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To not want people in our hot tub

198 replies

Lockdown12 · 30/05/2020 14:08

This is very trivial, but DH and I disagree and want to hear others views!

DH and I have a group of friends we socialise with regularly. They are very hospitable and will often have us round to their house for BBQ's, meals, drinks etc. (Pre lockdown). They come to our house also but not as often because they prefer to host.

During lockdown we bought an inflatable hot tub and they've asked us about it a lot and have shown interest in getting their own.

Now the announcement has come out that we are allowed to get together in gardens with friends and families in small groups has come out they are asking if they can come to our house for a BBQ and try out the hot tub.

I'm comfortable to have people round as I'm at work anyway so have to mix anyway. But... I just feel a bit grossed out by having other people in our hot tub. I just keep thinking it's like having a bath with other people and our neighbors will think we're swingers 😂

DH thinks it's fine and wants to say yes and feels we would be rude to say no.

So...

Yabu- it's unfair not to let your friends in your hot tub

Yanbu- it's okay to not let your friends in your hot tub

OP posts:
WalkTheLine99 · 30/05/2020 16:30

My mum and stepdad have a hot tub and keep going at me to have a go. I really don’t want to, but I’d love one of my own. Luckily I can’t at the moment as I’m pregnant, and the lockdown Ofc. I’ve only 2 weeks left before I’m due though and lockdown looks like it will be over before much longer than that so I’m running out of excuses 🙈

EmbarrassedUser · 30/05/2020 16:33

I’ve jokingly told our friends to get a larger hot tub so we can come over but I don’t mean it and won’t be offended when we don’t get an invite to use it. YANBU and it’s your decision how to use your property.

Redrosesandsunsets · 30/05/2020 16:35

Currently with covid just say no but these comments here are funny as people get upset about all this. Hot tubs are for leisure/fun and not worrying about every little thing.

Lollypop4 · 30/05/2020 16:36

I wouldnt allow anyone in my hot tub

DamnYankee · 30/05/2020 16:46

@Redrosesandsunsets Hot tubs are for leisure/fun and not worrying about every little thing

^ This. I had no idea some people analyzed hot tubs like this!
OP's got to be regretting her decision to get one in the first place, now.

LookMoreCloselier · 30/05/2020 16:46

We have one,not an inflatable one, wouldn't allow others in it just now, ordinarily it's just me and the kids who use it anyway, there have been around 10 times other than that where our friends and family have used it. I feel a bit weird about asking others to come use our hot tub as it does sound a bit creepy... However dh and I have never had sex in it so it's not a sex pond in our case. Its chlorinated and water changed fairly regularly. It's very clean, the water looks clear or we wouldn't use it.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 30/05/2020 17:04

My first thought is Germ soup and second thought is that I wouldn't want guests to use my bath tub either - and it would probably be a lot of effort cleaning it afterwards too.
Just say no during lock down and then afterwards there could be a minor defect which needs to be fixed so its not possible, or a fox got in and poo'd in it or something until they stop asking. And get your husband to back you up.

LellyMcKelly · 30/05/2020 17:14

Eww, hot bum juice city. Disgusting things at the best of times but having a bath with your mates? Ugh, no way!

ShowOfHands · 30/05/2020 17:20

They're referred to as sex ponds in our house too.

Our neighbours have one and their friends come over and sit in it with them. They get in at 7pm ish and stay there all night with bottles of wine and beer in easy reach, getting gradually more sloshed. They never, ever get out for a wee. In fact, I've heard them joke about adding extra chlorine to deal with how much the wine makes them wee.

verybritishproblems · 30/05/2020 17:20

Never mind whether it’s ick or not, unless it’s huge you can’t social distance in the average hot tub.

CrystalTipped · 30/05/2020 17:27

They're taking the piss. There's sitting in a relaxed group having a bbq, and then there's swilling around in each others germs and potentially bodily fluids (especially if children are involved.) No. Send them the link for buying their own. Deflate it when they are coming over.

fuckoffImcounting · 30/05/2020 17:28

Let them wash their botties in their own tub.

AdaColeman · 30/05/2020 17:29

YANBU
Chlamydia soup!

Flyinggeese · 30/05/2020 17:32

OP if I was in your position I'd just dodge the question entirely - or kick it into the long grass by replying that maybe after the social distancing rules allow it and just ever mention it again. If they push just say it's out of use until you get chance to clean it etc. Last resort start referring to it as' the sex pond'. Kidding.

SJaneS48 · 30/05/2020 17:32

Our new next door neighbours have one and had guests over 2 weeks ago and were in it together (our gardens are small so there isn’t much we can keep secret!). But no, absolutely not during our current restrictions..and even after it’s all just a bit grim! My parents has one once and I found the idea of sitting in their skin cells, body stuff etc bubbling away really revolting. So yeah, I’d find an excuse!

GlamGiraffe · 30/05/2020 17:35

YANBU. it's your personal space. Agrer with other posters, it's a social distancing no non snd I am definitely not a person who goes in for the shared jacuzzi thing at any time anyway.
If you dont want to tell them, just say you are having a problem keeping the water slime free and it keeps blocking up (algae of the like), that will definitely deter them😁). Tell your husband this Is non negotiable and cover the hot tub and turn it off when they come round .

Onesnowynight · 30/05/2020 17:41

Sharing hot tubs is gross. I imagine loads of bacteria from orifices multiplying and having their own party, as I bet people don’t mix the chemicals correct. (That’s how I see it in my head, not necessarily fact!)

SonjaMorgan · 30/05/2020 17:42

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I am not friends with anyone with poor personal hygiene and no way would the neighbours think we were that interesting.

erniepigy · 30/05/2020 17:46

Easy to say no for now due to virus but after might be a problem. Can you deflate it and loan it to them? It might stop them wanting to do it again.
Personally I’d be horrified having people in my water, I know many do but ewww, not for me.

Jaxhog · 30/05/2020 17:47

Sharing a hot tub with other people is gross at the best of times. Right now, I definitely wouldn't. I'm also sure it is not what the government had in mind when they said people could now meet up.

How can you socially distance in a hot tub?

Unless you sanitise it, then fill it for just them, and empty and sanitise it afterwards. But that wouldn't be any fun for you.

Strawberrycreamsundae · 30/05/2020 17:48

Human soup 🤢

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 30/05/2020 17:52

I think it’s ok ordinarily if you were if you all shower first and tub well afterwards but definitely not during a pandemic...

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 30/05/2020 17:53

Clean tub I mean...

Bluesmartiesarethebest · 30/05/2020 17:56

No different to a swimming pool, that's if you chlorinate. That said if you don't chlorinate you need to change the water every use so it's a bit of a chew on anyway

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