To feel sorry for woman who believe their lip fillers make them more attractive??

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It’s not really AIBU as it’s my opinion but anyway...

I was at work yesterday and a young woman came in and clear as day had lip fillers. I was looking thinking , I can not understand why people pay to have this done. It looks awful.

You can tell straight away that they’ve had fillers

I assume slightly enhancing them can be a positive in some cases, but some just go too far until they look like comedy lips and over do it.

I was just looking thinking, I bet that woman looked more appealing and attractive to the average person with her own, natural lips!

I felt sorry for her that she was thinking that would make her more attractive....

I dread my DD growing up seeing these imagines and finding them beautiful.

Sure

HI OP.

I'm reading the thread and finding the whole discussion amusing. Everyone is entitled to do what they like with their bodies, but I grew up with naturally big lips and was called every racist name under the sun because of it - baboon lips, big lips etc. Funny how they are now seen as a fashion trend.

@2007Millie

Ditto!

@Starcup

I asked your want your aim was in creating this thread.

You didn't even bother to answer.

So of course I'm confused.

@kazzer2867

I’m the same. I’ve always had full lips and big teeth and wasn’t overly impressed with what I was given as a kid 😂

Now it seems it’s the fashion and people pay big bucks for it. I think naturally full lips are lovely!

@2007Millie

I did reply....

@Starcup

You asked me why women make comments about other women. You didn't say what your aim or intention was in creating this thread

You did proclaim to know. You said “the majority of women” you proclaimed to know.

You go from faux concern to judging.

I said a few pages ago you should just mind you own business and I feel that more than ever now.

@2007Millie

Erm I don’t believe I asked you anything? And I did reply, but I will answer again. It’s a discussion forum so that’s my reason

@Yesmate

People on this thread have said there is a ‘look’ that people ask for (I should have made that clear- it wasn’t my opinion, I was going off what pp suggested)

I certainly didn’t say the majority of women I know.....

^^You did proclaim to know. You said “the majority of women” you proclaimed to know.

You go from faux concern to judging.

I said a few pages ago you should just mind you own business and I feel that more than ever now^^

Nobody could have more overfilled looking lips than these

I didn’t say you said the majority of women you know. I said you said “the majority of women. Which you did

Today 21:34 Starcup

The majority of women who have over filled lips didn't ask for that when they walked into the clinic. They wanted a subtle enhancement and have clearly fallen victim to unscrupulous clinicians.... no one chooses to look like a clown.

@Starcup

You wrote a sentence with a question mark at the end aimed at me, that's a question.

You've just given me your reason, not your aim or intention, they are different things.

The majority of women who have over filled lips didn't ask for that when they walked into the clinic. They wanted a subtle enhancement and have clearly fallen victim to unscrupulous clinicians.... no one chooses to look like a clown

@Yesmate

I can categorically say that those words were not mine!!! I can’t remember everything I said on here, granted but I certainly did not say that. I would never say that.

I think you’ve made a mistake and quoted someone else

In fact, I don’t ‘think’ you’ve quoted someone else. I know you have!

How have you not said that?!

Hands up I can see my error. You quoted someone else and I thought it was you saying it originally. Apologies.

@Yesmate

Fair play to you for apologising. It’s totally fine and I understand why you thought it was me.

All the ones I’ve seen look absolutely ridiculous. How anyone can think they look attractive with a trout pout is beyond me.

There’s a difference between criticising a woman’s appearance, and criticising the patriarchal social structure that pressures them to look that way.

I agree, OP. I think they look terrible, and I feel sorry for the individual women that feel like they need to do this to be attractive.

I don’t think the OP deserves the vitriol she’s had to be honest.

I think she makes a perfectly valid point that it’s very sad that so many women feel the need to inject their lips with chemicals in the name of beauty. The bar for the standard of beauty has been raised ever higher and there’s a pressure to look a certain way that involves syringing yourself. And it’s a pressure that just doesn’t exist in the same way for men!

I don’t judge the women who choose to do this. I just think it says a very sad thing about society as I say. And as a teacher of secondary school pupils, I worry for the future of the kids who are growing up in a world where Kardashian style instagram beauty is held up as a normal standard to be achieved.

People can do what they want, and no we shouldn’t judge each other for choosing to do certain things to look a certain way. But choices don’t exist in a vacuum, and it’s not wrong to worry about the wider implications!

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable as it’s your opinion. BUT, as someone who hasn’t had fillers and won’t t ever get theme To many men and women they are considered attractive. Some of the most beautifully women in society have fillers. So yeah, you’re not unreasonable as its your opinion - but your opinion isn’t necessarily shared with many people.

Yanbu

I feel sorry for people with terrible RL problems and challenges ! Like bereavement , racism and poverty

This doesn’t even make the list !!!!

@Thisisworsethananticpated

I feel sorry for people with terrible RL problems and challenges ! Like bereavement , racism and poverty

This doesn’t even make the list !!!!

Obviously bereavement, racism and poverty are worse than bad lip fillers.

That doesn't stop lip fillers looking grim

Seriously, we might as well close down Mumsnet if we can't discuss anything that isn't as bad as bereavement, racism and poverty...