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To tell DH that his potato’s are a joke?

231 replies

LNPW · 01/05/2020 20:57

DH and I used to work together. We don’t anymore but I’m in touch with the old team. Whenever there was a buffet DH used to make Bombay potatoes which he thought were dead popular. But the staff there just take the piss. The are on about a post lock down buffet and the major joke is DHs potatoes and messages such as “bless him”. DH is excited going on about how he will need to make these potatoes. AIBU to tell him he’s a joke?

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SuckingDownDarjeeling · 01/05/2020 21:49

@OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow

Totally agree

Parkandride · 01/05/2020 21:50

Wtf I'd be devastated if people were laughing at my husband Sad

HollowTalk · 01/05/2020 21:50

I feel for your husband. He's making an effort, they are making fun of him and you are standing by.

Ponoka7 · 01/05/2020 21:51

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow, i voted YANBU, but i think it should be done in a kind way. I don't think anyone should be cooking at home and taking the food into work. I'd go from that angle.

Ponoka7 · 01/05/2020 21:52

I also think that the OP will make him a bigger laughing stock if she points out that she's active in the group.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 01/05/2020 21:52

@Ponoka7 I think you missed a large point of the thread. It's not about yay or nay on homemade food...

lottiegarbanzo · 01/05/2020 21:54

Indeed, does your DH tell you that your use of apostrophes is a joke? Or does he let you get on with it and love you anyway?

MissCharleyP · 01/05/2020 21:55

Ohffs66 Me too, they sound like twats. OP, why haven’t you defended him? I wouldn’t even let others talk about a colleague like that without pulling them up on it.

TryingToBeBold · 01/05/2020 21:56

Wait.
So you know he isn't popular. You've presumably listened to their whining and gripes against your husband and.. if your behaviour now is anything to go by, you've not bothered to stand up for him?

Unravelingslowly · 01/05/2020 21:57

I like them. DH is not popular but I don’t want to upset him

Is it YOU he’s not popular with? If not, WTF would you let people talk about someone you love like this?

LovingLola · 01/05/2020 21:58

This did not happen.

mayawaya · 01/05/2020 21:59

Because you are probably a decent person with a fucking clue as to what you do when a loved one is being laughed at for making effort. Have a virtual high five for compassion.

HerRoyalNotness · 01/05/2020 21:59

They sound amazing, the potatoes, not the colleagues. I’d be very happy seeing those on a work buffet.

skybluee · 01/05/2020 21:59

Aww it's horrible to think of him all excited about making them and then they're just laughing behind his back.

Do you like your husband?

B0bbin · 01/05/2020 22:00

They sound a bit horrible, getting all giddy over someone's efforts. A bring- your- own buffet item thing is much nicer if everyone makes something instead of bringing processed crap, imo. I think they need to broaden their horizons.

incognitomum · 01/05/2020 22:02

@LovingLola think you're right. True of lots of threads lately.

mollibu · 01/05/2020 22:03

PLEASE tell us you stood up for your husband after the horrible comment they wrote in the group chat?

This makes me feel so sad for your husband Sad

Elieza · 01/05/2020 22:05

Presumably you’ve said words to the effect of ‘shut up you lot, I like those potatoes my dh makes and at least he makes the effort’.

If you are going to the event I’d ask DH if you could make something together with him so it will be your joint dish, not the potatoes, something different. Then make something you both like and take that.

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FishingPaws · 01/05/2020 22:07

I haven't made Bombay potatoes for ages...

Deal with the bullying, it may be best to report it rather than let them know you're there (if you 'out' yourself, they'll just slither further underground like the slime they are. There will be no consequences)

Queenoftheashes · 01/05/2020 22:07

Ooh burn
Don’t tell him he will be sad. Tell your “mates” they are wankers. You are complicit in your silence. Couldn’t have this, only I may bash my boy toy.

Desertislanddreamer · 01/05/2020 22:09

They sounds horrid! and so are you if you didn’t have his back.
Where’s your loyalty? Certainly ain’t to your dh.

Poppi89 · 01/05/2020 22:13

@GrumpyHoonMain - that's really mean! One thing I can't stand is when a group of people gang up on one person even if they're "just having a laugh" you would think your friends would stick up for you - definitely sounds like jealousy.

SunshineCake · 01/05/2020 22:17

Potato's ? Why. What did the letter e do to deserve being substituted for an apostrophe?Sad

And stand the fuck up for your husband Sad.

Thinkingabout1t · 01/05/2020 22:18

I think we're all agreed on not telling DH people are laughing at him. Not sure whether to confront the bullies, or pinpoint the nastiest and make a fool of him/her (might be difficult).

I'm feeling a strong urge to shove someone's face in the Bombay potatoes, and then say "Can't you take a joke?"