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To tell DH that his potato’s are a joke?

231 replies

LNPW · 01/05/2020 20:57

DH and I used to work together. We don’t anymore but I’m in touch with the old team. Whenever there was a buffet DH used to make Bombay potatoes which he thought were dead popular. But the staff there just take the piss. The are on about a post lock down buffet and the major joke is DHs potatoes and messages such as “bless him”. DH is excited going on about how he will need to make these potatoes. AIBU to tell him he’s a joke?

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BreconBeBuggered · 01/05/2020 23:22

Why haven't you defended the potatoes? Now there's a sentence I didn't imagine writing. Is your DH a wanker about his genius cooking, or does he just bring in something that's tasty and home-cooked and not beige?

TehBewilderness · 01/05/2020 23:29

That is one mean spirited team.

StoppinBy · 01/05/2020 23:39

Their problem from the sounds of it is he us setting the bar high and they feel like they are not hitting it. I would say something to let them know that even though they all bring in shit food he enjoys making them and they should just appreciate that and say thank you instead if poking fun at him.

GabsAlot · 01/05/2020 23:46

Are they jealous coz they cant cook-what a bunch of bitches why do you mix with these people

Ellisandra · 01/05/2020 23:47

You don’t like your husband. That’s very sad.

HavenDilemma · 01/05/2020 23:50

Tell them he's changed the recipe so they'll try it. Add a load of chilli! That makes everything taste nicer

theschoolonthehill · 01/05/2020 23:58

No don't tell him and don't stay involved with the group. They sound horrible. I really hope your team are particularly nasty and your DH's own team are decent people. If they are all the same group, I would not go to the event nor would I encourage DH to stay in contact with them tbh.

BackforGood · 02/05/2020 00:04

Another who is puzzled as to why you are in a colleagues chat with people who are no longer your colleagues, and your dh isn't in the chat even though he still works with them Confused

But am also puzzled as to why your question is " AIBU to tell him he’s a joke? " and not "How should I confront my ex-colleagues about this?" Hmm

MissHoskins · 02/05/2020 00:08

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CrystalTipped · 02/05/2020 00:16

So they are his colleagues and not yours anymore?

Sorry if you've been chased off. I can see you're in an awkward position. Maybe just leave the chatgroup.

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ActuallyItsEugene · 02/05/2020 00:22

Why wouldn't you defend him?! If I saw a group of people slating my DP in a chat I'd have to say something.

You all sound like real nasty pieces of work. Disgraceful behaviour.

You should 100% tell him. Then he'll know that both his DP and co-workers are bullies and can proceed by changing his job and his relationship status.

vixxo · 02/05/2020 00:33

Your poor husband....what a shit bunch of people.

PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock · 02/05/2020 00:43
  1. Do you even like your husband?
  1. Did you have anything to do with the potato jokes starting?
whynotchangemore · 02/05/2020 00:58

When the OP said "I like them" I'm not sure she mean the work friends, I think she was talking about the potatoes!

Jenasaurus · 02/05/2020 00:59

He will be upset after all this time. I had used to make a greek pasta bake for my family, the first time I made it, they loved it or so they said, so I made it a lot, then one day they were chatting and it became apparent that no one actually liked it, they were laughing about :mums greek pasta bake' I wish they told me a long time ago as I used to think I was giving them a treat!

LagunaBubbles · 02/05/2020 01:20

Why have you ignored everyone asking if you stood up for him? Obviously you never, that's horrible.

dontgobaconmyheart · 02/05/2020 03:21

bloody hell its some bombay potatoes at a buffet and some random colleagues, so much hyperbole on here it's unbelievable.

If it were reversed I would not want DP 'sticking up for me', i'm a bloody adult, if they don't like the potatoes then who really cares. I would be mortified if my DP kicked off in the group chat as my defender over something as pathetic as this. The Jamie Oliver comment and 'bless him' are snide and it reflects poorly but it's hardly high level abuse is it. He is not a small child who has made something that needs to be praised at all costs and him encouraged in case he doesn't lose his confidence. He's an adult man sticking a bit of curry powder on some spuds.

I would want to be told so I didn't waste my time making them again for people that weren't particularly appreciative or if i had been making them in error thinking they were good. I would pass the info on for the same reasons. Maybe OP just means she intends to pass on the fact they THE office potatoes are an ongoing joke, not to actually call her DH a joke or imply he is one as a person. Some of the messages on here calling the office potato haters awful and rude and then calling OP names and saying OP is an awful person, can hardly talk.

1forAll74 · 02/05/2020 04:16

What is the matter with your husbands Bombay potatoes.? A lot of men can't even peel a potato so the special ones will be good,

Willitneverend · 02/05/2020 04:20

I want Bombay potatoes now. Mmm.

grumpyfuckerr · 02/05/2020 04:26

Why aren’t you sticking up for your DH in the chat? Call them out on their nastiness.

Your poor DH. Sad

theneighbourswindchime · 02/05/2020 05:00

Do you hear that?

It's the sound of the OP never returning to her thread.....

Thepigeonsarecoming · 02/05/2020 05:07

Aww I really feel sad for OPs husband, everyone saying yum and then bitching about them. Poor bloke, he tried

LynetteScavo · 02/05/2020 05:19

Do they eat the Bombay potatoes though? If so let him crack on. If not, then he'll see people don't like it and take in a ready made potato salad.
Is Bombay potatoes nice cold? Confused

LEELULUMPKIN · 02/05/2020 05:31

Imagine if the situation was reversed OP.

How bloody hurt (and rightly so) would you be that your DH hadn't defended you?

You sound like you are embarrassed of him.