To tell DH that his potato’s are a joke?

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DH and I used to work together. We don’t anymore but I’m in touch with the old team. Whenever there was a buffet DH used to make Bombay potatoes which he thought were dead popular. But the staff there just take the piss. The are on about a post lock down buffet and the major joke is DHs potatoes and messages such as “bless him”. DH is excited going on about how he will need to make these potatoes. AIBU to tell him he’s a joke?

That would be nasty. Just encourage your colleagues to be nicer?

Oh dear. His heart will be broken. I don't know how I would handle this!! But I probably would tell him 😬. But maybe I would try to come up with a "jokes on them" plan first?

I wouldn't be talking about my husband behind his back with former colleagues.

I would tell the others to shut the fuck up and take it up with me if they were laughing at my husband behind his back like this

I’m not talking about him!

Let him make his spuds. At least they’re a talking point.

I would show him.

I think they have forgotten that I’m in the group.

Someone said “why can’t he just bring shit in like everyone else, why does he need to go all Jamie Oliver for attention?”

Can’t you just tell him kindly? It doesn’t mean he’s a joke does it, there’s just a joke about his potatoes, or does it go further than that?

YABVU to tell your husband anything about him is a 'joke'. Although perhaps you meant it more lighthearted than it came across?

But if it were my husband then I'd definitely tell him as kindly as I could that people weren't keen on them and then see what he'd like to do about it.

why can’t he just bring shit in like everyone else, why does he need to go all Jamie Oliver for attention?

This is a moment you should let yourself known there... How would you feel if your DH just watched someone take a piss like this?

No don’t tell him - that’s all so fucking mean - not sure what I’d do.
Probably message the group saying “sorry not everyone’s idea of fine dining is a greggs sausage roll” and let them sweat.

@Carolduckingbaskin 😂

I don't understand why you wouldn't say something in the group chat? Why are you sitting quietly letting everyone take the piss out of your husband?

Erm...stick up for your husband?
If someone was making my husband a laughing stock I couldn’t just sit back and let them...
Don’t tell your husband. That’s nasty.

Remind them you're there?! I wouldn't be happy at that. Its cruel.

Honestly, just don’t tell him and don’t go to the buffet. They’re being horrible

I think it’s nice that he’s making an effort to make something to take to the Shared meal. Beats the boring multiple packs of sausage rolls, cocktail sausages and packets of crisps. How many times have you been to a shared lunch and there’s always been the same old packet foods? With ours the homemade stuff always goes first.

Surely you didn't not say anything at that point?

You want to tell your dh he's a joke? . Tell your "friends" to fuck off, maybe?

I think they sound like a set of pricks to be honest. He's trying to take something nice in and people are taking the piss. I'd be fuming if I was you.

His colleagues are fucking nasty!! It's THEM you should be 'telling', not him! By telling him you'd just be causing real pain and a bad working environment for him...he has to work there everyday (after lockdown) and this is the kind of thing that (for me anyway) would be actually difficult to just brush away...I'd feel awful sitting there every day knowing I'd been the butt of everyone's jokes for years!

If you're on their WhatsApp group though, you might like to remind them of the fact that a) you're his WIFE and b) they're being incredibly fucking rude! 🤷‍♀️

I'd be spending lockdown 'trying out' amazing new recipes for potato based buffet products 👍😉

Just write something on the group. Maybe ‘shall I tell him not to bring them, then?’

I couldnt not reply to that comment about going all Jamie Oliver. Why can't people just accept that others might like cooking and not be pretty and jealous. I'm assuming his potatoes are good? So I dont get their issue at all

Did you say anything?