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To not want people in our hot tub

198 replies

Lockdown12 · 30/05/2020 14:08

This is very trivial, but DH and I disagree and want to hear others views!

DH and I have a group of friends we socialise with regularly. They are very hospitable and will often have us round to their house for BBQ's, meals, drinks etc. (Pre lockdown). They come to our house also but not as often because they prefer to host.

During lockdown we bought an inflatable hot tub and they've asked us about it a lot and have shown interest in getting their own.

Now the announcement has come out that we are allowed to get together in gardens with friends and families in small groups has come out they are asking if they can come to our house for a BBQ and try out the hot tub.

I'm comfortable to have people round as I'm at work anyway so have to mix anyway. But... I just feel a bit grossed out by having other people in our hot tub. I just keep thinking it's like having a bath with other people and our neighbors will think we're swingers 😂

DH thinks it's fine and wants to say yes and feels we would be rude to say no.

So...

Yabu- it's unfair not to let your friends in your hot tub

Yanbu- it's okay to not let your friends in your hot tub

OP posts:
Beautiful3 · 30/05/2020 14:53

Not at the moment because water is the biggest carrier of germs. Could you let them after lock down then drain out the tub afterwards?

Youneverknowwhatyourgonnaget · 30/05/2020 14:54

We got one for lockdown too but absolutely will not be sharing with anyone. We have said my daughter can have her friends round to go in it when allowed but think I would have to empty the water after🤷‍♀️

Apirateslifeforme · 30/05/2020 14:58

In normal times I wouldn't have much of a problem with it.
In fact I said to DH this morning, when we have people over they can use the hot tub.

But given a bit of thought after, that means that our friends have to trail through the house, and either to my bedroom to use my ensuite or up another flight of stairs to use the family bathroom if they shower before/after using it.
That to me seems unreasonable.
I wouldnt worry about the tub itself as its chlorinated, but the entire house then becomes "open" to everyone too.

ListeningQuietly · 30/05/2020 15:01

Friday Night Dinner

WarminsterMum · 30/05/2020 15:02

My step children uses their mothers and they as a family have lots of extended family members over to use it. Even through lockdown. I dread to think what kind of major germ fest it is. It’s such a risk to my DSC at the moment, then the DSC come to our house and might expose us to germ fest 2020.

recycledteenager24 · 30/05/2020 15:03

i'm the only one who thinks they are naff and grim then ! Grin
your tub your rules, i'd say no way though, let them buy their own and they can try it out at home instead.

Dahlietta · 30/05/2020 15:03

I am not sure that it’s in the spirit of lockdown. Post-lockdown I don’t think it’s too gross, but definitely don’t leave them alone in there.

SpilltheTea · 30/05/2020 15:04

I wouldn't want to be in a hot tub with other people either.

Feedingthebirds1 · 30/05/2020 15:04

I think this demonstrates the differences between the brains of (many) men and (many) women!! DH thinks of it just as a fun thing to do, OP like some of us here think yuck.

OP it's not possible to do it right now. The rules say that although you can meet a group of up to six people in the garden, they must still be 2m apart. And then there's everything else around it as PPs have mentioned, where do they get changed before and after, are they going to want to use your shower as well?

When it IS possible to do so, can you agree a compromise with DH? They get to use it once only to try it out - which is, after all, what they say they want to do. When they've gone, DH thoroughly cleans it and refills it, and they don't get to go in it again. Otherwise they'll change their mind about buying one, and it'll be 'We don't need to buy one, do we? We can just come round and use yours.'

Tara336 · 30/05/2020 15:07

This is exactly why I don’t like hot tubs ....

YouokHun · 30/05/2020 15:07

There’s nothing I like better than sitting in a soup of bodily fluids and other human detritus. I’m only sorry that right now I have to add Covid19 to the list of ailments offered by hot tubs.

Don’t let anyone in it OP!

LocksMyth · 30/05/2020 15:09

Just say no. Your tub, your rules😊

pcmcgregor · 30/05/2020 15:10

There's evidence that chlorine definitely kills coronavirus and other germs too provided you have the right levels. However the reason swimming pools are still closed is all the other stuff when you're outside the actual pool. You'd have to consider the same things for sharing your pool. Where will they change, will they bring their own towels, they'll need to disinfect any part of the spa that they touch. Lots of hassle really. We have one and have often had other couples over to have a drink and a spa, it's quite sociable, ours is a fairly big one though. I always want the water changing if there's been children in it, or if there's been a few other people in.

recycledteenager24 · 30/05/2020 15:11

would dh think it was such a fun idea if it was him and a couple of male friends ? i can't help thinking it the female element he likes, swim wear and very close up.

LocksMyth · 30/05/2020 15:13

... And for the record my neighbours have a hot tub and a bar in their back garden... they get inundated with requests to try it out..generally by cheeky fuckers.

2littleguineas · 30/05/2020 15:17

I'd let them try it out but wouldn't be getting in with them and would drop lots of hints that them trying it out is for their research purposes only and getting in a hot tub with friends is not something you're ever going to do.

Lifeisabeach09 · 30/05/2020 15:19

Ok, normally. Just clean out/replace water after use. However, in current times, you won't be able to social distance.

LyndaSnellsSniff · 30/05/2020 15:20

As the neighbour of the new owners of a hot tub I’d say YABU to have on in the first place. Constant humming noise in the background and like an aircraft taking off when the jets get switched on. Plus the bellowing voices vying to be heard over the noise.

I’m dreading the day when they start inviting fellow bellowers over for shouting parties.

Aside from how annoying hot tubs are for your neighbours, YANBU. Grim.

Murinae · 30/05/2020 15:24

I recommend the pumps you can get to empty them out quickly. It’s made changing the water in ours so much easier.

Cornishclio · 30/05/2020 15:26

You cant social distance in one and they are a breeding ground for germs. Presumably you would be sitting opposite one of your friends so breathing in her or his exhaled air. YANBU.

DC1JackieReid · 30/05/2020 15:31

🤢 just send them that face. And tell them to bring masks because the bubbles make you fart a lot 😂

Wankpuffin · 30/05/2020 15:33

God, that would be gross.

I don’t even go swimming and never have done because I can’t stand the though if other peoples body’s in the same water (not just germs - stray bit of hair, scabs!). In a small space like a hot tub that would be even worse.

terrelontane · 30/05/2020 15:37

Ew, no. Body bits soup Envy

MissEliza · 30/05/2020 15:39

@Cornishclio is right. You can't stay 2m
apart in one so end of discussion.

Embracelife · 30/05/2020 15:45

Send them a link to a hot tub hire place so they can try one in their own garden.

What s to "try" anyway?

For size? To see what they can do in it?

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