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To not want people in our hot tub

198 replies

Lockdown12 · 30/05/2020 14:08

This is very trivial, but DH and I disagree and want to hear others views!

DH and I have a group of friends we socialise with regularly. They are very hospitable and will often have us round to their house for BBQ's, meals, drinks etc. (Pre lockdown). They come to our house also but not as often because they prefer to host.

During lockdown we bought an inflatable hot tub and they've asked us about it a lot and have shown interest in getting their own.

Now the announcement has come out that we are allowed to get together in gardens with friends and families in small groups has come out they are asking if they can come to our house for a BBQ and try out the hot tub.

I'm comfortable to have people round as I'm at work anyway so have to mix anyway. But... I just feel a bit grossed out by having other people in our hot tub. I just keep thinking it's like having a bath with other people and our neighbors will think we're swingers 😂

DH thinks it's fine and wants to say yes and feels we would be rude to say no.

So...

Yabu- it's unfair not to let your friends in your hot tub

Yanbu- it's okay to not let your friends in your hot tub

OP posts:
DancingFox · 30/05/2020 15:46

Yes, you won't be able to share hot tubs at the moment anyway (I don't' think). But even without lockdown, I think it's entitled to invite yourselves to use a friends' new hot tub and have a BBQ. If they'd have said "It'd be lovely to have a hot tub/BBQ party at yours one day" then it shows they'd be up for doing that without putting the OP on the spot.

frankenpie · 30/05/2020 15:49

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DancingFox · 30/05/2020 15:49

Embrace I would guess some people who are interested in having one would love to see it up close and in action, eg how warm it is, how good the jets are, how much room it takes up, how many people it comfortably fits, what it's like to clean/maintain, how easy to get in and out of etc so they can get an idea of that particular model as a starting point to either get one exactly the same, or a bit bigger/smaller/deeper/whatever. Or not bother, if they don't think it's worth it, in which case they've saved themselves the £££ Smile

LakieLady · 30/05/2020 15:50

@recycledteenager24, I agree with you! The very thought is a bit icky.

JustStayHome · 30/05/2020 15:51

I wouldnt regardless of covid-19

But at the moment, yes you are allowed people round BUT not within 2 meters of each other.
Sharing a hot tub is asking for trouble

JustStayHome · 30/05/2020 15:52

But i wouldnt go in anyones full stop.
Wouldnt have one of my own !

I think its all gross !

Neverender · 30/05/2020 15:53

If just put the lid on it and don't tell them to bring their swimming stuff.

Stannisbaratheonsboxofmatches · 30/05/2020 15:54

Definitely not at the moment. Not hygienic.

Wankpuffin · 30/05/2020 15:55

I always think of this Family Guy joke.

timeisnotaline · 30/05/2020 15:56

This is just weird. Imagine having a swimming pool and saying no we don’t like anyone else in it. They’re both chlorinated, it’s not at all like sharing a bath.

You can’t socially distance in one so it’s a no for now, but a no for ever is a bit ... I’d assume you do have lots of sex in it as why else wouldn’t you want anyone else in it!

TerrapinStation · 30/05/2020 15:59

Did they actually say they wanted to go in at the same time as you? Don't they want to try it out as research before they buy one by themselves.

In the current circa it's totally reasonable to say no though, no need to feel bad.

Cherrysoup · 30/05/2020 16:02

No. How could you disinfect the bits they have to touch to get in or out?

TimeWastingButFun · 30/05/2020 16:04

I really like my friends but I don't want to share a bath with them outside, YANBU.

Roselilly36 · 30/05/2020 16:04

YANBU OP we have a hot tub only our immediate family use it. Use SD as an excuse, they can buy their own.

pumpkinbump · 30/05/2020 16:05

I wouldn't like it. What if someone has a cheeky wee?

draughtycatflap · 30/05/2020 16:07

The only occupants allowed in our hot tub are me, my husband, and a giant inflatable penis.

Nottherealslimshady · 30/05/2020 16:08

You've still got to stay 2m away from other households. Why is everyone ignoring that bit?

Defenbaker · 30/05/2020 16:10

@JustStayHome I agree with you. Never understood the appeal of hot tubs, but each to their own.

OP, I'm with you on this, but if your husband disagrees there lies the problem. I'd tell him that if he allows others to use it then it will put you off using it, and add that if your friends enjoy their trial session then you're happy to sell it to them, as you won't be interested in a shared facility that no longer feels like your own.

JustStayHome · 30/05/2020 16:13

@Nottherealslimshady

As of Monday you dont....

Your allowed to be with 6 people as long as your outside and keep 2M away....

JustStayHome · 30/05/2020 16:14

@Nottherealslimshady

Sorry read that wrong...

Agree with you.

You cant distance in a hot tub

Devlesko · 30/05/2020 16:16

Ew, cell soup.

InFiveMins · 30/05/2020 16:17

All the "2m distance", "guidelines" and "it's against the rules" comments... bore off.

OP I wouldn't think you were swingers but I think it would look a bit odd with 4 adults squashed together in an inflatable hot tub Confused

I would tell them it isn't quite big enough or comfortable for 4 adults but that they are absolutely welcome to try it out. Let them try it if they want to and then you can change the water afterwards.

pumpkinbump · 30/05/2020 16:25

Ew, cell soup
Or tit soup as Miranda would say if you're a SATC fan.

fivedogstofeed · 30/05/2020 16:26

Those things are a massive infection risk at the best of times, but right now.... bleugh. Definitely a one household item, no sharing.

SunshineCake · 30/05/2020 16:29

YANBU

They preferred things heir way until you got something they want. Nah. I think hot tubs aren't for me anyway but this is your house, your choice and if both partners don't agree it is a no.

Is your garden big enough for four people to be constantly two metres apart as it if it's not they will be part of the next wave of infection and will help towards lock down mark two?