to dislike having showers with your husband/partner

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Have never liked having showers with partners. This applies to husband (married many years) but also to previous boyfriends. I think the reasons are:

1. Shower is the one child-free, quiet, contemplative time in my day.
2. I have a lot to get through! Washing hair, conditioning, shaving underarms, etc.
3. One person always seems to have to stand in the cold while other is under the water. Not comfy even if switch back and forth.

So, my question is: AIBU or do some of you also dislike showers with partner? Just curious!

Unless you have a double shower it’s massively overrated

Is this a thing?, been with my DH 22 years and may have tried this once back in the uni days then realised it was shite and unnecessary. Who says you have to?

Erm, I thought the only reason to share a shower was to have sex?

God no. We’ve tried it and I nearly broke a hip slipping over. Not worth it for some frankly mediocre sex.

Double shower is different, possibly then, yes.

I have never tried this and dont want to!

I tried to have sex in the shower once with an ex years ago. He ended up falling out the bath backwards.

Very occasionally shower with dh if we've stayed at a nice hotel maybe that has a big shower.

Fine if you have a big shower enclosure, otherwise just freezing cold.

In a standard shower? No, yanbu.

Hell no. Been done once or twice in my time but for another reason (sex). To wash? No way

Hell no.I don't want anyone watching me wash or shaving my armpits.

Let's face it:sexy couple showers only exist in films and books.

to dislike having showers with your husband/partner

To be honest, I wouldn't be best pleased if you had sex with my partner in the shower either....

Seriously though, shower sex sounds like an accident waiting to happen. Especially if you're shaving your armpits at the same time.

DH and I usually shower together. We like to wash each other. It seems lonely to be in the shower without him.

You need one of those fancy multi jet showers. Although I always find there's a jet at face height for the full waterboarding treatment.
Basically no. We tried it once on our honeymoon. Cold, slippery and uncomfortable.

I thought so too @velocitygirl7

In my old place I had an amazing shower in my bathroom, my partner and I would shower daily as it was just really nice - we didn’t have sex. We’d also share a bath, just sat either end with a glass of wine. Our current bathroom is just very practical, not luxurious, so it’s just not even been attempted. Much smaller too and now we have two small children, so much like the OP now!

Imo there is absolutely no need to witness the scrubbing of balls and a man's crack...
Call me old fashioned....

Not envy..

popsydoodle4444 - that's what I thought too. It's the sort of thing you see on television - people having shower together in the morning chatting about their day, appearing to be joyful. But here is WaterisWide saying she and DH usually shower together and like to "wash each other"! (horrors)

I'm with you OP. The shower is the one place I get to think my own thoughts; I don't want to be chatting to DH about my day! Also, I like short, almost scaldingly-hot showers, and DH seems to go for long, tepid ones, so I'm not sure we're compatible in that respect! (We've only ever had a bath together once for that reason!)

Its rubbish. You end up in the cold and dry at some point and have to watch your elbows when you shampoo.

@Windyatthebeach .. exactly that !
Nailed it 😂

We do, but it’s a double shower, we clean each others backs and I wash his hair, it isn’t a sex thing.

God no. I don't enjoy shower sex because someone always bangs their elbow, there's never enough room, one person's under the water and the other is half frozen...

I'm genuinely confused. People are doing this past the first few months of a relationship?!