Aibu to ask how your life changed between the age of 30 to 35??

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If it has!

Being nosey having just turned 30 and wondering where I will be in 5 years time! Hoping to have bought a house (waiting for the market to stabilise) be married with children (at least one!) Not asking for much am I haha!! 👀 anything could happen so i dont want to jinx it but looking forward to the future is really keeping me going right now!

How about you? 😀

A period of lots of changes for me. I got engaged at 30, bought a house and got married at 31, and was pregnant with my first child at 35.

At 30 I was single, had a high flying, well paid career, fancy flat, pots of disposable income and lots of freedom. By 35 I was an unemployed single mother to twins (one disabled) living in a council flat.

On my 30th birthday I was out on the streets in North London, a prostitute, addicted to cocaine, crack, heroin and alcohol. I had a pimp and was about to be made homeless after he beat me with an iron bar and I ended up in a mental unit.
By 35, I was clean and sober, had a flat and a job and a dog and a life.

Got married, had 2 children, moved house from London to the country, and gave up my career. They were stressful events, although joyful at the same time. 35+ has been much easier!

Hugely. Went from 1 child to 3 and one end of the country to the other.

At 30 I was single and had moved back in with my parents.

At 35 I was married and pregnant

Between 30 and 35, I went from no children to two children and watched my mum die of cancer. It was the best of times; it was the worst of times as Mr Dickens once wrote.

My husband owned his limited company and worked in Germany as a consultant in the telecoms sector.

I had a visa to live in the UK but not in Germany so I stayed behind in England with our two young sons and I was pregnant with my third. We only saw my husband 72 days a year (this was our third year of limited visits when I turned 30). My husband thought it was a good idea to leave the M4 corridor and instead moved us to northern England to be close to his family so I wouldn't be entirely on my own with the kids.

We had a nice life. We owned our own house with a huge yard, two new cars, vacations back to the US to visit my family and trips around Europe. We had money put away, we lived in a great neighborhood with good friends and the children were happy with their school and thriving so life was pretty comfortable.

When I was 32, the Telecoms Crash of 2000 and the Internet Bubble of 2002 completed defeated us. My husband couldn't find another contract in his field for two years. We had a year's worth of savings but it was meaningless when he was unemployed for two years. We sold all our possessions except our house. We fought hard to keep it. In fact, we had a deal with our mortgage company to give us a six month payment holiday to help us. We did have one creditor that didn't want to help us at all, which was fair, but they sued us and forced the sale of our house. We went to court and gave the keys of our house to the mortgage company in order to pay the debt of GBP 6,000.
Because my oldest son and I were not UK citizens, we were not entitled to receive any kind of benefits and when the house was given back to the bank, we were left homeless. My husband and our two younger children could have gone into council housing but my son and I couldn't be helped. We abandoned the UK as a family and returned to the US. I was 34 years old.

I had to move our family to the US and move in with my father back in Texas. Between myself, my father and my best friend, we were able to bring my husband to the US and sponsor him for a Green Card. We truly did re-start our life from scratch with only $75. That was all the money I had left in my pocket when I left England.

When I turned 35, my husband got his Green Card and started working back in the telecoms industry and again, he had to live away from us. We lived in Texas and he was working all over the US.

Those years from 30-35 were a real contrast.

At 30 - single - dead end job- renting - debt

I'm 35 this year - due to be married this year, had our first baby this year, graduated from uni last year, opening my own business this year and bought our house last year

Two completely different lives !!

Bought a new house. Found out my husband had fertility issues so we would never get pregnant naturally. Got crohns disease as a result of the immense stress. Had some nice holidays though.

I got married, finally managed to buy a house and had my second child.

Between 30 and 35 I got married, had two kids, got a completely different job which led to a new career and did up a house and did a degree.
It was a busy time.

Got married a couple of months after my 30th.
Had two babies.
got a promotion.
moved to the forever location (may not be the last house but will stay in the village)

I was a widow at 36 with 2 children but was left well provided for. Never wanted to remarry.

Vastly. Divorced. Remarried, baby and left job and moved County. Also reconnected with my own family that ex had striven to keep me away from.

At 30 I had two kids. Now 33 and feel a lot more tired before. I have less hair on my head
and more on my chin. Less time for myself but am happy with dh and my kids. I am starting to take better care of my skin and working out more as my mum was diagnosed with a chronic condition at 40 and 40 isn't that far away. I am more aware that my parents are getting older and want to spend more time with them. I buy less things but spend more on quality. I am starting to reclaim some of my time for myself (slow progress). I realised that work whilst important to me isn't everything and am happy with the work life balance I have now. I also care more about the environment, sustainability, education and health than I did before.

Moved abroad, got divorced, had a nervous breakdown, was actually, physically homeless and destitute for a spell, got remarried and bought a house with 2 weeks left of my 35th year! A mixed bag for sure!

It was a real transition period. I changed workplace, got promoted. sold a house, bought a house. Got married, had 2 children. It was busy!

I got married, moved from one side of the UK to the other, had my 3 DC and embarked on a completely new career. Oh, and spent 6 months living in Shanghai. My DH also changed careers and did a PhD. It was a pretty eventful 5 years!

Aged 30 Went on a work secondment to Zimbabwe around the time of the white farm invasions and petrol crisis. Was an office based finance job for a private company and not aid related.

Changed my life. I left my ex DH at home for 4 months and had the time of my life. Grew up enormously.

Came home, left ex and lived my 20s again but this time the way I should have done (had been with ex since age 17. Luckily no children).

Aged 32 met my now DH. Within 10 months we'd moved in together and by 35 DD arrived. Outside the current shit show we have a great life with DS who came along 3 yrs later. Very settled. Don't feel the need to party etc. Have everything and everyone I need.

@NameChange84 hardly sounds as if you've had it easy, so please dont apologise. We all have different challenges to face and yours is another example that sometimes we plan and sometimes things just happen to us. Hope lockdown isn't too tough on you

I got married and had two babies.

I split up with my stupid ex when I was 30. I knew it was coming but we were still sort of seeing each other at that point even though he had disappeared off somewhere for a few months. So I took myself off on a wonderful trip by myself over my 30th birthday and came back energised and finally called it a day with him.

Between then and turning 35 I had bought my first house myself, then met my partner and we married when I was 35. Then had 2 children in quick succession.

To be honest I look back on those years and just remember how exciting everything was, the travelling, buying a house, decorating it, meeting a new partner, planning a wedding. I feel like I've now got stuck in a rut, we really need to move house but are stuck here for now and although I adore my kids, there always seems to be stresses over juggling work and childcare, especially at the minute. In fact this thread has really made me realise how much I loved my early thirties!

I went to uni and became a teacher.

Got married, then separated, met someone else, had a baby, moved house twice.