to dislike having showers with your husband/partner

[4Smalls]

Have never liked having showers with partners. This applies to husband (married many years) but also to previous boyfriends. I think the reasons are:

1. Shower is the one child-free, quiet, contemplative time in my day.
2. I have a lot to get through! Washing hair, conditioning, shaving underarms, etc.
3. One person always seems to have to stand in the cold while other is under the water. Not comfy even if switch back and forth.

So, my question is: AIBU or do some of you also dislike showers with partner? Just curious!

This thread has made me laugh so much, 'cascading water' - I have tears in my eyes from laughing.

A lot of my hair falls out when I wash it. I can just imagine long hair falling all over our bodies as the water wouldn't be able to rinse off the hairs properly.

A friend of mine once dated somebody for about six months who jumped into the shower as soon as he had climaxed shouting that he needed a shower as he was 'unclean'. Does that count? :) She eventually broke up with him by which time she had accumulated tonnes of Boots products and her confidence was in shreds!

Oh I like it.
Not every time, and not for sex either, its just nice occasionally.

@theschoolonthehill maybe you could multitask and make a blanket from the hair to cuddle in afterwards. Woman can multitask you know 😂

Or DH could scoop up a handful from the drain and cellotape it over his heart so he'd feel close to my head all day. A new love language perhaps!

@theschoolonthehill this is leading to a horror story plot, DH scoops up the hair (along with other bodily fluids). Cellotapes it to his chest. It grows into a conscious evil being and takes over DH. God help us!!! Please don’t shower with anyone!

Water sex, you know, in a hot tub/chavvy sex pond or a pool or lake or sea. Just bad.

Like a previous poster, I also had a romantic scene (not really, we were both very drunk) become a horror film scene with a ONS. We got this bright idea that I would clench my legs round his waist in the shower, my arms up holding the rod, and have sex.

Only our balance was terrible. He fell backwards, opening up a cut on his head and breaking his tailbone on the way down. I fractured my wrist and also opened up my elbow on the other arm.

There was no help for it, I had to ring an ambulance as he was struggling with consciousness. He was still in the bath tub, I couldn't lift him up, obviously (turned shower off and got him as dried as I could, which wasn't much, and slung a towel over him.

I just opened the door in my dressing gown and told them the truth, as I had over the phone. I did manage to point out his clothes on the floor for them to take with us.

'How much have you had to drink tonight?' 'A lot! A whole, whole lot!'

Reader, he made a full recovery, as did I, although I never saw him again. Niall from County Meath, if you're reading this, that was some night!

My DH showered with me so he could shave my legs when I was pregnant, had terrible Carple tunnel in both wrists and couldn’t bend or use my hands. Does that count?

He also put my socks on each morning and did my buttons like i was a small child.

@Biscuit0110 in fairness I normally know he'll come in at some point as I ask him to make me a cup of coffee before I get in. If I was bothered I'd lock the door.

I love having a shower with my partner, washing each other then some cheeky sex

This makes me want to put at least 3 locks on the bathroom door.

I like doing it at least once with a new partner, early on, when it’s all exciting to see them fully naked etc. But even then the imagination is slightly better than the reality.

Once in a relationship I have never, ever had a shower with a partner for washing reasons and would never want to!!

Not shower, but we have a big bath and get in that together a couple of times a week, we also wash each other.

God no. Dh would spend the whole shower with his boner poking into me. Plus I like it scalding hot and he's weak - his showers are lukewarm at best.

My showers are nothing like @WaterIsWide 's either. It's not just soaping and getting out. I shave, I wash and condition my hair, I wash my face, wash body, I exfoliate, I brush my teeth, I use an in shower moisturiser.

@TinRoofRusty 😂😂😂

All this ‘ washing each other’ talk is putting me right off my Coco Pops.
It’s bringing to mind something on a David Attenborough documentary about primates or something.

Eeughww

@TinRoofRusty I love everything about your post but the fact you never saw each other again after your 'experience' is just hilarious

I did agreed to shower sex once, but on the condition it was hands-free so he could sort out the grouting at the same time.

My ex used to walk in whilst I was in the shower or bath. Happy for some fucking privacy and a minute to myself now.

chavvy sex pond

A chavvy sex pond? Dear God. Where have I been all these years? Can anyone please explain what is a chavvy sex pond and where do you find one?

On the rare occasion we're child free, it's nice. But in a "She does her shaving, hair washing and all that stuff, then we kind have a nice couple of minutes in there together, then she gets out while I do my stuff" kind of way. Then any actual sex can happen somewhere more practical where we're less likely to fall over or one of us gets cold.

Besides, she has the water FAR too cold.

I guess it counts as foreplay then. But it's not really "showering together." Like the OP says, you just get in each other's way.

I think you would struggle to get a sex pond in the current climate. All sold out.

I shared a shower with my 3yo on a campsite in France. She announced to the busy washroom "mummy your tummy is all wobbly like a jelly..."

Shower sex is uncomfortable and overrated and the only sex on the beach I've enjoyed is the cocktail.

Such a shame to read some of the negative reports here. You are missing a lot of fun. But you do need a suitable shower room.

Hate shower sex, don't mind it sometimes, climbed in the other day when I was drunk and he was showering