To decide I will not let my DD go to birthday party because invitation demands £5

[milliec]

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It's completely unnecessary to give a birthday party for 12 children for a 2 year old's party and absolutely ludicrous to give a party and expect the invitees to pay. Just say no.

I want an update on this now. Milliec, what are you going to do?
what are the other parents saying about it?
tell us tell us lol

a bit off topic here but wolves chick do you live in wolves?

yes nappy addict I do (but if I want to be pretentious I can say South Staffs

ah right where abouts? i live in kingswinford about 15 mins down the road.

i know kingswinford, i'm in perton but hoping to move to Kinver next year

very strange, I would decline the invitation and explain why -surely a contribution such as a plate of butties etc would be more appropriate.

you could reply and say unfortunately we are not in a position to make a financial contribution but we will bring a plate of sandwiches (or something else)

Come back milliec!!

What are you going to say to invitee's mum?

Thanks for the vote of confidence in Uno I was very nervous, especially when arriving at the party and most kids seemed to bring in these HUGE boxes! But recipient liked it very much, and that's the important thing

wolveschick - kinver's lovely. i went to school there.

Rubberduck, UNO rocks

How utterly bizarre.

You have to go though, no question about it, not least for comedy value. You will be forever wondering what they served up for tea and so will we.

I wonder what will be in the party bag.

I think you cannot go, you cannot condone this practice

Hmm, yes, it would condone it I suppose. I would be very curious about it though. M and S catering, gold bouncy balls?

Sorry if been said already but if she can afford to send her child to Nursery (which I assume is private) she can afford a birthday party. It's absolutely shocking to ask for money. If they can't afford the party they shouldn't be having it - as if a 2 year old will know anyway.

LOLOLOL

How gloriously vulgar

If they can't afford a party, they shouldn't have one.

Or am I hopelessly puritanical?

(And FFS a 2 year old won't know it's her party anyway. She doesn't need 12 other toddlers invading her home)

That does seem alot. I went to a party store and went abit mad and spent £20 on balloons, plates, cups, hats etc. I will also probably spend about £10 on food and that's feeding 10 adults as well! £60 would go a very long way even if you didn't buy cheep hats, plates etc!

can i just say just cos someone sends their cihld to nursery doesn't mean they can afford a party. i get 85% of childcare costs paid for me. i hope all the mums don't think i'm loaded

Cheeky cunt. I just paid out 16.oo to make sure that everyone had a take & make thing for DS party along side pass the parcel, pin the tail on donkey and some other silly game.

They did not all win though. Some children won the 3 presents.

I would not send my child.

I think it's really weird, I honestly do. But I'd probably pay up and store it under Strange Happenings, and hope they had some real, undisclosed, and very worthy need for this handout. But then I'm a notorious sucker.

Children's parties! a minefield, eh? I am so glad mine are no longer of that age. I held a party once and a very strange friend of mine with the most precious FB you have ever seen stayed the whole time, breastfed her equally strange but utterly lovely and very bright 5-year old in front of everyone, and then insisted the PFB needed a nap, so she set up a 'quiet corner' and soon at least half the little girls insisted they were also tired and needed naps and joined her for a good long sleep. Meanwhile, tiptoeing round the sleepers, I continued determinedly, bringing the cake in, organising games etc, conscious that the whole thing had been one almighty flop.

That's just brilliant oenophile. This thread was worth it if only to read about your friend

Not just weird, stupid. Why give a 2 year old a party, the child won't remember it and they can't even afford it. Pathetic really.

same here nappyaddict. My life is on hold till sept 09 when ds1 starts school and ds2 goes on the reduced rate for being 3yo!! Then we will have some ALMIGHTY parties!!

But,yee gods, to ask £5 to cover FOOD!! Don't go. Or, go and then invite that child to yours and ask for £5.50, inflation y'see.