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To tell DH that his potato’s are a joke?

231 replies

LNPW · 01/05/2020 20:57

DH and I used to work together. We don’t anymore but I’m in touch with the old team. Whenever there was a buffet DH used to make Bombay potatoes which he thought were dead popular. But the staff there just take the piss. The are on about a post lock down buffet and the major joke is DHs potatoes and messages such as “bless him”. DH is excited going on about how he will need to make these potatoes. AIBU to tell him he’s a joke?

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Boopeedoop · 01/05/2020 22:21

I would be going ape at them. What awful people.

Do the potatoes actually get eaten at the buffet?

MagnoliaJustice · 01/05/2020 22:30

What horrible people you used to work with. I wouldn't want to attend any post-lockdown event if they were going and I would make that very clear. Mockery is cruel and you are complicit in not saying anything to defend your husband.

Herpesfreesince03 · 01/05/2020 22:30

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BlueJava · 01/05/2020 22:31

That sounds cruel. Please think about his feelings - would you like it if he was like this to you?

Poppi89 · 01/05/2020 22:37

I think if he confronted them they would know they've got to him and he had no idea - which they might find funnier but if he plays along and keeps going more over the top and then just be lol sorry can't give this going for much longer I've been having you on all this time - then at least he will have his dignity still and they would feel like twats as they were the ones being laughed at.

Sparklesocks · 01/05/2020 22:42

Sounds like your husband is surrounded by mean spirited people

TimeWastingButFun · 01/05/2020 22:43

Sounds really mean. Personally I love BP. Whether you like them or not though, not nice to be siding with people laughing at your husband when you should be doing the opposite and sticking up for him.

SonjaMorgan · 01/05/2020 22:47

I wouldn't and there is no way I would let anyone else talk about my DH like that. I have often baked or cooked for pot lucks. Luckily all of my friends and co-workers seem to appreciate the effort.

MashedSpud · 01/05/2020 22:51

I’d tell them to go fuck themselves....after he’s made Bombay potatoes hotter than the sun.

Have some loyalty to your DH. They probably laugh at you behind your back too the bunch of vipers.

sonjadog · 01/05/2020 22:53

Aww, your poor DH. They sounds really horrible talking about that behind his back and you won't even stick up for him as you "like them". Don't you like him more?

wildcherries · 01/05/2020 22:56

If this is real, then you are being incredibly unreasonable for wanting to tell your husband he's 'a joke' instead of standing up for him. If you like the people that take the piss out of him, then maybe he deserves better than you. This is a sad thread.

He's not popular? So fucking what. Tell them to shut up.

msmith501 · 01/05/2020 22:57

They don't sound very nice. Certainly not the sort of people I would mix with. In an odd way, you are indirectly condoning their behaviour by remaining in the group and saying nothing to defend your husband. Even if his potatoes are brilliant, he makes the effort and sounds delighted to be able to do it again in the future. #bekinderER

Thisismytimetoshine · 01/05/2020 22:59

MashedSpud has a point, op. There's every chance they take the piss out of you too.

Aridane · 01/05/2020 23:00

They sound right shits and you sound unsupportive

SlimBig · 01/05/2020 23:04

Tell them they’re being horrible :(

MovinOnUp · 01/05/2020 23:04

They are arseholes and you are standing by letting them take the piss out of your DH.

Is there something more to this OP?
Is your husband actually a dick and you don't love him anymore?
If not, Why the fuck are you allowing this?

gamerchick · 01/05/2020 23:05

If anyone took the piss out of my husband I would go fucking nuts.

Hence why I think this thread is bollocks. Try harder.

Redglitter · 01/05/2020 23:06

I agree with pp why on earth are you not sticking up for him

FineWordsForAPorcupine · 01/05/2020 23:09

I'm on the fence. On the one hand, these work colleagues sound unkind. On the other...is there any chance your DH is the sort to make a MASSIVE DEAL out of his potatoes, go on about them endlessly, pretend everyone wants the magic recipe, demand praise months after the fact, etc?

If he's just quietly bringing the potatoes in to share, then I apologise :)

Evilcountspatula · 01/05/2020 23:09

Am I the only person wondering what sort of work people do that involves planning a buffet as standard practice? Cakes on a Friday, birthdays etc yes but I'm frankly a bit mind blown at the idea of a full buffet?

Crunchymum · 01/05/2020 23:12

@LNPW

Why are you on the group and your DH isn't?

Yallreadyforthis · 01/05/2020 23:14

Your poor DH

pinacollama · 01/05/2020 23:16

How horrible :(

Keitepeheakoe · 01/05/2020 23:18

Shocking that you haven’t defended him

WarriorsComeOutToPlayay · 01/05/2020 23:22

Right so we have:

  1. A husband/work colleague who likes cooking a potato dish and is looking forward to serving it at a buffet.
  1. Work colleagues who bitch about husband/work colleague.
  1. Wife who knows work colleagues are bitching about husband and whose immediate thought in response is to tell husband he is a joke rather than stand up for him.

I think we can see who seems nice and who are the arseholes in this scenario.