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To not want people in our hot tub

198 replies

Lockdown12 · 30/05/2020 14:08

This is very trivial, but DH and I disagree and want to hear others views!

DH and I have a group of friends we socialise with regularly. They are very hospitable and will often have us round to their house for BBQ's, meals, drinks etc. (Pre lockdown). They come to our house also but not as often because they prefer to host.

During lockdown we bought an inflatable hot tub and they've asked us about it a lot and have shown interest in getting their own.

Now the announcement has come out that we are allowed to get together in gardens with friends and families in small groups has come out they are asking if they can come to our house for a BBQ and try out the hot tub.

I'm comfortable to have people round as I'm at work anyway so have to mix anyway. But... I just feel a bit grossed out by having other people in our hot tub. I just keep thinking it's like having a bath with other people and our neighbors will think we're swingers 😂

DH thinks it's fine and wants to say yes and feels we would be rude to say no.

So...

Yabu- it's unfair not to let your friends in your hot tub

Yanbu- it's okay to not let your friends in your hot tub

OP posts:
madcatladyforever · 30/05/2020 14:26

Absolutely not in the current covid crisis, and outside of that only very very close friends and only if everyone takes a shower first.

Mamadothehump · 30/05/2020 14:26

Not during lockdown but otherwise I don't see the issue (we have one) It's chlorinated so just like sharing a small swimming pool really 🤷‍♀️
I went away with 5 other friends before lockdown and there was a tiny one in the cottage gardens. All of us piled in, limbs everywhere! We were pissed though!!

kittykarate · 30/05/2020 14:28

Jeez no! Even without Covid-19 I wouldn't want to get into someone else's human soup either.

Are you sure they're not tapping you up to be swingers? First its having a go of the hottub... next it'll be having a go of the husband Grin

InfiniteSheldon · 30/05/2020 14:29

We've recently been in the same position and I sent my friend a link to a survey that found a teaspoon of excrement in a shared hottub and said sorry but this has grossed me out so much me and dh have decided only us in the hottub. We both wash before we use it Envy

Mistystar99 · 30/05/2020 14:29

I always wee in hot tubs.
Hope this helps.

unlikelytobe · 30/05/2020 14:31

I find hot tubs a bit naff TBH but if I had one it would be solely for our use not all and sundry. I suppose it's meant to be a sociable thing, all sitting in the tub, glass of vino in hand. A hard one to explain to your pals though. They'll think you're saying they're scuzzy.

Dinoctoblock · 30/05/2020 14:31

We let other people in ours. It’s chlorinated, like going to the swimming pool. Everyone wears a swimming costume or trunks.

But not just now. Can’t socially distance and although we chlorinate the water, the levels fluctuate a lot as it’s warm water so I couldn’t guarantee it was perfect conditions. Also, does chlorine kill covid? I don’t like the idea of going to a swimming pool just now.

Elieza · 30/05/2020 14:33

You can’t be sharing the water in a hot tub with others. Swimming pools are still shut!

You could either just say no it’s it allowed just now withCV.

Or let them use it to try it out like they want while you and DH stay 2m away (You’re both NOT in the hot tub, only them) and then once they’ve gone you disinfect it. Although I still think that’s dangerous if they are symptomless carriers of cv as you will be cleaning it without whatever ppe you’d need?

How long were they planning on staying for anyway? We aren’t supposed to use the toilets in others houses so just an hour or two?

Cleaning it out after that short a time seems like a lot of work.

littlenickyy61 · 30/05/2020 14:33

I would be tempted to say unfortunately the hot tub is just for you and your husband as in order for it to be safe and clean for anyone else you would have to chlorinate it which you don't want to do .

littlenickyy61 · 30/05/2020 14:35

just wanted to add I don't mean by chlorinating it it will be safe against Covid I mean in general terms for the future as obviously no one should be sharing hot tub or swimming pool at the moment

wanderings · 30/05/2020 14:37

What would St Dominic do?

Murinae · 30/05/2020 14:38

We have one and I have let my sister in it and one friend with her young daughter. No one but us had been in it since lockdown! I’m pretty sure the chlorine would kill off any coronavirus though.

NewYearNewTwatName · 30/05/2020 14:40

Hot tubs are chlorinated 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ so no point saying that.

immediate family only in ours. I can't bear the thought of being in it with other people.

not sure how you could word it to them though.

81Byerley · 30/05/2020 14:40

Next time it's suggested, just laugh and say "Eeeeew, like sharing a bath!"

Coffeecak3 · 30/05/2020 14:40

A hot tub should always be chlorinated anyway @littlenickyy61 otherwise it's a health hazard for anybody.
From an infection pov it's not a problem but from a social distancing and the yuk factor it would be a no for me.
I've shared a hot tub twice, once with a group of close female friends (hen do)and with my best friend and her family.
If you're not comfortable then don't do it.

Walkingthedog46 · 30/05/2020 14:40

If you say yes, it could escalate! Other friends get to hear that people have been round to give your hot tub a try, and the next thing would be they’d all want to have a go. It would be a no from me.

Aretheystillasleepbob · 30/05/2020 14:42

No, you aren't even supposed to share a paddling pool at the moment, how on earth would you social distance in an inflatable hot tub? Now's not the time...

ItsInTheShed · 30/05/2020 14:42

they are a germ cesspit....even with the chlorine stuff!

avoid

daisychain01 · 30/05/2020 14:44

Just say no.

You don't have to justify your choice, simple as.

Notnownotneverever · 30/05/2020 14:45

I am 100% certain that the gradual lifting of lockdown measures in gardens did not include inviting people to bath outside with you in your hot tub. So obvious in fact the government didn't think to specify it as a restriction.

CorianderLord · 30/05/2020 14:45

If coronavirus wasn't around I'd say you were being weird because it's just like being in a pool with people.

But, corona is around so no don't let them in

Branleuse · 30/05/2020 14:45

I wouldnt want them to either. How awkward

NotKeenOnSwede · 30/05/2020 14:45

Tell them you've got thrush

LAMPS1 · 30/05/2020 14:46

YANBU.
In the middle of a pandemic still, and they want to use somebody else’s hot tub ?

That’s a cheeky/crazy idea from them.

pilates · 30/05/2020 14:49

In the current situation definitely not. As others have said you are still supposed to be keeping 2 metres. If I had to have one it would be for my immediate family only.

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