, but yeah, I've never seen a natural looking pair.

I was very surprised when a friend said she had hers done regularly, but only a little bit" I honestly couldn't see it. I think another friend might get hers done, but only because I swear the size of her top lip changes, but still not obvious. The dd of another friend had hers done because her natural lips are very thin at the sides and very full in the middle so naturally she looks like she's blowing you a kiss and she looks normal with the fillers.

The ott look is fashionable, they intend to look like they've had work done, same as when people wear tons of makeup they're not going for the natural look, and personally I think it looks hideous.

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Well for someone that doesn’t consider themselves ‘mean spirited’, you’re doing a good job by constantly putting up goady replies and the like. Yes, you sound delightful too- not![/quote]
I'm not starting threads intended to cause pile-on of sneering at those who make personal decisions that have no effect on me.

@mencken

somebody posted two photos earlier, I couldn't tell the difference... or was that the person who'd had nothing done? Hope so.

the sad thing is the identikit look. Find photos of Girls Aloud when they started up, and a few years later. After a trip through the 'beauty' mincer, they all looked the same - lobotomised vacant expressions, piano-key teeth, trout pouts, curls all removed (ok I do this too, it is more comfortable and less work, skins all painted the same colour.

Ditto for Little Mix, I really cannot tell who is who in their photos. And it seems the media have the same problem.

shame really.

Yes, totally agree. Little Mix look terrifyingly different to when they started out. Poor, poor Jessie too. She thinks she looks amazing when she just looks so plastic and fake. The sad irony there is that she looked so much better as herself. I wish she hadn't changed her face.

It's more 'unattractive' to start a thread slating them.

Before writing your comments have you thought why people have them done, perhaps they feel insecure about there current image and it might make them feel better?
Perhaps they like the way they look?

To slate people on here without knowing there reasonings behind it makes you a worse person than the people who had filler.

People can do what they want, you don't need to start a bitch feed slating them.

Have a good weekend, be kind. You might feel better being nicer! 😃

I'm not starting threads intended to cause pile-on of sneering at those who make personal decisions that have no effect on me

@ShebaShimmyShake

But you keep trying to twist the intention of the thread.

You said you had Botox, therefore it seems to me you’re taking it personally that I don’t find these procedures attractive. Of course you’re not going to agree with me.... because you actively pay to have it done.... so of course you’re not going to be happy about this thread.

You doing your best to try and make it sound like it’s awful and that’s it.

You might not like what I have to say but it doesn’t mean it’s not thread worthy. I have explained (if you care to read the full thread instead of cherry picking the bits you want) that I find it sad that society places so much emphasis on how a woman should like- that they put chemicals in to them.

Must if these young women would look far better with they’d natural lips but society’s makes it that they want to go ahead and achieve that look

That’s fair enough it’s their choice but am I not allowed to say I think they look better without??

It’s the same as too much make up- often they would look better with less on so it’s a shame they are made to feel they need to confirm.

Lastly, it’s a choice they make. It’s like be saying I’m not a fan of that new grey hair look that all the young women are wanting now... they would look better with the normal
natural colour. The difference is there though the chemicals aren’t getting pumped into they’d bodies in what is considered an unregulated industry.

I am worried for when my dd get to an age that she might want to do that. So am I not allowed to bring it up?!

@GeorginaSmith95

I mean if that’s what you truly believe then there’s no hope 🙄