'We're pregnant'

[shesgrownhorns]

AIBU to hate this? You're not BOTH pregnant, only one of you is!

Agree with you OP. Makes me cringe 😬

I agree it’s cringe.

It's kind of a trite phrase but I also hate this overly worrying about the exact wording other people use.

Definitely cringey. Unless there is some way to share the side-effects/labour ect then definitely only one of you is pregnant.

Cringe! Some men have to make everything about themselves and some women just love to enable them.

My husband's family are the worst for this. And it extends to weirder things. Having grown up with that language around him, it's taken me a while to get him out of the habit... it drives me nuts when he talks about our birth plan, us breastfeeding the baby, us not being given enough pain relief after previous c section etc etc... I'm like, dude, did you really feel like YOU needed more pain relief after my major surgery??

Thankfully it's lessening with every passing pregnancy (MY pregnancies, not HIS or OURS!), so there is hope for these sorts...!

Makes me a little stabby

So very naff! Immediately makes the couple look like complete twits.

Thankfully I have yet to hear it in rl.

Surely there’s much more to get your knickers in a twist about @shesgrownhorns 🙄 Just let people have their fun if they want and you can scoff all you want.

‘We are having a baby’ is better but tbh I’d just be happy for them rather than worrying about semantics

So cringe!

As far as I was concerned it was our pregnancy - I hardly did it by myself after all.

Much bigger things to worry about :)

I have caught myself saying this (), but only when I've been telling a story that includes a lot of "we" in it... e.g. "we were planning on going to Timbuktu but then we found out we were pregnant so we pushed it back a year" etc.

It’s just the worst!

I’m pregnant and have hyperemesis. I’d love if “we” could have hyperemesis (so DH could actually understand how bad I feel), but unfortunately it’s only me.

If your wife got a terminal illness, would these men go about saying "we are dying"? No. So why is pregnancy suddenly a shared experience?

My reply to "we're pregnant" is " What? Both of you???At the same time. and you a man as well..congratulations"

I'm going to start telling people I've been pregnant three times (hence my username) and see how they react.

YANBU I loathe that daft expression too 😉

I don't mind saying 'We're expecting'. We are both expecting the birth of a child.

It's simpering and wet

Can't stand it and I always assume the woman is in a controlling or abusive relationship. I have no basis for this just what I automatically think.

I hate it - what's wrong with "we are expecting a baby".

It establishes unquestionably, that a person who utters these works is an utter twat.

@Spiffingly
Yes 😂
Imagine a man saying , we are premenstrual, or we are having our period, or we are peri menopausal 🤣
They may be both expectant parents but they are definitely not both pregnant.

Agree with you 100% OP.