To decide I will not let my DD go to birthday party because invitation demands £5

[milliec]

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[Cazzaben]

I wouldn't send my boys to a party if they had to pay... How unbelievable... Its my DS2's 1st birthday Friday and I'm not asking for any money...
Anyway he's only having his 3 bestest friends over for a light picnic lunch at the Eagle - Gstaad...
To start they are having:

Roasted Langoustine with frogs legs and Alsace Bacon and Tarragon Sabayon
OR
Beluga Caviar

for main:
Seabass with Fennel confit, Button Onions and Olives, Ras el Hanout Jus
OR
Fillet of Veal with Blanquette de Veau a l?ancienne
For desert Jelly and Ice-cream...

We have only asked for £100 a head its not much to ask for really is it???

How stupid asking for money...

[Sorrento]

Wow, a lot of children in DD's class have just sent sweets into school because things are a bit tight.
Normally I would do a whole class party but I am not and usually if it was all the girls, it would be them plus the ones who DD has been to the parties of therefore I feel I ought to invite.
As it is she's picked her 10 bestest friends and that's it.
I wouldn't be sending a fiver along personally.

[vixma]

Never had an invite like that......I have had some parties for my son, but known when the purse strings wont go there either (parties can be very expensive). What do the other parents think that have been invited, and will they pay it (emotionally blackmailed a bit).

[choccynutter]

oh pants lol jst relised date too hope it went well

[choccynutter]

very rude if ask me I agree with franny and to be honest if they are that strapped for money why are they having a party why not jst have a family do tea or something , if it was me i proberly would let my children go but would politly ask before hand wot it is they are struggling with for party i.e nibbles or games ect and see if i could help if not i proberly would pay fiver
sorry no full stops commas ect very tired lol

[BottySpottom]

It was me digging it up from archives - I was searching for something completely different, but the title grabbed me (I was a bit ill that night and 'tired and emotional' too).

I want to find out what happened too.

[DitaVonCheese]

That had a good twist on page 8 (if you ever want to see a thread pull a U-turn, this is your chance). Now I really want to know what happened next and it was years ago, dammit!

[mumeeee]

I'm another one who didn't see the date of the original post and replied before I'd read it properly. I must make sure I look at threads properly.

[mumeeee]

YANBU. A 2 year old doesn't need a party. If they can't aford the food they should either not have a party at all or just have a couple of friends over.

[Pannacotta]

How weird I didnt notice that either, time for bed maybe...

[macdoodle]

blimey me too got sucked into a 18 month old thread how and why do people find these old ones!!

[Pannacotta]

Madness, of course YANBU!

This reminds me of a works party arranged by my then boss (on a good salary) who asked for a £5 contribution from all of us (his staff) to cover the cost of food.
We were all so surprised that we didnt quite know how to tell him he was being a) deeply unreasonable and b) a tight git!

In the end I went but took a bottle of wine and didnt hand over any cash, I couldnt bring myself to...

[lilackaty]

I know - I replied before I read it properly. I'm sure rubberduck is still worrying about uno 18 months on!!!

[MamaG]

ooh a MamaGabriellaMontez posted at start of thread - I wonder if that was me?!

[poorbuthappy]

I can't believe that I got to the end of the thread before looking at the date!
Oh well - lets hope that the rearranged party went ahead and that everyone (including the 6 year old twins - just checking if you read it all...) was happy.

[lilackaty]

Rubberduck - size isn't everything and as you've said uno is fab. Far better to have a great, well thought out present than a big one that is rubbish imo.
And you are not being unreasonable - although I can totally empathise with low funds, there is no need for a party at age 2

[fledtoscotland]

£60 for a 2yr old party at home is quite a lot. thats my weekly shop. i think offering a plate of food is a better suggestion or offer to make up a parcel the parcel or similar

[BottySpottom]

I know this is an old thread, but that is so sad. Made me shed a tear (but am going down with a nasty virus and feeling a bit pathetic).

I hope the party went ahead eventually.

[hippipotami]

It is still odd, but I can see why she asked for the donation. Poor woman is just not thinking straight is she?

Millie, you sound lovely, please be sure to explain to the other parents to avoid any school-gate bitchiness.

[PSCMUM]

what a totally odd thing to do. like really..even with the 6 year old twins explanation..its still odd. i think. am i a total cow? probably

[tigermoth]

It was so good you had time to take her for a coffee and hear the full story. It sounds like she is just not thinking straight at the moment, understandably.

Sadly, I bet her party invite is the talk of the school gates as far as some parents are concerned. Can you nip it in the bud by talking to a few of the other guest parents asap and, without saying too much about the woman's personal life, tell them she is going through a hard time, tried to organise a party for her children's sake, and it's all gone horribly wrong. So she will be reorganising it, and you for one are going to it.

[wheelsonthebus]

might have been better if she had suggested parents bring some party food contribution along (tho not much)

[JeremyVile]

Gosh - I dont feel even slightly sorry for her...

...Off to check pulse.

[Flibbertyjibbet]

Please make sure you tell all the other invitees mums what the explanation was.

[Carbonel]

I am glad you had chance to talk to her. When the next invites come out can you sort of organise the other parents to offer a plate of sandwiches, or cakes to help her out a bit?