To report neighbours to 101

[Gwillow]

Since the lockdown my next door but one neighbours have had visitors to sit in the garden. They’re currently entertaining yet more people for lunch. I haven’t seen my parents or friends for over two months despite living nearby, I work in a hospital and am seeing first hand the results of this pandemic and putting myself at risk. We and so many others are making sacrifices every day and I’m furious that they’re acting as though everything is normal. My DP thinks we should stay out of it but I’ve had enough and I want to report them. I’m not sure that anything would be done however. AIBU?

Seriously, sitting in my garden (maintaining distance) is exactly the same as sitting in a park.

CurlyHairedAssassin said:

How do you know these people you are angry at haven't had the virus already?
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Does that make a difference? Has it yet been proved that people will be immune from catching it again?

I I already said I do think the op is being unreasonable in the circumstances she described but question whether immunity automatically happens in someone who has had the virus. I'm sure I read it's possible to have it more than once.

Instead we don't engage with them, no eye contact no hellos as we walk past, it's very obvious that we're disappointed with them.

Who the fuck do you think you are to be disappointed in other adults? I doubt they have any interest in interacting with busybodies like you so it's a win/win for them.

As for the OP, stop curtain twitching and mind your own business. The police have zero interest in people visiting others in their homes.
Get a life.

MN is so weird sometimes.

If you came here and said you were having a bbq with friends round I think the majority of people would tell you you're selfish and stupid. You'd definitely be breaking the rules. But if you come here and say you're pissed off about someone else doing it you get told to mind your own business. I think people love to just pan an op sometimes.

Op I totally get why you're annoyed. It's infuriating to see people ignoring the rules and more so for you if you're seeing the fallout from this virus everyday. I don't know that there's much you can do to stop them but you're completely justified to feel pissed off. They are idiots.

Well if it's it's good enough for Dominic Cummings it's good enough for the rest of us. By supporting him yesterday (and they did roll out the big wig supporters on twitter) the government has effectively said lockdown is over.

It doesn't matter how the fiasco pans out, who is going to follow the "rules" now?

Its very obvious that we're disappointed with them

I'm sure they are devastated!

One of my next door neighbours has never kept the lockdown: they've had family visiting, children round to play with their children, out and about in the car with children for hours at a time from the beginning to the present time. And when visitor come to their house, there is certainly no social distancing. I know all this because our gardens are tiny.

You know what, it's up to them if they want to risk their health and the health of their families.

I keep well away from them - we hardly see or speak to one another in normal times anyway - and just hope they don't infect anyone other than themselves but I certainly wouldn't be reporting them to anyone nor will I be going round to 'have a word with them'.

It's irritating but I really can't get that worked up about it if I'm honest.

Instead we don't engage with them, no eye contact no hellos as we walk past, it's very obvious that we're disappointed with them.

Good grief. I find it amazing that there are people like this in the world. I don't know any, thank goodness. Just how self-absorbed does one have to be to do this? I bet the neighbours think your reaction is hysterically funny,

Are you very new to frontline health? It seems odd you have just discovered that the vast majority of people are complete fucking idiots ........ and you are angry about it. For goodness sakes if you can’t detach and let this shit go you will become mentally ill very quickly.

I guess we should have seen this coming. Petty controle misanthropes using a public health crisis to try to lord it over others

If you came here and said you were having a bbq with friends round I think the majority of people would tell you you're selfish and stupid. You'd definitely be breaking the rules. But if you come here and say you're pissed off about someone else doing it you get told to mind your own business. I think people love to just pan an op sometimes.

Because you can't control someone else's actions. So there's no point getting so het up about it.

As for the hysterical bleating that (finally) having a few friends in your garden means that people are stupid / selfish / ignorant and are doing nothing to protect rhe NHS, don't be so utterly petulant and purile

The vast majority of people in this country have had their lives turned upside down and some people have lost everything in the course of protecting the NHS. If they now feel they can take stock and manage their own risk and lives then that's up to them

Well said! and I say that as someone who is a key worker in social care. I still have the common sense to recognise that not everything is black and white- there are some situations where staying away could actually do far more harm to someone than bloody corona virus but yet again, noone gives a toss about deaths that weren't from corona do they?

Only corona matters apparently- if you die or suffer from anything else its tough shit.

You are wrong, OP and YABVVVU

A lot of my neighbours were doing this at the start of the lockdown. Then one of them caught covid and died. Nobody is doing it anymore.

I never called the police despite my frustrations. I just accepted that I cannot control the actions of others. I can keep myself and my family safe, so that's what I've done.

I am actually sickened by these threads.

I am sick of posters condoning people who are breaking the rules.

Like the OP I have long distance family including a very elderly parent in their 90s who I'd love to see as I don't know IF I ever will again at their age.

But they live 300 miles away. I could go and sit in their garden and drive home the same day.

But that's not one of the reasons to leave my house.

I wonder how many of the posters here who condone this neighbour's behaviour are clapping every Thursday?

We're supposed to be stopping another peak.

Comparing it with workers who use the tube is ridiculous. The London mayor is under constant attack for his idiotic behaviour around London transport.

And two wrongs do not make a right.

It's the thin edge of the wedge. Everyone has to do their bit- but some people choose to do their own thing.

OP I am with you.

It’s almost as though Coronavirus deaths are somehow being seen as being different/worse than deaths. And that if the ‘collateral damage’ from avoiding 100 coronavirus deaths is 110 deaths from other causes down the line, then that’s ok.

I reckon in a few months time oncologists for example will be seeing a lot of cancers that could have been treated if they’d been discovered earlier.

All this reporting people for sitting in their gardens is ridiculous.

I reckon in a few months time oncologists for example will be seeing a lot of cancers that could have been treated if they’d been discovered earlier.

THAT IS TRUE BUT....

IF IN A FEW WEEKS ICU IS FULL AGAIN BECAUSE PEOPLE BROKE LOCKDOWN NOW IT'S NOT GOING TO HELP PEOPLE WITH CANCER IS IT?

If it's good enough for Dominic Cummings then it's good enough for them

I thought the curtain twitchers would’ve grown out of this by now .
And these posts always start with “I work for the NHS” or “I’m a keyworker”

@JinglingHellsBells Your post is disgusting.
You should be embarrassed

I haven't broken the rules, hardly ever left the house. Only stepped into a supermarket for the first time today because I had run out of something.

However, I don't give a shiny shit what my neighbours are doing. We are all going to have to go back to normal at some point and I can't wait and will happily accept the tiny risk to go into a pub or restaurant. I can't abide by this 'policing' of others over sitting in a garden with others.

But they live 300 miles away. I could go and sit in their garden and drive home the same day.

But that's not one of the reasons to leave my house.

Actually in England, it is. You just have to meet up in a public place rather than their garden, and only meet one person at a time. There is nothing in the law to stop you driving 300 miles, meeting your mum for a (socially-distanced) picnic in the park and driving back home again in the same day.

One person is allowed to go and meet one other person from another household, no matter what the distance they have to travel is. The only requirement is you can't stay overnight away from your primary residence.

You may not WANT to, but that doesn't mean you can't.

This is not soviet Russia, or Nazi Germany....let idiots do what they want.
Worry about yourself

And these posts always start with “I work for the NHS” or “I’m a keyworker”

I know and given they nearly always name change, they could be a saggar maker's bottom knocker for all any of us know.