Aibu to ask how your life changed between the age of 30 to 35??

[Gieennorg]

If it has!

Being nosey having just turned 30 and wondering where I will be in 5 years time! Hoping to have bought a house (waiting for the market to stabilise) be married with children (at least one!) Not asking for much am I haha!! 👀 anything could happen so i dont want to jinx it but looking forward to the future is really keeping me going right now!

How about you? 😀

I got married and had two children

Sorry, I can't remember; it's been a while

Turning 30 made me realise I didn't like my job or my partner of nearly ten years, by 35 I'd changed jobs, moved out of house we owned and into a rented place, shagged around quite a lot and generally had a good time!
Met my husband to be at 37, married at 39 pregnant with my now 15 year old!

Moved from London to a village, bought a detached house (having lived in a flat), went from having my own business into an employed role, and started trying for a baby with my husband.

Have more friends, better off financially, and more comfortable with myself now (at 37) than I was at 30. There have been ups and downs, but feel very lucky with my lot in life at the moment (C19 notwithstanding).

Enjoy the next few years, OP!

left an really awful relationship, went abroad to work , came back got married to a lovely man , took on a major career move , had a child . it was all.a bit sudden tbh . but good .

I moved to another city, bought a house with garden, had my first child, and started a new job. My life is very different at 35 to what it was like when I was 30. Some changes have been for the better and others for the worse. If I could tell my 30yo self anything it would be to enjoy life and not worry so much about the future.

Got promoted, got a mortgage, decided to start a family

Between 30 and 36 (cheating slightly, but covid put a delay on things!), i went from being single in a badly paying job, to doubling my salary, meeting my husband, getting married, having a child and buying a house (which is the bit that's delayed.)
30-36 changed my life completely

Got engaged, had a baby, separated, got diagnosed with MS. Apart from my darling daughter it's no been the best for me

Saying that, since 30 I've been more confident and a assertive, I'm in a job I love and have a general feeling of content in between the shit moments

When I was 30 I had no DC and wasn't pregnant. I was working full time.

By the time I was 35 I had two DC and another on the way. I was a SAHM.

Bought our home, got married and had our first child.

Good times.

Now 34. Literally between 30-31 I Got engaged then married, bought a lovely house in the countryside, finished studying and got a permanent position in a good company, started TTC on our honeymoon. 3 years on now no baby and starting our second round of IVF.

@Catty15 wow you really did change your life around... for the better too! I imagine it must have felt a gamble at the time, but glad things worked out!

Had two children.

Got married. Lost both parents unfortunately . Sorry that part isn’t upbeat is it- but certainly life changing.

Positives Apart from getting married though- had some amazing holidays, was pregnant by 35, after some fertility issues and a miscarriage (2 babies 16 months apart by 37).

29-34 I got married, bought a house, had 2 children, sold the house and bought another one and now pregnant with baby 3.

I left my long term partner, bought my house, started a new relationship and ended it and I'm about to have a baby...

Got married at 35 to the partner I'd been with since 23. We were in no rush, wanted to be sure had DS at 36.

Still the same at 45. The biggest changes I experienced were between 20-26: uni, moved abroad twice to different countries, lived in Barcelona for 4 years having a fucking blast! Met now-DH in Italy! Glorious days.

Had my 2 DC between 30-35.

@shopaholic85 thank you for your response, I love this advice! Honestly I am the biggest worrier and fear that I am running out of time to achieve milestones which I know is ridiclous! Your advice is spot on. I find myself wanting to plan things like 'this year we will get married' (not engaged yet ahem) 'this year we will ttc'... I know life doesnt work out as we all would plan.. I need to chill out!

Oh and I stopped smoking - thanks to the pregnancy!

@Gieennorg - I am actually the same age as you but 1 month after turning 30 I got married, a few days before lockdown we exchanged and completed on our 1st property and I am due baby no:1 in October so I think even just this 1st year of turning 30 my life is unrecognisable in a good way of course.
A lot of people will say we are moving at lightning speed and I wouldn't blame them but it has been years in the planning.

At 34, I’ve stopped thinking that my life will or should look like what I thought it would look like when I was in my twenties: by which I mean I always thought that settled happiness in life had one form and I’ve discovered that it doesn’t. I think this is due to all the different situations I’ve encountered over the past few years and the people I’ve got to know: there are so many different lives and set-ups and versions of happiness out there and it’s okay to reject the version society tends to sell us and pursue something else. If somebody had told 29-year-old me what 34-year-old me would be doing nowadays I think I’d probably have laughed in their face. I sold a big, beautiful house in the countryside to return to live in my one-bedroom ex-council flat in London, and I’ve never been happier; I’ve abandoned monogamy as a relationship ideal; I’ve taken advantage of opportunities, taken chances and risks that I never would have five years ago; I can confidently say that I am a great person - and I couldn’t say that five years ago.

So, not exactly in line with your own aspirations - but equally, don’t assume that what you want now is static and unchanging.

Mine didn’t really change much in reality apart from getting a promotion in my job. Emotionally I think this was the biggest change in my life so far (now 45). It was a bit like an awakening.
35-40 was a different ball game though. Got divorced, moved house, re-married, travelled a lot, re-prioritised and got promoted again.

I was already married with two kids and a house so literally nothing!