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To not want people in our hot tub

198 replies

Lockdown12 · 30/05/2020 14:08

This is very trivial, but DH and I disagree and want to hear others views!

DH and I have a group of friends we socialise with regularly. They are very hospitable and will often have us round to their house for BBQ's, meals, drinks etc. (Pre lockdown). They come to our house also but not as often because they prefer to host.

During lockdown we bought an inflatable hot tub and they've asked us about it a lot and have shown interest in getting their own.

Now the announcement has come out that we are allowed to get together in gardens with friends and families in small groups has come out they are asking if they can come to our house for a BBQ and try out the hot tub.

I'm comfortable to have people round as I'm at work anyway so have to mix anyway. But... I just feel a bit grossed out by having other people in our hot tub. I just keep thinking it's like having a bath with other people and our neighbors will think we're swingers 😂

DH thinks it's fine and wants to say yes and feels we would be rude to say no.

So...

Yabu- it's unfair not to let your friends in your hot tub

Yanbu- it's okay to not let your friends in your hot tub

OP posts:
joystir59 · 31/05/2020 17:54

They fancy you both OP Wink

TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 31/05/2020 17:54

Hot tubs are nothing more than simmering pans for people. Honestly, if it wasn’t by the bleach (disinfectant) added you them, you would see a film of fat over them when they cool down. People are sweating big time while seating in them and all that and other bodily oils end up in the water.

Play the coronavirus card and keep them out of your hot tub, you are right in thinking it is like having them all in your bath.

bigmumsymcgraw · 31/05/2020 17:57

Im with you YUK No way would I let them in!

saveeno · 31/05/2020 18:06

Hot tubs bring some things to mind. But whatever. I would NEVER have one, but each to their own, Sleazy and Swingers yes that's it.

How anyone could bear this is beyond me. But then again... who am I to judge anyone. Each to their own, just don't invite me!

CrisisCrunchie · 31/05/2020 18:09

@InFiveMins

All the "2m distance", "guidelines" and "it's against the rules" comments... bore off.

OP I wouldn't think you were swingers but I think it would look a bit odd with 4 adults squashed together in an inflatable hot tub Confused

I would tell them it isn't quite big enough or comfortable for 4 adults but that they are absolutely welcome to try it out. Let them try it if they want to and then you can change the water afterwards.

This! I let our neighbours go in ours to try it out as they were thinking about getting one .. they kept asking us to go in with them though & that wasn’t happening - too close quarters for anyone but family in my book! We emptied & cleaned it afterwards
Elsie1966 · 31/05/2020 18:16

If you're happy and comfortable to have them round to yours then surely they could try the tub? Perhaps they not expecting you ALL TO GET IN AT ONCE though op

Dougalthesyrianhamster · 31/05/2020 18:25

@Captainmarvel0160 with due respect they know better than to pee in there it's not the toilet.

Haha! Do you really believe that?! GrinGrinGrin

billy1966 · 31/05/2020 18:36

Eugh.
Are they anxious to try one out?

If they are, and your husband is anxious to be seen to generous....I would invite them to try it out as a couple only...if you have the chlorine tablets to disinfect it.

I must admit they wouldn't be my thing, but I definitely wouldn't share one, so can understand your reluctance.

OscarWildesCat · 31/05/2020 18:39

I hear you OP, it would gross me out too. Use the social distancing excuse for now.

OliNoah · 31/05/2020 19:15

Unless they have a shower first I wouldn’t want people in my hot tub it can cause loads skin issues if water is contaminated (have a little google) that’s before the whole pandemic thing so especially atm I wouldn’t

Barmychick · 31/05/2020 19:18

2 metres

MacBlank · 31/05/2020 19:32

You're not talking of just now are you? You mean at any time.

So when you have guests/family stay over, do they not use the bath?

Who doesn't want to share their hot tub? I mean, that why you got it, wasn't it?

I wished I had a garden I could use, let alone a nice hot tub. The people I know, I wouldn't let them use it, but then again, I wouldn't let them use much of mine!

My fiancée's daughter n her family would be more than welcome to use it, but I doubt v much they'd want us (me n her mum) to join them! lol

Riotgirlxxx · 31/05/2020 19:38

Tbh I have been with friends in a hot tub on holiday a few times. I never realised it could be considered weird!

Definitely wouldn't be doing it just now though, remind them it's not allowed under the current guidelines

Bluntness100 · 31/05/2020 19:43

I find hot tubs a bit yuck at rh best of times and find it weird that anyone would want to sit all close up with their mates in one.

However, as much as it isn’t my scene. I’d let them use it then just change the water after. Although I assume it has chemicals in which would likely kill any virus.

Celestine70 · 31/05/2020 20:07

Even without covid I wouldn't want other people in my hot tub. And I wouldn't go in other peoples.

Brockaslass · 31/05/2020 20:14

Hit water is a breeding ground for Coronavirus. The lockdown rule's advise against sharing things, although they don't specifically mention hot tubs they really should. I have known so many diseases been could by friends sharing hottubs but at this time it's defo a no. You can't and shouldn't risk it.

saveeno · 31/05/2020 20:47

Hot Tubs spell sex to me. Why else would you get into the tub with neighbours and be kind of undressed.

Sex machines and they should be banned for the noise anyway!

saveeno · 31/05/2020 21:21

Sleazy if not your immediate family. But try and find a teenager who will partake. lol.

Sounds like a petrie dish of infection even before the pandemic, but each to their own.

Sex is the word for hot tubs. Come on now and admit it! Honestly.

LoveIslandVirgin · 31/05/2020 21:30

No, some things should not be shared, a hot tub is one of them.

Footywife · 31/05/2020 21:40

Covid or not....it’s rank to let other people into your hot tub.....especially one of those blow up things. Eeeew!

clockworklime · 31/05/2020 21:44

Bum and minge fluff, arse pubes and crack sweat soup.

Enjoy!

Commonwasher · 31/05/2020 22:15

Did you see that Daily Mash article about hot tubs? The title was something like ‘Hot tub owners try to pretend it’s not a filthy sex pond.’ Wink

At the moment I think you can perfectly reasonably say no hot tub visitors because of covid19. Hopefully by then you’ll have set a precedent. Or if DH wants to invite people to sit in it with him he’ll have to clean it after...

saveeno · 31/05/2020 22:18

Hot tubs are for a certain cohort. Full of germs and other stuff. Ugh.

Don't get the attraction for them myself at all. But each to their own I suppose.

Ineke · 01/06/2020 00:29

At the moment with Covid it's a definite NO. What ever surface they touch would need to be sanitised and the water changed, and the tub deep cleaned. After the pandemic then it's up to you but if it was me I would not particularly want to share a hot tub with anyone other than family. Tricky one. Maybe you could loan it to them if it's an inflatable? I'm afraid that since this virus I've become very OCD about infection control etc and shaking a hot top with another household would make me extremely anxious. There is no way I would unless there was lots of chlorine in the water!

Titsywoo · 01/06/2020 00:35

I just don't get hot tubs at all. If my mates came over and i said oh lets all sit in my bath together while we have a chat they'd think i was mental or a bit of a perv. But because it's outside its ok?