To decide I will not let my DD go to birthday party because invitation demands £5

[milliec]

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Never had an invite like that.

Where is the party being held? Home or play place?

The demand for money seems a bit off to me. I've not come across it before. Do you think they are suggesting the fiver instead of buying a present. I suppose that might be reasonable: better than accumulating a huge pile of possible unplayed-with presents.

Bloody hell!

That's really quite out of order

If I couldn't afford a party for my dc I would ask a few good friends if they could help me out by bringing a plate of food, and just have a very low key party - or just have a few snacks, and provide party games instead - these are free

are they good friends of yours? This is really ODD IMO. I don't think Ib would go.

YANBU

tis extremely odd

2 year old party...they can't eat £5 worth of food surely?

Totally out of order. She can't be serious. OMG!

No this is AWFUL

to ask close friends for help if you are a bit strapped is one thing

to ask virtual strangers for a £5 entry fee to a party is DREADFUL

why can't she just have a couple of friends round for tea! She's two!

A party for a 2yo is by and mostly for the parents. The pressure won't be coming from the kid, so why are they trying to do something they can't afford?

All very odd.

Odd, grasping, rude, insensitive, embarrassing

never ,ever heard of this before

however, I would let my daughter go to the party and spend £5 on a pressie and £5 towards the party. I think £10 is a reasonable amount to spend in these circs, presuming you have the £10 yourself,

if they are that short of funds, that they have to ask, tehy are doing all they can to ensure their child does not miss out on a nice birthday.

BUT as the children are so young and won;t remember the party, seems a tad strange . but there you go.

do you know the parents at all? are they taking the p*ss do you think , or genuinely in need?

It is deeply weird

How excruciatingly embarassing!

If you can't afford to do a party then you shouldn't be doing one.

It's just them trying to keep up with the Jonses by the looks of it. Has there been other parties at the nursery that they are trying to compete with?

I don't bother with fancy parties until they are 3 or 4 anyway. Before that it's just a nice family and friends thing at the house.

They must have a real brassneck.

Good god... no, you are NOT being unreasonable. Tell 'em to get stuffed... how rude.

am i being too nice ?

it is odd, it is strange, but nowt so queer as folk and all that

Lulu there are plenty of things they could do to ensure their child has a nice party, without spending £60 of other people's money!

They could EASILY say "please if you could bring a plate of food, or a bowl of snacks, we would be so grateful"

they are 2, they don't need much food

I am quite pissed off about the greed of this!

Very very odd. DS1's 2nd birthday was in the garden, a few snacks all round. Ds2 and ds3's was a birthday tea each.

Deeply weird.

x post franny , you are right !

Blimey! YANBU! If I were so short of funds I couldn't afford to buy food for a birthday party, I'd ask everyone to bring a plate of food or nibbles or some drink...there's no way I'd be rude enough to ask for money! And what food is she buying FFS? Caviar and smoked salmon????

A two year old could not care less whether their party involves a plate of sandwiches and pass the parcel, or £5 a head catering.

I would not send my child and send a message to these people that what they are doing is acceptable. It's not. And their DD will not notice or care who is at her party, she's too young.

wrong

lulu: given the amount of parties ds1 and ds2 get invited to, I just couldn't afford £10 for each one . I normally spend between £3-£5 for a present depending on what I find that looks good.

Actually, I'm currently feeling guilty enough as it is, as ds1 is going to a friend's 7th birthday and parent mentioned he would like a game. I've spent £5 on Uno which is fab for that age group, but the parcel looks really small and like I haven't bothered

Unbelievable! What a cheek!

presumably they pay for the nursery? I imagine that parents who can afford a nursery can also afford a few sausage rolls and fruits shoots for a party

BTW I'm having a birday party for my two year old tomorrow for 15 children and family members. In total it's costing us about 30 pounds - that inculdes a bought cake, food made by me and toys for the party game to give out as prizes.

Ooo Franny, good idea - wouldn't object at all to a polite request for help with nibbles.

birthday not birday!