To not want people in our hot tub

[Lockdown12]

This is very trivial, but DH and I disagree and want to hear others views!

DH and I have a group of friends we socialise with regularly. They are very hospitable and will often have us round to their house for BBQ's, meals, drinks etc. (Pre lockdown). They come to our house also but not as often because they prefer to host.

During lockdown we bought an inflatable hot tub and they've asked us about it a lot and have shown interest in getting their own.

Now the announcement has come out that we are allowed to get together in gardens with friends and families in small groups has come out they are asking if they can come to our house for a BBQ and try out the hot tub.

I'm comfortable to have people round as I'm at work anyway so have to mix anyway. But... I just feel a bit grossed out by having other people in our hot tub. I just keep thinking it's like having a bath with other people and our neighbors will think we're swingers 😂

DH thinks it's fine and wants to say yes and feels we would be rude to say no.

So...

Yabu- it's unfair not to let your friends in your hot tub

Yanbu- it's okay to not let your friends in your hot tub

anyone with a hot tub should read this blog first. enough to put you off going in alone let alone with someone else

www.thebeachhaven.co.uk/so-you-want-a-holiday-cottage-in-cornwall-with-a-hot-tub/

OP, current guidelines also advise you NOT to have BBQ unless everyone brings their own plates, cutlery glasses etc.and food. It's too easy to pass something round, bottle of ketchup, beer etc and so pass on the virus. Do not touch anything that someone else has touched, just to be on the safe side, BBQs are not advised.

Just tell them it's a grand thing.. and you'd recommend they get one...

I have answered based on normal times. Under normal circumstances then I have no problem sharing a hot tub with friends - do you never use a jacuzzi at a spa or swimming centre? You have to share with strangers then.

However, in the current climate its a firm no. You still have to social distance and can only socialise in the garden (they are not meant to be going into your home). Even if you agreed that only they would use the hot tub (and then you had to empty and disinfect before you could use it again), where will they get changed after? They can’t go into your house as they are no allowed and its too risky.

Hot tubs are absolutely packed with chlorine. I'd not worry about it and they have them in hotels,spas etc. They are designed to be shared really. Obviously you couldn't go in together atm but no reason they can't use it then wipe down the out of water areas that I can see

Mummymeister nailed it (and that’s the reason I never go into hotel jacuzzis either anymore)

@recycledteenager24

i'm the only one who thinks they are naff and grim then ! your tub your rules, i'd say no way though, let them buy their own and they can try it out at home instead.

Nope, they're awful. An actual hot tub in the garden is bad enough. A big inflatable thing is beyond awful.

Incidentally, I know a fair few people who have them and none test or treat the water sufficiently. Nothing in this world could get me into someone's hot tub!!

Yuck, YANBU.

@clockworklime

Bum and minge fluff, arse pubes and crack sweat soup.

Enjoy!

That is so out of order. I’ll have you know our hot tub is at least 80% lube.

I wouldn't. I assume your friends haven't heard of Covid. I wouldn't be keen under normal circumstances.

Assuming this is about the friends coming over when you're not there and using it, and not sharing it at the same time with you ... I still think it's a really daft idea. You'd get through a lot of chlorine!

Loads of surfaces around it to disinfect. Jeez, your DH sounds EXACTLY like one of the idiots who thinks we're all out of the woods and will trigger a second spike.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52848793

Are you planning on social distancing with these friends when they come over for a new or are you at the fuck it stage??
If still social distancing then you have a very good reason not yo let them use it.
Tbh, it sounds like your husband has given up on sd if he thinks this is ok.

Not now, no way

Yuk, don't understand the whole hot tub thing, let alone sharing with anyone other than your loved ones (and even that I wouldn't do!)

I would say YABU because your argument really doesn't stack up and it's not remotely like sharing a bath: do you not go to swimming pools for the same reason?

In saying that, it's your hot tub. If you don't want to do it, don't but you're going to need a better excuse than that.

Just say it's too small.

Normally yabu. Under these circumstances no due to the fact it will need cleaning after and there couldn't be social distancing ; it would be odd for them to be in it and you not joining them.

obviously in normal situation (not social distancing) it’s the same as using a public jacuzzi or even swimming pool. It’s chemicals kill all the bacteria and so why not share? I have a built in one and have friends in and my children have friends in, don’t see the problem.

Do you have any Male children?,you could complain to your friend how your sick of your kids using it as a outdoor urinal.Then as your ringing off say "oh are you and x still up for coming over for a bbq and a soak?".

If someone wants to use our swimming pool we over-chlorinate it in advance. It avoids the yuck factor and discourages them from asking a second time.

I would just say you'd love to see them for a bbq/ drinks but the hot tub is out of use unfortunately due to child / per weeing/ vomiting and it's being disinfected. Put the cover over it and dont mention it .

That should say child or pet

A JTF locally to us had a breakout of Legionnaires Disease from a display hot tub.
It killed 2 people, hospitalised several others and JTF were fined a million over it:

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-stoke-staffordshire-40479742

You are supposed to have a float containing chlorine in hot tubs, I do in mine. This is what makes it different to having a bath so the water is kept disinfected