To decide I will not let my DD go to birthday party because invitation demands £5

[milliec]

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[theUrbanDryad]

YABU - poor little 2 year old, not having cream cheese and smoked samon bagels for her birthday party. there'll probably be prosciutto and mozzerella mini bites, and teeny tiny oatmeal crackers with finest Scottish smoked trout pate.

except of course there won't be now, cause you are all stingy feckers. poor little girl. makes my heart bleed it does.



(not really, i just think it's dull when we all agree!)

[Cammelia]

It makes you wonder if they'll sell the child's b/day presents on ebay

[wildpatch]

invites like that would reallyl really really annoy me.
dc would NOT be going.
neither would their dc be invited to mine, well, if there birthdays were close together and i was still fuming that is.
bloody cheek.


it's like weddinginvites that say 'no boxed gifts please' fine. i just either tdont go, or dont take a gift. unless i have to because they gave me, my family huge wedding gifts. in which case if ume silently, whislt handing over dosh in an envelope.

[millie99]

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE go and take with you £5 worth of delicious frozen party food from Iceland as your contribution - then report back to us with all the gory details of the party.

[NKF]

What does it mean when an invite says: "no boxed gifts please." I've never seen that.

[wildpatch]

i think its an asian thing. it means dont bring a gift htat you have chosen and paid for, and lovingly wrapped up. because they probablyu wont like it anyways. and can you just stick cash in an envelpe and hand it over.
and these people have the gall to think that wedding lists, which should have a wide range of prices, are a bad idea.
o, and you can get a 'boxed gift' in the sale in anticipation of the happy event for twenty pounds. but cash has to be at least fifty. sometimes a hundred.
money grabbing.(&)(&s

[Susianna]

I don't think she is going to have many friends turn up if they are asked to pay. Poor mite

[theUrbanDryad]

goodness Wildpatch, that's a bit off. never come across that ever on any Asian wedding invites. or non-Asian ones for that matter.

although a friend of mine got terribly upset when his sister demanded he buy £200 of John Lewis kitchenware. and i got a bit miffed when my db and SIL's wedding list asked for a £40 tea pot! i mean, £40!! i'd be scared to use it!

sorry, off the subject a bit, i'm just astounded at how grasping some people are!

[theStallionOfSensibleness]

thinkt he no boxed gifts si a cheek

[theUrbanDryad]

having said that, i suppose wedding lists are a bit different because you do choose whether to buy something off there or not. the no boxed gifts thing is just blardy cheeky.

as is asking £5 for a 2 year old's birthday party. rubbish.

[Peachy]

wildpatch I really hope I am reading your post wrong, comes over very anti- Asian

[babyfacemummy]

i wouldnt go at all i'd just send a card and small present

[wildpatch]

peachy, i'm asian, so i'm allowed to say it

[Peachy]

Ah at least thate explains the generalisation! Glad I was careful at wordng my post now! Just that i've ahd several of these cash or go to X shop and give cash towards Y..... and none from Asian famillies.

[Nightynight]

Poor child, the birthday one. Her parents have really dropped a clanger there. My children wouldnt be going, probably. Hell, we were too poor to have parties when all of mine were 2.

[SSSandy2]

I'm wondering whether I have always carefully turned over every invitation received and read the back...

[woodyrocks]

Total freaks of nature! YANBU. I would ignore the invite and the party (and the family). With inflation imagine how much they will be asking for next year

[mumeeee]

YANBU. My 15 and 17 year old often go to parties where they pay their own way. This seems the norm for teenagers as they often just arrange to go to the cinema or to have a meal. But when they ewnet tom parties when they were younger we did not ever have to payanything towards them and no parent asked for any money.
At 2 my children just had a small party in the house with a small amount of party food.

[MaureenMLove]

Unbelievable! If you can't afford it, then you don't do it! How they've got the nerve to ask parents to pay for the party, I've no idea! I wonder if she'll be providing party bags. YANBU.

[MaureenMLove]

Actually, I'd let her go, but not put a fiver in the reply! I wonder if she'd have the nerve to ask you for it!

[Elasticwoman]

Actually I think it's quite acceptable to provide a party without partybags. The essentials are: space, food & drink and other children. And the birthday cake and candles.

[MaureenMLove]

I try to avoid party bags if I can, but I pay for the party! Just wondering if the guests are going to get any return for their fiver!

[PSCMUM]

Jesus!

what a nutty thing to do.

When my kid was 2 if I didn't hev enough money, i maybe wouldn't have had a party?
or i maybe would have had a very cheap party?
or something.
but io would not have done that..however, its not the kids fault that they have nutty parents, so I'd probably pay my £5, bemusedly so, and hope my kid enjoyed the party.

YEs, its all about the children, and sometimes you just haev to blank out the loopy parents!

[2gorgeousboys]

I started reading this thread's title with sympathy for the birthday child's parents - for my DS2'S 3rd birthday he had a party at a farm. As there was an entrance fee we paid for all the children at the party and one parent and put a note on the invitation that other parents siblings etc were welcome but would have to pay for themselves. Having read the posts I now realise I got the wrong end of the stick and am that people would expect to profit from their child's party. What's wrong with buns?? Who said that 2 yo's need a 3 course meal???

[ChristmasPud]

Don't bother with it. Go out with your DD and do something less boring instead.

The birthday parties are just starting for us and mums are saying 'no presents' and just getting together and with a few snacks and having fun.

I hate this 'price of everything value of nothing' attitude that seems to be spreading these days. Of course in my day....