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Aibu to ask how your life changed between the age of 30 to 35??

209 replies

Gieennorg · 11/05/2020 18:35

If it has!

Being nosey having just turned 30 and wondering where I will be in 5 years time! Hoping to have bought a house (waiting for the market to stabilise) be married with children (at least one!) Not asking for much am I haha!! 👀 anything could happen so i dont want to jinx it but looking forward to the future is really keeping me going right now!

How about you? 😀

OP posts:
Marmite27 · 11/05/2020 20:15

I bought a house, got married and was pregnant.

rottiemum88 · 11/05/2020 20:16

I've only got to 32 so far, but since 30 I've got married, moved into my first home with DH (that we own) and had a baby. Hoping for not much else to change for the next few years to 35!

LetsJustGetOnWithIt · 11/05/2020 20:17

I got rid of my sulky lump of a husband who thought he could sulk his way through his sulky life, and by some twist of fate met the love of my life 3 weeks later. Been together over 10 years. Bloody marvellous age.

DontStandSoCloseToMe · 11/05/2020 20:19

Two promotions, sold my flat, got engaged, bought a house together, got married, had a baby. 31-34

DontStandSoCloseToMe · 11/05/2020 20:19

Oh crap forgot my MA....

darkforceofexcesszeal · 11/05/2020 20:19

Had 3 kids. Moved to Canada. Career change (from actual career to pt minimum wage to fit in with children and new location, and then stopped completely as dc3 disabled, then back to career with a nanny.

BellysGonnaGetYa · 11/05/2020 20:20

30 - Met now DH
31 - Moved in together & started my own business
32 - Got engaged
33 - Got married
34 - Fell pregnant
35 - bought our first home, baby due in 4 weeks.

If someone told me that at 30 that that's what the next 5 years had in store for me I'd have called them a liar but it couldn't have worked out any better!

WeveGottaGetTherouxThis · 11/05/2020 20:22

I had my second child at 30 (had my daughter at 29), renovated our property, and since turning 35 I’ve lost 10kg and feel better than ever. I so wish I’d lost the weight sooner, but with 2 kids 16 months apart and with the second one a terrible, terrible sleeper, it’s taken until now to feel energised enough.

Mentally, I feel stronger, happier & more secure than ever.

MsVestibule · 11/05/2020 20:24

Aged 30-34, nothing much changed. 34 - I met my now DH
35 - Became pregnant, moved in with him and had our DD
37 - Had DS
38 - Got married
39 - Bought our family home

Sometimes I still can't believe I went from being an independent woman with a Proper Job to a married SAHM with two children in under 4 years.

mesamis · 11/05/2020 20:24

Not at 35 yet, but when I turned 30 I realised I'd married too young and was "settling". I also realised that 30 wasn't too late to do anything about it.

Tried to work through it, didn't work, split up, got a promotion, started divorce proceedings with many ups and downs, met now DP and now hoping for a more content and happy life from now on.

Tigger83 · 11/05/2020 20:25

Split up with idiot ex, fell in love, changed career, had a baby, got married, another baby now on the way (at 36)

MamaGee09 · 11/05/2020 20:25

Mine didn’t change nor mum, during those ages, I worked in the same place, I already had 2 children and a husband. I think we just plodded along.

twins2019 · 11/05/2020 20:27

I just turned 30 when I changed jobs. I had two
Young children and it was a gamble. It
Paid off. I was promoted several times in the 5 years up to turning 35. At 35 I was promoted to a very senior position earning 4x my starting salary. Better still it's a place I love to work and with people that get me. At 35 I also decided to have just one more baby...I knew the place I worked would be supportive (I'd had bad experience with my first two pregnancies). Ended up with twins - I was 36 when they were born - at 28 weeks. They've changed everything about me. A pair of miracles to remind me how precious and short life is. I don't take anything for granted - I fell in love with my husband all over again, after 20 years together I didn't think that was possible but we survived hell together. I have a canvas in our room next to our wedding picture which says - find a heart to love you at your worst and arms to hold you at your weakest. He is my soulmate. The roads we all travel are bumpy and broken at times but they define your journey. Make the most of the little joys and the big stuff follows.

Elllicam · 11/05/2020 20:29

I got engaged, married, moved house twice, had two kids, started my MSc, completed my MSc and started my doctorate. It was a busy few years.

Mummadeeze · 11/05/2020 20:29

Bought a flat, had a miscarriage, opened a boutique, had a baby. It was a turbulent time. I learnt a lot though. And my friends got me through.

Elllicam · 11/05/2020 20:31

Oh and I only met DH the month before my 30th birthday.

gabsdot45 · 11/05/2020 20:32

Age 30 DH and I were diagnosed with infertility, ( if that's how to put it) .
Age 34 we adopted DS.
Big changes.

Toomuchtooyoung01 · 11/05/2020 20:32

Had 2 kids and swapped bottomless brunches and dancing with my girlfriends for constant breastfeeding and baby classes.

meetthewildes · 11/05/2020 20:32

Between 30 and 31.5 (age I’m at now) I bought my first property - which will probably be our ‘forever home’ - and relocated from London to the coast. I have recently accepted a major promotion at work that will probably define my career.

In the next few years (by 35) I’d like to give our final frozen embryo a chance and finally get married - we have been so focused on work, babies and buying a house that marriage just sort of never happened!

Grobagsforever · 11/05/2020 20:35

2 babies. 1 house purchase, 1 emergency wedding when DH diagnosed with terminal cancer. Widowed 16 days later aged 33. Started an unsuitable relationship with a gorgeous but unsuitable investment banker.

I'm 39 now and the banker has been replaced with a lovely teacher, kids are fine.

It was a clusterfuck of a half decade. I wish you a better one OP.

Monkeytapper · 11/05/2020 20:36

Got married, had 2 children and bought a house

Swooningmonkey · 11/05/2020 20:37

I realised I was unhappily married at 30. Divorced by 32 with two dc. Moved back to near my home town. Started a business that I always wanted. Turning 35 this year, I was due to buy a house this year but that now looks unlikely.

Racheyg · 11/05/2020 20:37

Had ds1 at 30 3/4
Brought our house first house when I was 311/2
Had ds2 at 32
Got married at 35

Not much has changed since and I'm 37.

I would like get my weight under control and stop yo yo dieting before I'm 40

pinkchampagne1 · 11/05/2020 20:38

Left my emotionally abusive ex h, moved into my own place with the boys & met a new man who is now my DH

Kirschcherry · 11/05/2020 20:39

My DH bought into his business and we went from having not very much money to quite a lot. We started to have nice cars and nice holidays. We bought our current house which needed an extension and a lot of work, we built the extension and it is mostly lovely now although there is still work to be done. In moving to our new house my two young dc started in a new school and through that I met some lovely friends. I passed my driving test. It was definitely a good period of my life. (I’m 37 next month.)