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To tell DH that his potato’s are a joke?

231 replies

LNPW · 01/05/2020 20:57

DH and I used to work together. We don’t anymore but I’m in touch with the old team. Whenever there was a buffet DH used to make Bombay potatoes which he thought were dead popular. But the staff there just take the piss. The are on about a post lock down buffet and the major joke is DHs potatoes and messages such as “bless him”. DH is excited going on about how he will need to make these potatoes. AIBU to tell him he’s a joke?

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Namechangex10000 · 01/05/2020 21:33

I would have shot them down in seconds if that was my dh. He deserves better than them, and quite frankly, also you.

mayawaya · 01/05/2020 21:34

Dear Wife and I used to work together. We don’t anymore but I’m in touch with the old team. Whenever there was a buffet Dear Wife used to make her special cake which she thought was dead popular. But the staff there just take the piss. They are on about a post lock down buffet and the major joke is Dear Wife's special cakes and messages such as “bless her”. Dear wife is excited going on about how she will need to make this cake. AIBU to tell her she’s a joke?

Telling your wife that her cake is a joke to her colleagues is definitely going to improve her self esteem and will certainly make you the sort of honest decent and caring husband that your wife likes even more than she does already. Definitely go for it, every wife needs to hear from her husband that her extra mile at work for the colleagues who eat her kindly made cake is a topic of much hilarity and if nothing else you will know that you are the better person for giving her some 'reals'

CeibaTree · 01/05/2020 21:34

Can't believe you are staying silent while they are mean about your DH - shows where your loyalty lies!

LaurieFairyCake · 01/05/2020 21:34

I would take the fall and say I made them Hmm

They're nob heads

incognitomum · 01/05/2020 21:35

Do they eat them?

If so I'd let him make them and finely chop a scotch bonnet ...stirred in on the sly.

Poppi89 · 01/05/2020 21:36

Awww bless him! I would definitely tell him in a kind way so he can get in on the joke and pretend he knew all along. He could do really spicy ones as PP suggested or say he's trying sushi and will send it to their homes and as a PP said or would they prefer a Greggs sausage roll.

They sound really jealous of him! He definitely needs to act like he knew the whole time and was taking the piss out of them.

Floofboopsnootandbork · 01/05/2020 21:36

Wow. You don’t sound like a good person op. I can’t imagine ever not saying anything if people were taking the piss out of anyone, let alone my husband.

MouthBreathingRage · 01/05/2020 21:36

@LNPW, I'm also confused as to how you've sat there reading all this and not said anything. Is it a whole office group? Why are you on it as a non-employee but your husband isn't? And how do you 'like' these people, they are literally bullying your husband! This is all really weird.

MrsWooster · 01/05/2020 21:37

You don't sound as if you like your husband very much, and you don't sound very nice.

bluedelphinium · 01/05/2020 21:37

what's so funny about the potatoes? they're good and he's being called a show off or they're crap and they're laughing at his efforts?

it's shitty they're laughing at him being his back and shittier that you're going along with it to be 'popular'. if it was kindly meant they would joke to his face.

GrumpyHoonMain · 01/05/2020 21:37

I used to get bullied like this. Whenever I made things they would be ridiculed behind my back but people would still scoff them so I had no idea. It took me a while to realise who I thought were my best friends at work knew all about it and not only didn’t stick up for me but also made comments of their own - It was really hurtful. You absolutely need to stick up for him.

MashedPotatoBrainz · 01/05/2020 21:37

I'd be telling them to shove their buffet up their arses. Nasty fuckers.

diddl · 01/05/2020 21:39

I was wondering that incognito -surely they must otherwise if they were always left Op's husband wouldn't have bothered again?

So it sounds as if they scoff the nice stuff that he makes & then laugh that he makes an effort.

Is he a pretentious twat about it?

If not they are utter shits & you seem ok with them being like this, Op.

sayanara · 01/05/2020 21:41

Maybe she means she likes the potatoes not the people?

PinkSparkleUnicorns · 01/05/2020 21:41

*"why can’t he just bring shit in like everyone else, why does he need to go all Jamie Oliver for attention?”

"DH is* not popular"

Does your DH know people don't like him? This is quite cruel, I would want to leave and find a new work if I was him

PinkSparkleUnicorns · 01/05/2020 21:44

I can't stop laughing though at all this strong outrage over potatoes

Zoecarter · 01/05/2020 21:44

@LNPW I take it you mean you like the potatoes and not the people. If anyone was attempting to be nasty to my husband I would embarrass the hell out of the people doing it. I can not for a moment believe anyone would choose an ex work friend then my husband.

SuckingDownDarjeeling · 01/05/2020 21:46

Do you have DCs OP?

If your 'unpopular' child was being bullied online, would you tell them to stop doing the thing that they're being bullied for? I hope you'd confront the bullies, not the victim, even if they 'aren't popular'.

If you have resentment for your DH for any reason, and maybe feel he 'deserves' this, perhaps you should share why, because so far it just looks like you'd rather be popular than stand up for a loved one.

Thisismytimetoshine · 01/05/2020 21:46

Why are you the one invited despite no longer working there, op? And they then forgot you were in the WhatsApp group (are you that forgettable??) and proceeded to make a laugh of your dh?
All very strange...

lottiegarbanzo · 01/05/2020 21:46

Do they eat them?

So your DH makes an effort to bring tasty home-cooked food in for buffets. Everyone else buys a bag of crisps and plonks it on the table. And you're siding with the lazy, make-no-effort-and-take-the-piss-out-of-anyone-who-does fuckers?

Do they make as little effort with their work and ridicule anyone who does that, too?

Sounds like life, and bullying, in a failing comprehensive.

Onwards and upwards OP's DH. You don't fit in with this bunch of small-minded, anti-intellectual, aspiration-killing arsewipes. Find yourself another job. Somewhere better. You'll be much happier.

fascinated · 01/05/2020 21:46

OP it’s potatoes not potato’s.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 01/05/2020 21:47

If you have resentment for your DH for any reason, and maybe feel he 'deserves' this, perhaps you should share why, because so far it just looks like you'd rather be popular than stand up for a loved one.

If someone has that much resentment that they don't stand up for their partner, they should just leave. That's it. That's no relationship

Bakedbrie · 01/05/2020 21:48

You sound somewhat bored. I feel a bit sorry for your husband.

Ohffs66 · 01/05/2020 21:48

This makes me feel really sad for some reason

SarahTancredi · 01/05/2020 21:49

What's the back story?

If hes all " I'm the best chef in the world get out my kitchen , I dont need a recipe, I fuck it up all the time on purpose but its everyone elses fault " then maybe they have a point.

If he is just making a batch of potatoes that are perfectly good but others think theres something wrong with it not coming from waitrose and that he enjoys cooking than they are all being dicks and I cant believe you wont stand up for him.

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