to tell DP to get public transport and go home

[cakedup]

DP is usually great but not so much when he has had a drink.

He kept telling me to fuck off when we were in bed last night so I slept on the sofa. Then this morning he came and started on me because I was on the sofa and he said it was weird the cats were sleeping on me. He kept going on and said it's over between us but I know he doesn't mean that. He kept mimicking me and then accused me of crocodile tears. I couldn't stand it any longer so I went out for a walk, luckily he was asleep when I got back.

It's going to be unbearable today. He will carry on being a dick until he sobers up and then he will apologise profusely. I just want to be left alone today but feel I'm stuck unless he takes the tube to his house, I can't ask him to do that can I?

Yes you can. He just needs a mask, or covering somehow. Send him home and do NOT we him again. Why on Earth are you with this man?

Yes you can. Why would you want to be with someone who treats you so badly in your own home.

Of course you can - kick him out and don't let him back in. He sounds awful and you deserve better. You have the power to make that happen, make the decision to be worried about yourself, not him!

He doesn’t need to wear a mask until the 15th, fuck his arse out the abusive bastard!

It's increasing the risk if he gets on the tube though? If he got ill after that I would blame myself.

I'm not sure he'll go anyway

How he gets home is his problem...

Is he taking any steps towards dealing with his drinking problem? Even if you don't consider him an alcoholic the fact that he becomes so aggressive when drunk indicates a deeper issue that he needs to deal with

I would totally ask him to go home you need space

How was he still drunk this morning? Sounds like he's just an arsehole. Please throw him out. The face mask issue is his problem not yours.

Of course you can ask him to leave your home, at any time, but especially after treating you so badly. Where he goes and how he gets there is his issue.

It’s not even his house?! Kick him out. He’s told you it’s over. Agree with him and get him gone

He is not normally like this. I keep telling him I don't want him to drink and he promises me he going to be fine etc but then always turns

He can use public transport. Think of how many have to use it to get to and from work at the moment. One journey for an abusive idiot shouldn’t be your worry- making your home and you safe is

He sounds horrible - tell him to leave! He is being abusive - tell him to go or call the police if he refuses. Keep yourself safe, you deserve better, and you are entitled to sleep in your own bed in your own home!

He isn't going to stop, trust me. Give him a scarf and tell him to leave, and if he refuses you know who to call. Don't accept crumbs op

He never used to react to alcohol like this, only in the last 6 months or so.

Of course Haud is right about the face mask not being needed until the 15th sorry, I wasn’t thinking.
Anyway, that’s not important. Tell him to leave as soon as he wakes up. Then make sure it’s over. Do not see someone who treats you that way ever again. Have some respect for yourself.

Another vote for kicking the twat out. Make sure that he knows he can't get away with treating you like this.

Lend him a scarf and just tell him you need a bit of breathing space for a couple of days. It might make him realise how obnoxious he can be. Good luck.

"DP is usually great but not so much when he has had a drink"
Bloody hell, you consider that behaviour to just be not so great. That is appalling. He has no respect for you and you have no respect for yourself in having let him apologise when he is sober on what sounds like a number of times. Why would you put up with this treatment?

"I just want to be left alone today" suggests you will just allow him back after today and the pattern will then just continue.

If I were you, I would insist he leaves today, tell him the relationship is over for good and start creating a new life without the bullying bastard him.

It doesn't matter if he has to get a tube to his place. Lots of people travel on the tube every day.

Make the nasty bastard walk. His method of getting home isn’t your concern. You deserve better.

cakedup It doesn’t matter if he didn’t used to react like this, six months is long enough. Now he knows you accept/put up with the behaviour he isn’t going to change

Ullupullu we were both up til around 4am. Then he woke me at 6am to have a go at me, he was still very drunk.

It always starts the same way. We'll be listening to music, mostly his choice, and then when I choose to put on music he'll start criticizing it, saying it's shit, I just know it's downhill from then on.

“If he got ill after that I would blame myself. I'm not sure he'll go anyway”

Why do you think he’s entitled to treat you that way? Why would you blame yourself if he got ill? It’s not up to him whether he leaves or not, it’s your house!

Why are you putting up with this?

Yes kick him out. Please dont allow a man to treat you like that. How could you let him kick you out of your own bed, and then come and bloody mock you in the morning? Have you lost your self respect?

Sounds dreadful. Chuck him out today and don't let him back.

He is usually thoughtful, loving, caring, considerate