to dislike having showers with your husband/partner

[4Smalls]

Have never liked having showers with partners. This applies to husband (married many years) but also to previous boyfriends. I think the reasons are:

1. Shower is the one child-free, quiet, contemplative time in my day.
2. I have a lot to get through! Washing hair, conditioning, shaving underarms, etc.
3. One person always seems to have to stand in the cold while other is under the water. Not comfy even if switch back and forth.

So, my question is: AIBU or do some of you also dislike showers with partner? Just curious!

Yes I think they're overrated. The only time I've ever been in a shower that was actually comfortably big enough for two people was when I stayed in a hotel last year. I had reuested a disabled access room,I'm not in a wheelchair but I have bad arthritis and find normal sized hotel showers very difficult to maneuver myself in. I was on my own though so didn't get to share it with anyone!

I wouldn't ever do this to actually shower, it would feel weird cleaning my bits in front of DH as there are just some things you don't need to see. We shower together for other reasons though.

Me and my husband always showered together! I did used to have the occasional shower to my self as I like the water really really hot and men don’t because they are the weaker sex

There’s a considerable hight difference between DH and I so anything other than broadly horizontal sex has always been a non starter.

Well it’s for sex isn’t it not for actually having a shower, I think you have your wires crossed. Why would you get in a shower with someone else to wash? I can’t think
Of anything worse than washing him washing his bits flipping around everywhere.

Belongs in the movies. Not for me, thanks.

Tried it once many decades ago when me and DH first got together. He has dyspraxia and was so clumsy I felt at risk of injury and got out sharpish. He was slipping and sliding and walloping me with stray elbows. Never tried again.

Wash each other? What is this fuckery?

Of all the places to attempt sex a shower is one that would be left in the movies. Hard surfaces to bang elbows/knees and heads against, cold, and damp. Wet skin against cold wet skin isn't particularly pleasant either.

The thought of having a shower and wash each other just sounds gross to me. Do you really give all your nooks and crannies a good scrub when you are being watched? Or even worse do each others 🤮

nah...not at home thanks...in my tiny cubicle!

save it for best ...in a smart hotel with plenty of water pressure and hot water.

and yes...just who is flanneling down their other halves and thinking it's nice, that would give me flashbacks to hosing down small children and really kill the mood.

Nope, just nope

Nope, definitely overrated.

I have never done this and don't want to. I have far too much to be getting on with in terms of hair/body washing, exfoliating, leg shaving etc. I suppose if you go in for sex and then have a second shower alone for the proper scrub? But what a faff. It's a no from me.

Ugh I had a DP like this. Not just for sex he just liked to share a shower so he could watch me wash as he found it sexy. I think he assumed I found it sexy washing him scrub his balls. No I did not. And it was cold watching him too.

It's a no from me. Even in a big shower.

I think grown ups washing each other is just weird as fuck to be honest. Only time my husband and I have ever showered together was when we thought we’d try have sex in the shower - Which was a fail as he’s too tall and actually, water pounding on my head, practically fucking drowning me, doesn’t turn me on in the way it does in the films apparently

Imo there is absolutely no need to witness the scrubbing of balls and a man's crack...

Ahem exactly. it's nice to retain a little bit of mystery in a relationship and there are some things I really don't need to know. Plus he would really hinder my X Factor auditions.

Did try it once in the early years but there's almost a foot height difference between us so it didn't end well.

Good God, no thanks! I don't want some other bugger in my shower.

I can’t shower with husband as he does not have the water hot enough!! Same with the bath I run one get in he would love to get in but he says it would burn him!! Light weight!!

No not for me

Depends on whether you're showering to get clean or to get dirty surely?

Nope. I go in the bathroom, I lock the door and no one else is welcome. I don't know which is worse, sharing your shower or not having a lock on the bathroom door next.

We did it a few times when we first got together. It's sort of OK if you're drunk. Def one of those things where imagination than reality.

These days it would just irritate me, not enough space to move, awkward and stupid, someone flinging water around and it flicking into my eyes. Makes me feel annoyed just thinking about it.

We like to wash each other

WTAF???

Why would anyone want to share their shower with anyone else? It's a private thing - washing and shaving and moisturising. Is nothing sacrosanct any more?

*imagination is better than reality.