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Original poster

To not want people in our hot tub

198 replies

Lockdown12 · 30/05/2020 14:08

This is very trivial, but DH and I disagree and want to hear others views!

DH and I have a group of friends we socialise with regularly. They are very hospitable and will often have us round to their house for BBQ's, meals, drinks etc. (Pre lockdown). They come to our house also but not as often because they prefer to host.

During lockdown we bought an inflatable hot tub and they've asked us about it a lot and have shown interest in getting their own.

Now the announcement has come out that we are allowed to get together in gardens with friends and families in small groups has come out they are asking if they can come to our house for a BBQ and try out the hot tub.

I'm comfortable to have people round as I'm at work anyway so have to mix anyway. But... I just feel a bit grossed out by having other people in our hot tub. I just keep thinking it's like having a bath with other people and our neighbors will think we're swingers 😂

DH thinks it's fine and wants to say yes and feels we would be rude to say no.

So...

Yabu- it's unfair not to let your friends in your hot tub

Yanbu- it's okay to not let your friends in your hot tub

OP posts:
Waveysnail · 30/05/2020 14:10

Not advisable at the moment as you would have to disinfect after each person. Pretty sure if they need use bathroom in an emergency the same applies

silverstrawberry · 30/05/2020 14:11

Firstly How easy is it to change the water on those things ?secondly please don't live your life worrying what people will think of you

YahBasic · 30/05/2020 14:12

I think it depends on how many people - surely you can’t socially distance in a hot tub, and you’d ideally want to be cleaning it between different households using it etc.

Sparklesocks · 30/05/2020 14:13

I don’t think you could socially distance in a hot tub? Unless they got in it without you while you sat nearby 2m away fully clothed which would be a bit strange??

BuffaloCauliflower · 30/05/2020 14:13

Well at the moment even with meeting in garden’s social distancing still applies, so they can’t really get in the hot tub. But generally, I’d say they’re quite social things, everyone gets in my SILs (proper built in one) but it’s your house and your hot tub so if you don’t like the idea of sharing that’s up to you

BissueTox · 30/05/2020 14:13

I agree with you! I would not like anyone else in my hot tub.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 30/05/2020 14:14

How are you going to be 2m apart in a hottub

fiftyandfat · 30/05/2020 14:14

It would be contrary to infection control guidelines atm anyway. If dh wants to share it with other people he will have to move out and quarantine for 2 weeks.

LaurieMarlow · 30/05/2020 14:15

It’s your hot tub, you call the shots.

It’s not possible at the minute anyway, so just say no.

TheoriginalLEM · 30/05/2020 14:15

Ewwww I wouldn't want it either. I once had to get in a hot tub with my boss, his wife and another couple I didn't know. It was fucking excruciating. Never EVER again.

poozel · 30/05/2020 14:15

We have one and I wouldn't want anyone in it just now.

Total headache. Where do they change. Not meant to use toilet. Getting out dripping wet and going well where?

To hot for hot tub anyway!

Just say you have had to balance the chemical. Or change the water and needs to stabilise.

Original poster
Lockdown12 · 30/05/2020 14:16

Yeah I agree with the difficulty socially distancing thing but also think it will come up again in the future when that won't be a reasonable explanation!

OP posts:
Pelleas · 30/05/2020 14:16

Unless you are chlorinating the water, I wouldn't.

Perisoire · 30/05/2020 14:17

YANBU, tell them it doesn’t work.

Or that it’s your sex pond Wink

Bienentrinkwasser · 30/05/2020 14:17

Assuming the water in your hot tub is properly chlorinated, it’s nothing like sharing a bath and poses almost no risk in terms of infection (although obviously you couldn’t get in together with social distancing). It’s your hot tub though and you can definitely say no!

DramaAlpaca · 30/05/2020 14:19

If I had a hot tub it would be for immediate family only. The thought of sharing one with anyone else makes me shudder.

Windyatthebeach · 30/05/2020 14:21

Poo crumbs...
No way...
Envy
Not envy...
Yanbu op.

caramac04 · 30/05/2020 14:21

I wouldn’t want to share a hot tub if I had one but I’ve been very happy to share hot tubs with strangers at Center Parcs. Go figure. I’m weird.

JoesExotic · 30/05/2020 14:21

Lynn, these are sex people! Wink

InkogKneeToe · 30/05/2020 14:22

"you're welcome to come round and use our dirty sex pond, sorry, I mean hot tub, any time you like"

That should do it.

redwoodmazza · 30/05/2020 14:23

We have one [not been using it at the moment] but I would definitely NOT let anyone other than my DH go in it!
So it's a NO from me.

MissEliza · 30/05/2020 14:24

YANBU Op.

A82971151 · 30/05/2020 14:25

You can’t social distance in a hot tub though? Unless you mean you will take turns? Still no I wouldn’t fancy letting others in it myself. If I had one I wouldn’t let anyone else from outside the home use it 🤣

LouLouLoo · 30/05/2020 14:26

You’re not allowed to share paddling pools at the moment, so I’m sure hot tubs would fall into this category as well. That gives you an excuse for the rest of this year!

I generally wouldn’t have a problem with other people using it though, the chemicals kill anything germ related.

I know a couple of people with full size built in ones and quite a lot with inflatable ones, without exception they invite visitors to use them.

However, your tub your rules.

iMatter · 30/05/2020 14:26

Tell them to make sure they bring their own Canestan