Not to be more ambitious for my DD?

[PoorUnfortunateMoles]

I'm a feminist and I always thought I would have a load of lofty ambitions for my DD about her being a scientist or architect, engineer or an artist.
She is very feminine and loves bright, fun, happy, neon things. She loves dancing. She loves Barbie. I'm shocked at how ok I feel about this. Surely if she's happy then there's worse things than enjoying pop songs and dressing up?

Uhhhhh I don’t really understand how you can consider yourself a feminist with this view.

I like clothes, makeup and other “girly” things and I’m a scientist!
I work in a lab full of women and tbh you’re stereotyping us because we’re all completely different and like a huge variety of things! One of my colleagues is also a yoga instructor.

My mum always claimed to treat my brother and I equally.

Explains why I got a stupid dolls pram when he got a bike.
And I never got the tool kit that I asked for every single year, birthday and Christmas alike.

Five is probably a bit young to worry about whether she is going to be a scientist - or a nail technician.

My DB had Lone Ranger and Robin Hood outfits. I had a nurse outfit. So he was allowed fantasy role play and I wasn't. I had two friends who had lovely princessy dressing up outfits and they both went on to do much better academically than I did, as did my DB.

Why do you think her liking barbie and pretty things means she won't be successful?

My adult dd was the same at 5, it didn't stop her going to university and getting a good career that she enjoys!

OP your daughter is 5. They change all the time. Is feminism not about women making their own choices and if they choose to walk about wearing fairy wings and wellies then so be it. Its about having an equal footing to our counterparts and parity in decision making.

I also went into STEM because I like working with men.
But I also agree that men with SAHM wives have very awful opinions. You'd be very very shocked.

Bit late back to this thread but for those questioning the toy thing. It’s not hard to google is it if you had never heard of this before.
www.builtbyme.com/choice-toys-future-girls/

www.asee.org/public/conferences/56/papers/14121/download

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-25857895

amp.theguardian.com/careers/2017/dec/01/closing-the-tech-gender-gap-starts-in-childhood

She's five, OP. Let her do what she likes now, but don't limit her in the future.

I say that as someone whose family spent my childhood saying, "you're good at English and music and languages and your brother is good at maths and science" (I think partly because my brother wasn't good at arts and they wanted to make a point that he was better at something than me) and now I deeply regret not having tried to get into medicine, but I didn't do any science A-levels because at 16 I listened to my family telling me to concentrate on poetry and music.

If your dd is only 5 im guessing you're not older than early 40s.

Have you fulfilled all of your ambitions OP?