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Aibu to ask how your life changed between the age of 30 to 35??

209 replies

Gieennorg · 11/05/2020 18:35

If it has!

Being nosey having just turned 30 and wondering where I will be in 5 years time! Hoping to have bought a house (waiting for the market to stabilise) be married with children (at least one!) Not asking for much am I haha!! 👀 anything could happen so i dont want to jinx it but looking forward to the future is really keeping me going right now!

How about you? 😀

OP posts:
AnotherEmma · 11/05/2020 21:15

@vampirethriller
That's quite the turnaround, big respect to you.

Namesgonenow · 11/05/2020 21:17

Marriage
House
Baby 1
Promotion
Promotion
House sale buy new house
Promotion
Baby 2

Holymolymackerel · 11/05/2020 21:18

On my 30th birthday, my grandad had a stroke and died a few days later and my dad died later that year.

Things started to improve after that. I lost my virginity, moved away to now dh, got married and had first DC one month before my 35th.

Echobelly · 11/05/2020 21:19

Quite a lot changed, mainly due to having both my kids in that time, so I had babies or toddlers between those ages.

OhNoGroken · 11/05/2020 21:21

Between 30-33: I realised I was gay, agonised over it, separated from my husband, fell out with him and then eventually became good friends. Went from good, solid career to stay at home mum to my dream job that I didn’t think was possible until I just asked someone for exactly what I wanted. Made some wonderful friends. Realised my parents are more accepting and kind than I could have ever imagined. Became published.

Lots and lots of heartbreak along the way. That’s the positive side. Don’t rush yourself, OP - I was in such a rush to get married and have children and succeed and be everything I thought I should be that I didn’t really stop to ask myself what I really truly needed to be happy

justkeeprunning5 · 11/05/2020 21:24

A lot can happen in 5 years! We got engaged, married at 30 and started trying for children not long after... tried for nearly 4 years and now finally pregnant with an IVF baby. In those infertility years we moved house, went on plenty of holidays, got 2 promotions & sat 5 exams for work. Busy times, I imagine the next 5 will be no quieter!

thismushroom · 11/05/2020 21:30

At 30 i had finished my degree a year previously. I was only working as a volunteer, had no children and was renting a housing association flat. By 35 I had completed my post grad, had two children, got married, bought a house and moved across the country. Weird it happened in the period of time you ask about but there it is. By the time I was 40, I'd retrained and qualified in a different job, had another child and moved house again, across the country. A couple of years to 45 but wondering what changes might be waiting!!

BeepOpsiePie · 11/05/2020 21:31

I somehow did all this stuff in my mid-20s, now I'm turning 30 next week and the next 5 year seem kind of boring and predictable other than freak disasters like pandemics or relatives dying Sad I have a 6 and a 3 year old so the next few years will just be about their school years I guess.

ScrapThatThen · 11/05/2020 21:32

Married just before 30, then had two beautiful children and trained in the specialism in my career that now earns me a good salary. Busy stressful but lovely years.

Clevs · 11/05/2020 21:36

I saw sense and dumped the guy I'd been with for 7 years but been unhappy with for a lot of that time.

JellyfishandShells · 11/05/2020 21:37

Between 31 and 34 - got headhunted for a senior job, got married, bought a house, had a baby. It was a busy few years, in retrospect !

EggGarnish · 11/05/2020 21:40

Had a baby, sold my business and finally bought a house in a totally different part of the country.

Bugbeau · 11/05/2020 21:59

29 was a tough year for me as I lost a baby half way through my pregnancy. On my 30th birthday I found out I was pregnant again and 8.5 months later had my baby boy. Following on from that, we had another baby 4 years later, bought a house, it was probably my busiest (in a lovely way) 5 years.

bonzo77 · 11/05/2020 22:03

Dumped a long term live in boyfriend. Met and married DH. Had 2 children. Left one job and started another.

Swingingontheswing · 11/05/2020 22:06

I gained weight. I think its because I met DH and we ate out a lot. I look at photos of my 30th and I was really slim. During the next five years, I gained a stone that I have never been able to lose.

Clueless1980 · 11/05/2020 22:06

Got dumped by the man I was in a relationship with for seven years. Embarked on a Masters degree. Couple years later I met a wonderful man. Shortly after that my lovely mother became ill and died soon after. Then got a promotion in work followed by an engagement and marriage. Very much a mixed bag- two massive lows but highs as well.

DramaAlpaca · 11/05/2020 22:07

Had three children, the first just before I turned 30 the last at 33. Then emigrated at 35. It was a busy time.

bigeegit · 11/05/2020 22:08

Got my PhD, got a new job, bought a house, got a dog. All change Grin

bigeegit · 11/05/2020 22:10

Oh also, learned to drive and bought my first car- late bloomer!

NameChange84 · 11/05/2020 22:14

Actually OP, if I could change anything it would be to not allow myself to gain weight. I was always very slim but went from 9 stone to 11 stone between 31 and 35. A combination of reduced exercise and comfort eating but I by no means was stuffing myself with food. Just an extra latte here and a couple of meals out and suddenly I was chubby and didn’t look like “me” anymore.

I’ve really struggled to lose anything more that 3lbs since. My metabolism isn’t what it is. In my 20s I could lose 7lbs in a week!

So, if you are like me and being overweight makes you unhappy, be really careful...every time you gain a couple of pounds get it off before it turns into a couple of stone!

Purplequalitystreet · 11/05/2020 22:15

Easily the most eventful 5 years of my life. On my 30th birthday I was single and in a job that was going nowhere.

Over the next 5 years, in chronological order, I:
Met DP
Moved in together
Switched jobs twice (now a manager)
Got Engaged
Bought a House
Had a Baby

I would have been married just before I turned 35 but we've had to postpone the wedding.

It hasn't all been good news as I lost my dad when I was 30.

So basically a lot can happen in 5 years!

Fishfingersandwichplease · 11/05/2020 22:15

Split up with partner of 11 years aged 32, got with now DH and had a baby aged 35 - best 5 years of my life!!

Salene · 11/05/2020 22:16

Met my partner , got married and had my first child and bought our first house all between age 30 - 34

mrscatmad31 · 11/05/2020 22:21

I got married and had two children, had 4 different jobs, moved twice, now very settled but it's been the busiest time in my life!

stanley10 · 11/05/2020 22:24

Moved back to the uk from America, changed careers to one that pays quite a lot more, bought a flat, met ‘the one’ on online dating, got married, got pregnant. So a lot in retrospect!