To report neighbours to 101

[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

Yes please report them op or at least put a note through their door telling them how irresponsible they are and maybe they should try and cope working in icu.
I'm thinking perhaps that they are of the baby boom generation (over 60 at least) and they don't give a shit. Actually, it's more than them not giving a shit, these type of people think that they are superior and it's one rule for them, one for everyone else.
I also am surprised about the comments to mind your own business. It is everyone''s social responsibility to weed these leeches out.

To be quite frank, if they are remaining outdoors, the risk of transmission is minimal- even if they are not keeping the full 2 metres apart.

Who would have imagined even in January or February that only a few months later we'd have people in this country wanting to dob neighbours in to the police for having lunch in their garden with a friend?

I can understand the issue if people are having 20 friends round for a party indoors, but I really couldn't get worked up about having a few friends in the garden. This is likely to be allowed anyway very soon (it will be in Scotland from Friday)- the actual risk will not have changed.

I would add- and this is not particularly directed at the OP. I have noticed a worrying tendency since this all began for some NHS staff who seem to see themselves as some sort of messianic arbiters of morality and behaviour- "I work for the NHS, therefore I have a right to tell others what they can and can't do."

In reality, I think we'd do well to remember that while NHS staff absolutely deserve our gratitude, they are not omnipotent beings or supreme rulers. I think the clap for carers and constant showering of free stuff has gone to some of their heads tbh.

Take a picture and get a friend to post it ( not yourself someone a little further...better still if there's someone you work with that has the same problem do a swap 'strangers on a train' style) on social media. You'll feel you have done something and maybe members of their family will give them a nudge.

Herehere Contonsmum,like you im getting totally sick of this,I sit with neighbours socially distancing and i met two friends one in a park and one in garden centre social distancing.Im not apologising either.I live alone,im very social. I felt way better after seeing my friends im careful but im not becoming paranoid.I still think a lot of this was unecessary Sweden didnt do half what we did,no more cases there.

My friend works in our local hospital office shes been working less because her office is in fracture clinic and they have only been taking emergencies,now going back to normal rota,so guess that says hospitals must think things getting under control.As you say virus wont disappear,it will be there if we never left home,im quite concerned some think we have to wait for no cases or a vaccine.We simply cant,neither might happen.Too many lives have been messed up now,we dont need to mess up anymore.God knows how many will lose their jobs,and where will they get another.

Sweden didnt do half what we did,no more cases there.

I am sick to death of the ‘oh Sweden didn’t do lockdown and look how well it’s dong’.

Sweden has the seventh highest death rate per capita (per million) in the WORLD.

Today is memorial day here and so many people were having bbq parties. We are still in a red zone and not due to go to orange till june 7th. The house to my left had 3 different sets of extended family round all day. The end of the blick had 50 people twerking in the street for some reason for a few hours. Some fucker drove by and fired a massive firework at us where we were sitting on our porch doing crafts. We thought it was a bomb it was so loud. We didn't even walk the dogs because today was just chaos. Bet the whole country figures rise dramatically next week.

also am surprised about the comments to mind your own business. It is everyone''s social responsibility to weed these leeches out.

Weed them out? What are you planning to do when you weed them out?

If they are the same immediate family then let it go

I am finding this very easy. The question to ask yourself is do I isolate and live or socialise and die

Yes because those are literally the only two options get a grip. Ffs, what the heck has happened to some people that they acting like this. You won't die if you socialise with a few people and keep your distance if you want.

There are 2 confirmed cases for every 1000 of the population where I live... 0.2%.
I know not all cases are confirmed!

Reading of people being able to 'manage or judge their own risk' honestly makes me sick to the stomach. It isn't and never was about the risk to your healthy self or your healthy immediate family/friends. It's about the hundreds of elderly people you could infect should you be walking around symptomless with corona.

It makes me sad to see so many people who have decided that their own comfort is more valuable than other people's lives. So what if Doris from down the road dies, I just had to see my friends as Skype wasn't cutting it anymore.
So selfish.

The government's chief adviser was gallivanting about during the strict lockdown - the police won't and can't do anything about your neighbours. If the police tried to fine me for anything now to do with lockdown I'd tell them where to go.
Keep your nose out, apparently we're on the brink of being allowed up to 10 people at a time in our gardens anyway.

It was about flattening the curve and not overwhelming the health systems I thought? That didn't happen, cases are dropping off all over Europe. So what now? Stay isolated forever because this virus isn't going anywhere.

Vulnerable and healthy people die from the flu every single year. Tens of thousands some years. Do people get judged for living normal lives during flu season? No, they dont.

All the people saying mind your own business are probably the ones shouting to get Cummins asked.

Sacked even lol

My neighbours have been doing the same since April. It makes me so angry but we did decide to stay out of it because there are no other neighbours and it would be obvious it was us reporting them.
As it goes, karma seems to have sorted it out for us as they can now be heard to be coughing constantly and the parties have stopped!

Stop being so noisy and mind your own business.

@Yellowbeansontoast it is not that black and white and every single person has their own motives - some are selfish, others are not.

I've had my mum to stay for the past week. She's been self isolating since this began, as have we. I've had a baby and I have a toddler, my husband is working and I was really starting to go to a dark place with it all. The risk of transmission is non existent here, but against the rules none the less. I feel like I could do another few weeks of lockdown now I've seen her and I've had a break for a few days. Having a baby in a global pandemic is really quite terrifying and miserable and weird - you need support, or at least I did, I haven't seen any midwives of HV since we left hospital, I was questioning every aspect of my parenting and it was sending me to the wall.

It does boil down to common sense, regardless of what the rules state. All those fuckers on Southend beach this weekend were allowed to be there, but that doesn't mean it was ever a sensible thing to do. There will always be morons doing the wrong thing, but the will do that regardless of rules.

It's a free country.
You are being unreasonable.
You do what you want to do & let them do what they want to do.

@Aridane Sweden’s death rate per capita is significantly less than many other countries (including ours!) who had a lockdown. It’s very difficult to compare across countries due to widely different contexts and different methods of counting deaths. But to the extent that one is interested in comparing, there is NO relationship/ pattern that can be observed from the statistics between (severity of) lockdown and death rate. 50-75% of Swedish death came from care homes- not affected by lockdown- hence high rates of care home deaths in countries across Europe despite lockdowns. Finally, the point of lockdown here was never to contain the virus, it was to ‘flatten the curve’ to stop the NHS becoming overwhelmed. Sweden appears to have gone through the peak of their infection, deaths are fallen, curve has flattened and is in decline, and they never had an overwhelmed health service. They achieved all that we set out to and more without a lockdown.

I’m sick to death of the global campaign against Sweden for refusing to follow the reckless, authoritarian and profoundly damaging policies of the majority, and the simplistic and misleading use of statistics to support that campaign.

Sweden has the seventh highest death rate per capita (per million) in the WORLD.

Mainly from care homes, and this time next year most other countries will have caught up and overtaken them as restrictions are gradually lifted and Sweden will still have a functioning economy, much lower suicide rates, more businesses actually still in business and just be generally in a better situation all round.

Sweden’s neighbours did much better than Sweden - but hey that doesn’t fit the agenda

@Yellowbeansontoast

I agree

Pandemic has brought out some admirable behaviours (eg helping the vulnerable) and some depressingly selfish ‘I’m all right, Jack, fuck everyone else’