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Help- DD12 sent nudes! Should I go to the police?

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Tinkerbellone · 29/04/2020 19:22

My DD12 was pressured via instagram to send nudes. The person was not anyone she knew but they direct messaged her.
She was bombarded with explicit texts and pictures. She felt harassed to send.
She was terrified.
We have always had talks about e-safety. Privacy.
What do I do? She's tearful and emotional. I've stayed calm and listened.
Do I call the police? Will social services be involved? I admit I'm scared as to what to do!

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Tinkerbellone · 29/04/2020 19:24

Please be kind. I'm a good mum. I adore my children. This happened whilst I was asleep about midnight. She went on her phone without me knowing.

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 29/04/2020 19:24

Yes go to police. That person posseses indecent pics of a minor.

Stuffofawesome · 29/04/2020 19:25

Yes report. That person needs to be stopped

DoesJeffKnow · 29/04/2020 19:25

Definitely call the police, who knows who else this vile person will target, by notifying the police you could spare another child the trauma that your DD has gone through.

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MaureenMLove · 29/04/2020 19:26

Yes, phone the police and do not look at the pictures.

TwistyHair · 29/04/2020 19:26

Well it’s brilliant that she told you. I wouldn’t know what to do I’m afraid. Police sounds a good idea if your daughter is on board with that. Social services may well be informed. What about phoning nspcc helpline?

Fred578 · 29/04/2020 19:26

Absolutely report this to the Police. You also need to get counselling for your DD. Was her face in any of the pictures?

ilikebigbuttsandicannotlie · 29/04/2020 19:26

If she was harassed and pressured, then speak to the police as they have definitely done it to others and will continue to do so. What they have possession of is classed as child pornography.

TubereuseNordlys · 29/04/2020 19:26

Yes, police.

Poor little thing Sad

AlwaysCheddar · 29/04/2020 19:26

Police yes as the photos will be shared and your dd needs protecting and the evil scum need investigating. Keep her phone and laptop and fine delete anything.

mrsmalcolmreynolds · 29/04/2020 19:26

Contact police and remove your DD's phone. There's nothing she can actually need it for in lockdown and unfortunately she's clearly not equipped to have unsupervised internet access at the moment.

Fred578 · 29/04/2020 19:27

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mbosnz · 29/04/2020 19:27

Absolutely the police - and you and your daughter have a good relationship, where she felt safe to tell you. She has done nothing wrong, and neither have you.

TwistyHair · 29/04/2020 19:27

And you’re not to blame. I’m sure you’re a good mum because she told you.

GrumpyHoonMain · 29/04/2020 19:27

Call the police. Whether the person on the other side is an adult or a minor he will need to sign on some kind of sex register or be prosecuted for child sex offences depending on the country.

ChangeThePassword · 29/04/2020 19:27

So sorry you and she is dealing with this. This is a predator, preying on underage girls. You absolutely need to report. You'll be helping stop other girls go through this in the future.

Nottherealslimshady · 29/04/2020 19:28

Yes police. Without doubt.

Lostvoiced · 29/04/2020 19:28

Yes you should report.
Even if social services do get involved they will understand that your daughter was pressured. Unfortunately I'm sure they will have seen this a lot.
I feel very sad for your poor daughter. Sad

What this person has done is a crime, and they should be punished.

Rubywhox · 29/04/2020 19:28

Go to the police and no don’t worry about social services !

AlwaysCheddar · 29/04/2020 19:28

Also tell your dd not to tell any of her friends now. She doesn’t want to get bullied too.

MyTwoLeftFeet · 29/04/2020 19:29

Yes I would contact police in this situation. This isn't a school kid mistake that can be handled by school/parents she was deliberately targeted by a (probably adult) stranger. Poor DD.

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peperethecat · 29/04/2020 19:29

Yes, tell the police immediately.

Delbelleber · 29/04/2020 19:30

Of course you should go to the police.

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