To report neighbours to 101

[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

Actually that's a good point. What is your DP actually going to say?

Excuse me can you stop breaking the rules please?

Totally agree with you OP but it’s a waste of time posting on here. Apologists galore. You don’t know their circumstances blah fucking blah. Infuriating tbh.

I agree with you that they're doing wrong, OP. But I wouldn't report it.

If it is upsetting you, why don't you stop watching what they are doing. Ignore them and get on with your own life. This is an anxious time and as someone else said, you don't know their exact circumstances.

I sympathise as the same is happening with my neighbours on both sides whilst we are following the rules.
The fact is it does impact us, it may further the spread of the virus and we may have to go in to a second lockdown.
I just ignore it now.

Just fuck the fuck off with putting the responsibility on ordinary people to ‘protect the nhs’. People making their own risk assessments and having friends round in the garden is not killing nurses and doctors and the institution and the fact that you think so shows how much you’ve swallowed the government spin.

YAWN. They're choosing to socialize, you're choosing not to. Get over it.

Hiphopopotamus Government spin is right. Especially since they don't seem to be concerned about lockdown. The hypocrisy is so thick. People will make their own assessments at this point.

Well when you've got No.10 staff as in dodgy Dom breaking the rules I doubt very much the rozzers will be interested in your ndns

We have had to break the lockdown due to a family member having a mental breakdown and being sectioned and also visiting a friend every couple of days as they were suicidal. I completely understand why you are pissed off but there will always be certain idiots who think the rules do not apply. Why not pop a note though the door saying you’ve noticed they have had lots of visitors and gently/kindly remind them of the rules from a nhs key workers point of view or just call them cunts when they are next out clapping!

My DH suffers from terrible anxiety and depression. He wants to go and see his elderly parents, stay in the garden and socially distance. I'm not sure we should go, but his argument is if I'm allowed to go to work (school) and be around different teachers and staff each day for over 6 hours, with social distancing "where possible", then there's little point saying we can't go over to theirs for an hour, staying out in the garden while they sit over 2m away by the door.

It's difficult to argue against, especially when his mental state is really taking a battering during this.

I personally wouldn't report my neighbours. I prefer a harmonious atmosphere at home. Maybe they are breaking lockdown, but they're not hosting a huge party and dancing the conga across your lawn.
The rules are open to misinterpretation, as Dominic Cummings has proved.

As a point of interest, outside of these unprecedented times, would you normally report your neighbours for doing something you considered against the law?

I don’t think your neighbours are suddenly going to get a conscious because someone has had a word with them Op. I’m sure they have seen the news about what they should and shouldn’t be doing and they’ve made their own choices regardless.

@Betty000 if they're idiots for breaking lockdown then so are you. It's not one rule for you and another for everyone else. You don't know other people's circumstances so don't be a hypocrite.

What on earth is your DP going to say?
I cant believe anyone would actually go round to tell thier neighbours off!
He better be prepared to be told to do one!

As luck down eases we are going to have to use our own logic and common sense more and more. Guidance won't be able to cover every eventuality. We will all have to make our own risk assessments and take our own precautions. You also don't know their circumstances and guess what, maybe they just think differently than you!!

Anyway, spying on your neighbours and sending your husband round to have "a word" is really ugly behaviour.

@Betty000 why on earth is it ok for you but not everyone else? 🤯🤷‍♀️

I agree with you OP but I wouldn't report. Reporting them would achieve little. Even if the police visited and they did comply it's just a drop in the ocean. There are hundreds of thousands of people doing similar.

It surprises me that so many people think you are the one being unreasonable.

Please let us know how your dp gets on.

Leave people alone, its not nazi germany.

Now Dominic Cummings has shown the country is ok to travel around - even when infected - and is supported by the government, you've no chance of deterring these people.

this is a joke. nothing to do with any of you what others get up to, frankly who on earth do you think you are?

and if you DP came to me and told me off for being in my garden I would tell him where to go, I have sat in my mums garden loads recently - she even made me a sandwich. she put it in the middle of the garden I went and got it, then washed my hands after. no harm done to anyone but amazingly helpful for my anxiety that was beginning to heighten.

Professor Adrian Hill of the Oxford team is worried that the virus won't be in circulation enough to test a vaccine. He needs over 10'000 people in the next stage. He's worried that when the winter wave comes again, we won't know enough because the virus is fading too fast.

I don't know why anyone working in the NHS doesn't know this. We need the virus around in the healthy population.

The problem was that the Government's sligan 'beat the virus' was taken to be just thay, when lock down wasn't going to beat the virus, we just needed it slowed down.

So all those 'never speaking to neighbours again' need to think about that.

The NHS Staff risked their lives because of the governments mismanagement of the whole thing.

Keep away from them, don't lick their plates, cutlery and table and you'll be fine.