To report neighbours to 101

[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

Depends where you are OP. Where I live (Northern Ireland), regulations currently state you can meet with up to 6 people outdoors. Over here a few people sitting in a garden wouldn't be in breach at all at present even if from different households.

Yes report them, the police might not do anything but at least you tried

Leave them alone.

YANBU. I wouldn’t give a second thought to reporting them.

If they don’t like it, they shouldn’t be breaking the rules.

If you are so worried why on earth are.you thinking about only reporting it now?

If you feel so strongly you would have reported them days ago just report them you don't need anybody's permission,

I really hope those that think it’s fine aren’t clapping for the NHS because honestly we’d rather you didn’t bother if you’re not going to do anything to protect it

How does people saying don't bother the police, mean they're not protecting the NHS? Are you assuming in order to disagree with you, they too would be having garden visitors?

As for the clapping, well that does nothing to protect it either.

Sure, report them, I’m sure you’ll feel so much better about the millions of lives you’ve saved because of it.

@WorraLiberty a lot of people aren’t just saying don’t bother the police (which I’m not going to as I said) they’re condoning it, which suggests they think it’s fine which suggests they’re not sticking to the rules either, which is therefore not protecting the NHS. I’m not saying that clapping helps I’m saying it’s hypocritical.

It’s annoying for you, but their choice not to follow the rules isn’t connected to your decision to follow them. You aren’t not seeing your friends and family because they are seeing theirs. I don’t think it’s worth a 101, you just need to live your own life in these times.

I think it’s very sad that this pandemic has turned many people into tr folks who spy on their neighbours and call the police on them.

For me, I’d rather not be that person. Nor would I wish to be the person who decided not to talk to my neighbours again because they broke the rules

Personally I comply. Some of my neighbours have not. I won’t be reporting them to the police nor will I be ignoring them because of it.

I’m just not sure people in a few months won’t look back and be ashamed of who they became during this pandemic.

It’s actually shocking how much disdain some people have for the risk NHS staff are exposing themselves to for the sake of the people of the country. Yeah sure it’s fine, do what you want and screw everyone else. How depressing

Has anyone actually said that?

@Gwillow
You don’t know, why people are doing things, and it’s unfair to suggest that people don’t care about the NHS and so on.

I have made a calculated choice to go and see my parents in their garden, sometimes with DP sometimes without. I am six months pregnant, an OT assistant in an NHS hospital and I have bipolar that was on the edge of requiring a hospital admission at the end of March.
I’m also two weeks away from a violent crime I was a victim of going to court. It’s been traumatic.

The choice, with my family. To keep my routine of seeing them was far from a fuck you to the NHS. It was a, what can I do now, to keep myself well, to keep my baby well, to keep working and serving my patients and to stop myself having a psych admission. (In our are psych beds are being kept at below 50% capacity so that covid positive patients can be kept on seperate wards/wings from covid negative patients).

What I’ve done has broken the rules. But what I’ve also done since lockdown is aid the rehabilitation of nearly fifty people, and facilitate the discharge into the community from hospital of dozens of people. I’ve freed up beds, and on a personal note I have made sure that I’ve not inadvertently descended into hypomania, and brought any risks to my child, as well as ensuring I don’t end up on a psych ward.

Please be gentle with what your saying or doing.
You don’t know what is going on for your neighbours. And you being cross or angry isn’t going to make it better.
Not all of us rule breakers are doing it to be selfish or to displease people- for some of us it really does seem like the best and least impacting thing to do.

What about the many NHS staff who are breaking the rules? Are they showing disdain too?

Nobody is putting the police over the NHS you are being a bit hysterical .

I really hope those that think it’s fine aren’t clapping for the NHS because honestly we’d rather you didn’t bother if you’re not going to do anything to protect it

Don't worry, I'm not.

@Bluntness100 well said. Unfortunately I don't think a lot of people will be ashamed, they're enjoying themselves to much to look back with regret.

Is your DP really going to go and speak to the neighbours? Let us know how that goes down.

I’ve been able to achieve all those things because I decided that a couple of hours a week with my mum, would keep me well.
There is an element of balance.

there are key workers including nhs who flout advice, not all are perfect.

Ignore it. Not effecting you.

I can see why it bugs you, especially with the hypocrisy of the clapping. My neighbour is doing the same today, elderly family members round for an outdoor meal. No social distancing applying. Unfortunately I think the government and their cronies have scuppered this national effort by thinking the rules don’t apply to them. That and the partial lockdown lift has left a lot of people just thinking ‘sod it’ is my take. I’m doing my bit still, not leaving the house apart from essential groceries and the odd walk. But I can see why others have thrown their hands in the air. Let’s see what happens to that ‘R’ rate (as if they’d even get it accurate anyway). What a horrible mess.

What’s your DP going to say to them? Tell them off for being naughty like children?

I think should stop watching what your neighbour is doing and mind your own business. If government officials are breaking the guidance I think the public are going to start doing so too. Lots of people are back at work and mixing with others. It’s got to come to an end at some point. And I say this as a frontline NHS worker too.

Good way to start a war with your neighbours OP!

Yeah sure it’s fine, do what you want and screw everyone else

Having people round to their garden isn’t doing what they want. What they probably want to be able to do is not be on lockdown and leave the house when they want and see who they please when and where they want. I have said I think they’re in the wrong but if they’re staying home and guests are staying outside they are still curtailing their freedom to comply with lockdown and aren’t just doing whatever the hell they want.