Aibu to ask how your life changed between the age of 30 to 35??

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If it has!

Being nosey having just turned 30 and wondering where I will be in 5 years time! Hoping to have bought a house (waiting for the market to stabilise) be married with children (at least one!) Not asking for much am I haha!! 👀 anything could happen so i dont want to jinx it but looking forward to the future is really keeping me going right now!

How about you? 😀

I'm not 35 yet but from 29-34 I have been made redundant, had 2 children, become a stay at home mum and bought our first house which meant relocating from a city centre to a rural village.

30-35 had 2 babies, got promoted, sold our flat and bought a house, and also bought a 2nd flat and became landlords

Same job, same house, same hobbies, still single. How very dull.

Massively for me. Had my 3rd child at 30, went back to college got Qualifications at 31 , went to Uni studied and graduated with a 1st at 34 . Got a dream job at 34 too and then moved to something new at 36 . 20's was all about the kids 30's is the careers steps :)

Had a baby, got divorced, my ex then got ill and died. Supported 3 kids through their grief (and mine) met a lovely man and settled down to live happily ever(sometimes) after. I'm 40 now and look back on those years as the worst of my life

I'm 33 but since turning 30 I have got married and had a baby. No where near close to ever owning a home though. Think that might be at about 45

Very single at 30 ( and had a good career )
Met the DH , married and had 2 children by 35 and became a SAHM

A lot changed but in quite a predictable way. I was heavily pregnant when I turned 30 anyway so if I’d had to guess I would have said a second baby, a bigger house etc which all happened.

I love this question. Having just turned 30 in December and expecting my first baby in August, not married or engaged but been with my beautiful amazing boyfriend for just gone 5 years. So, I'm really intrigued to see how the next 5 years go, but no matter what happens I'll have the little for all the adventures and whatever craziness life throws at us. I'm hoping to get engaged (as lockdown ruined that for us), buy a house, travel some more and hopefully find a job that I actually like doing but we shall see.

I got married (at 30), changed job twice (at 31 and nearly 35), 2 DC (at 32 and 34), moved to bigger house at 34.

It was a busy 5 years!

Had a child. Realized I wanted a divorce. Moved from one end of the country to the other

Between 30-35 (am 35 now) has been fantastic. Got out of a relationship with a waste of space, bought a place, got the feline love of my life, career sky rocketed, met my now DH, travelled to far flung places, worked on my friendships and family relationships, started my NED career, ramped up savings and investments, found yoga.

At 35, I feel more comfortable with myself, more attractive, am more bolshy, less concerned with what others think.

It has been a good five years but I imagine everything will start to slow down for a number of reasons.

Married and had 2 DC by 30.

30-35 - struggled financially for a few years (childcare etc), managed to buy a house and then got my dream job.

They were good years, although difficult with two babies.

Married, had first child, moved out of London

Moved into a rented flat with my boyfriend of 18 months at 30.
Bought our first house and got engaged at 31.
Got married at 32.
Got pregnant (ectopic) at 34.
Hoping to be pregnant again before I'm 35 in November.

By 30 I was divorcing shit XH. Met and married DH and changed careers and moved house twice by 35. My 20s were spent at uni and a bit wasted on a crap man. My 30s have been much better, despite illness.

I moved to London (from Norwich), learnt salsa, discovered an amazing, exciting nightlife and the wonders of foreign men. It was ace.

I was already married with a child but my child died when I was 32. When I was imaging my future life, it obviously wasn't something I even considered happening. Not trying to put a downer on things (child death tends to do that, though) but wanted to say don't over plan, sometimes things happen that you can't control. So you can try and be where you think you should be, work towards something but sometimes life has other plans. I'm not in a bad place now, but not where I'd planned either.

I’d hoped to be married with kids by 35 at the latest but my relationship ended just before my 31st as ex said he didn’t want to ever marry or have kids.

Between 30 and 36 (my current age);

Got an MA. Broke up with the man I’d hoped to marry and have children with. Got a new job in a field related to my MA and a self employed sideline which led to working with some companies I’d only ever dreamed of working with. Also got paid to write and was even commissioned, totally unexpectedly.
Travelled ALOT. Took up new hobbies (ballroom, latin, salsa, guitar, skating). Made lots of new friends. Went on a spiritual quest, going on retreats and pilgrimages. Met someone and tried to force myself to settle with him so I could get a move on and have kids but he bored me to tears and I realised I would be miserable with him. Started therapy. Got my dream job (but it’s really underpaid!). Bought my first home. Ex did get married but not to me. Turned 35 and had a nervous breakdown and ended up on medication after realising my only real dream had been to marry and have children and despite doing all the things a single woman is supposed to I was desperately lonely and felt like a failure because no one had chose me. Went back to therapy. Turned 36. Started rebuilding my life and getting ready to date again...things were going fantastically well and I was really hoping I’d meet someone before it was too late for biological kids.

Then lockdown happened and I’m in the shielding category. So..yep.

Not how I’d pictured this time at all!

I got married aged 31 but DC didn't come along until I was 37, at which point we'd started to accept it may never happen . So glad it did

I’m 35 this year but from 30 to now I had two children and left my job to become a SAHM. I’m two dress sizes bigger but much happier.

@DuckPie I’d cross posted with you and realised my post must seem horribly insensitive.

I’m so very sorry about the death of your child. I’m glad to hear you aren’t in a bad place now but imagine that your life has still been forever changed .

Met and married my husband, had 2 children, moved from a flat to a house, oh and learned to drive.

Met and married my husband, tried and failed to get pregnant and had just started the adoption process, busy time!

I'm 35 in August and 30-35 has been the most transformative time period of my life.

Had two DC
Built our dream house
Became a published author
Completed a masters degree

Feels pretty good writing it all down best of luck OP!