Help- DD12 sent nudes! Should I go to the police?

[Tinkerbellone]

My DD12 was pressured via instagram to send nudes. The person was not anyone she knew but they direct messaged her.
She was bombarded with explicit texts and pictures. She felt harassed to send.
She was terrified.
We have always had talks about e-safety. Privacy.
What do I do? She's tearful and emotional. I've stayed calm and listened.
Do I call the police? Will social services be involved? I admit I'm scared as to what to do!

Of course you must go to the police. It’s a criminal offence. How would you not know this?

Oops sorry, didn’t RTFT.

Well done OP. I’m glad the police were sensitive and kind. Really hope they can be tracked down. I remember being talked in to something similar online when I was a similar age - it is a form of grooming and child abuse.

Sounds good op. Wishing you both the best ongoing.

Your poor DD shes the victim here as far as the Police are concerned. But as abuse its a very bad thing, this organisation is more concerned with images that are already online but its worth a look to see what they do and perhaps a small donation towads that?

www.iwf.org.uk/

When something similar happened to the child of a friend,the police were nothing but kind,understanding and supportive. Your girl will be so much easier in her mind knowing that she has both you and them having her back. Well done,OP.

@Weregoingonanadventure how has ops daughter committed a crime? She’s below the age of consent and has been coerced.

I'm so glad to hear such a positive update. I'm sorry for what your daughter has experienced, but it's so lovely that she feels safe enough to come to you in her scariest moments. The best to you both.

Your daughter (and you) are being so brave in such a horrible situation. Thank you for the update and stay strong - no doubt there will be rocky days ahead but you will find a way through each challenge together. Sending love xx

The fact that you were there for her when things went badly wrong will stay with her. Well done for reporting

Awe bless her , I think she has been very sensible and brave. I think I would have kept quiet about it all , possibly with disastrous consequences ahead. I think you should be very proud of her .

@isittooearlyforgin it's been explained many times on this thread already, that the child has indeed broken the law. It's also been explained no legal action will be taken, however PP were trying to arm the OP with as much info as they could, even if the truth is hard to digest.

So happy to read your update. You sound like a really lovely mum and she obviously trusts you and loves you a lot which is great especially at that age!

Hi op. I just want to say how lucky your daughter is to have such a lovely mum you sound like you have dealt with this brilliantly and it's clear you have such a good bond that she felt able to come to you with it. I'm glad the police have been to see ye and that your daughter is feeling better. Take care both of you x

Yes, you should, because the perv will go on to harass other girls. And no-one should be mad at you, the only bad person here is the one who pressurises a 12-YEAR-OLD CHILD into sending nudes, the paedo.

Just wanted to add that it's great she came to you - I never felt comfortable talking to my mum about stuff like that. Make sure she doesn't tell friends because if it gets out kids will be nasty!

I'm sorry this has happened. As a teacher, I see this far too often.

Yes, definitely go to the police. Tell your daughter not to delete anything that was sent to her, but not to look at it again.

Also, just so you have all the information, the police could technically say that your daughter has created explicit images of children. It's rare that the police follow this route, but just so you're aware.

All of the hugs!

Well done. I read your update. So glad that the police acted quickly and sensitively. Your daughter has a Mum she can trust, and who has her back.

Echoing others it is great your DD came to you for help. Many preteens are to scared to tell, they get blackmailed into continuing the supply.

Yes tell the police. Poor love.

Sorry I missed your update. Well done both of you. 💐

Dear God you lot are ridiculous. NOBODY is victim blaming and NOBODY is calling the child a criminal. If you can't accept the legal facts and actual advice because it's an emotive subject then you aren't mature enough to be involved in this discussion.

@@isittooearlyforginjust because you can't handle the truth, doesn't mean its wrong. That is legal fact and has been explained numerous times on the thread. It's not an opinion but fact.

But isn't that like telling a 12 year old who's been raped that she could be done for underage sex if she reported it?

Grooming is the offence here. Under different circumstances then sending explicit photos would be illegal, but the fact she's been groomed makes all the difference.

@HollowTalk But isn't that like telling a 12 year old who's been raped that she could be done for underage sex if she reported it?

No, not at all. Have you even read all the replies that explained it? Nobody, NOBODY is saying anything like that. They are preparing the OP for that so she can go to the cops with all information. The child would NOT be considered a criminal as has been said multiple times. People can't handle the true facts on here so they spin them to make their own drama up.