To report neighbours to 101

[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

Who are the visitors and how often/why are they coming?

If they’re outdoors and maintaining distancing I would let them get on with it personally.

I'm with your DH on this. You don't know their circumstances so mind your own business.

It’s every few days

They’re various friends, different ones - it’s a couple this time

They’re sharing lunch, a table, plates etc so not social distancing

My neighbours have been the same. Constant stream of family members and friends coming to visit them at their home since lockdown began. It’s annoyed me so much and I won’t be speaking to them again unless I absolutely have to

Is there any point in reporting them? The hypocrisy of them clapping for the NHS every week is infuriating

My neighbours had visitors yesterday in the garden (friends) and their daughter is on the shielding list! Lead the clap on a Thursday.

I'd ignore it OP. But I agree with you.

Couldn’t be remotely arsed to be honest.

Arrange to go and see your parents and friends and socially distance

Having read the other 4 billion threads on this subject, I think the general consensus is the police have better things to do, than keep visiting houses nextdoor to/opposite curtain twitchers.

If it turns into an impromptu rave, they might consider it.

Lockdown is coming to an end. The police have better things to do. Mind your own business.

I feel like it is my business when I’m risking myself every day while they’re safe at home

What do you want to happen when you phone the police? I don't want to patronize you but it really isn't impacting you is it just tut and let them get on with it.

What do you actually think the police are going to do?

People ignoring the guidelines are impacting everyone else. That’s the whole point

I’m not sure the police are going to do anything hence why I asked in a previous post. It’s just wrong though and I’m angry

But according to you they're not safe at home?

I really hope those that think it’s fine aren’t clapping for the NHS because honestly we’d rather you didn’t bother if you’re not going to do anything to protect it

Honestly I get your annoyance. My daughter turned 1 in this lockdown and hasnt seen either set of Grandparents since early Feb. They live in Kent (and us in the North) so cannot do the whole social distanced park fiasco. I've watched with envy people visiting neighbours, whether my be sitting 2m from their front door and having a chat, or having a cuppa in the back garden (still distanced). I'm so jealous as we have no family up here at all BUT people have a right to see their family and if they're 2m away then they are not doing anything technically wrong. You also don't know why they had visitors - perhaps that was the difference between them committing suicide or not (extreme I know, but a lot of deaths are occurring that are not Covid, but caused by this lockdown).
This whole thing is rubbish, but people are making me more scared by so swiftly willing to turn on one another.
Stay away from them and just dont allow yourself to get angry. You are doing such an important job, you dont need to fill your free time with annoyances.

You're working on the frontline and so have to take more precautions than others, it must be awful and a huge burden.
Your neighbors might be both WFH, ordering shopping online and socialising with others doing the same? So they aren't exposed to the realities of risk like you are.

Everyone should be able to make risk assessment though. Maybe speak to them rather than calling the police. Or send an anonymous note?

@WorraLiberty I’m pretty sure they’re safer than being in a hospital every day

My DP is going to speak to them, I’m not going to bother the police

Loads of people have decided that the risks TO THEM are low so they’ve unilaterally decided to end lockdown and pick up where they left off, hence long queues on the roads and hordes descending on touristy places, despite the well publicised limited facilities.

Folks don’t care!

I initially felt very angry too but as lockdown eases, the virus will continue to spread and many people will continue to pass it on and your anger and hurt won’t change that.

My DH will probably die if he gets it due to his underlying medical conditions so I have to be very careful going forwards until there’s a vaccine available.

I don’t think there’s much point in reporting your neighbours because it’s unlikely to change their behaviour.

I agree with you they shouldn’t be having lots of different friends over - had it been the same immediate family coming I would be more charitable. But I still wouldn’t call the police. They won’t do anything and it’ll cause bad feeling if they realise you reported them (you may say you don’t care but who needs the hassle?)

I just checked this out with Dominic Cummings - and he says it is ok.